Abusive relationships show up in fiction way more often than many of us suspect. In fact, they are often presented as romance.
Even in real life, abusive relationships often look romantic. That may seem surprising, but that confusion leads many victims to stay in terrible relationships. When you love someone a lot, it can be hard to tell the difference. Even in fiction, abusive relationships are a big problem because they contribute to the normalization of abuse.
Normalization of domestic abuse is a serious problem. People have lost their lives. If our fiction presents abuse as unnatural, it will be easier for victims to recognize real-life abuse and get help.
Before we dive in, I want to note that this guide is not intended to help determine whether or not a real relationship is abusive. I am not qualified to offer that kind of help, so if you’re worried that a relationship may be abusive, please seek professional help.
Abuse occurs in a cycle
Aw, hi Mel! We're doing okay, for the most part. This whole crazy Covid business means we're actually working more hours, since our job is considered essential. I've been doodling, and trying to get back into the swing of things, but dA mobile app hasn't been letting me upload any deviations. 🙄 I need to get a laptop or something. Hopefully Grizzly won't be such a scroogeball and let me buy one. I've really missed you and Mist. How are you both and Shel getting by in all this? I hope you're staying safe!
So many are out of work! It's good that you are still working. I have heard that the mobile app for Eclipse has issues. I am sorry to hear that. Yeah I hope you get a laptop or something soon! MIsty is home, since he works at the schools, but he is still being paid. He's meeting with parents and agencies using Zoom. Everything is super duper! Misty and Shel are busy working on their cabin, making it a comfortable home. Mistgod just celebrated his 55th birthday yesterday.