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Asexual Awareness Day [Estelle's Pride] by Vivyi Asexual Awareness Day [Estelle's Pride] by Vivyi
Drew this for Asexual Awareness day back on May 23rd. I was pretty happy and confident drawing this for myself and others of the asexual spectrum <3 I'm still really embarrassed about this, but I'm still doing this... because I feel it should be done. I"d like to hear your thoughts about this as well! :D

Asexuals are 1% of the population, so I've heard. (Much like INFJs! ) But we have a voice too, and one that should be shared <3 If you have any questions, feel free to write me a note or write a question below (depends how personal it is).

As for what my label is, I am not a full on asexual. I'm a Biromantic Gray-asexual. I recommend educating yourself on asexuality as much as you can <3 It's good to get an understanding for it.

In any case, the only changes here are this picture... and maybe a change on my profile. I want to be a little more open than I've been... and I'm really nervous about this... so I hope this goes well? /crossesfingers
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Obelis Featured By Owner Apr 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Asexual flag has such an elegant color combination~ :heart:
As far as I know, lesbians don't have their one official flag, right? :ohnoes:

She looks so enthusiastic here. :la: Like a little child preparing for a long awaited birthday.
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I know right? The colors are so beautiful, and I was thinking that too :heart: I really love the idea of wearing those colors, makes me proud to wear a color scheme like that! I actually have a suit set in that color scheme XD I call it my "ace suit." LOL

I don't know :noes: I think they have a couple different ones, though the popular one is the gay flag that also counts as the symbol of the LGBT community. XD

Awww XD That is the cutest most innocent imagery.
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank yoooou <333 I love how this picture turned out~ x3

I never realized that... LOL COOOOOL~ :XD: I'm terrible at math, so calculating the rarity of things has never been my virtue.

It was back on May 23rd (Or 22nd? )... but  there's also Ace Visibility Week on the 8th. Then in October, is Asexual Awareness Week. So I'm really late... but oh well :XD:
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow! High five! :highfive: You're the third ace I've met on here! (Maybe the fourth) Aces are really hard to find... that's why I came out in the first place. I've been pretty fortunate in finding asexual friends on here... I guess it's just sheer luck :XD: I was pretty bold coming out myself...

Thank you <333 The reason Estelle was chosen for this picture, was because she's a definite full-on asexual herself. I kinda think I could get away having an asexual character in my book, because I honestly don't see Estelle ever getting married or having offspring... it's just not very "Estelle" like, if you get my drift. (It could also explain why Estelle just doesn't care about the throne... ) I think to counter this, Mae should be Demisexual... but that's currently undecided. I kinda see Mae having a family and children more than Estelle. You should totally show me if you've done something like that with Cybelle! I'd love to see it! :love: Only if you're comfortable with it, though <333
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TakaraYuuki Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Student General Artist
:highfive: yay! Yeah, we're few and far between, and I have to say I'm a bit more reserved about it than I like. It is great to bump into others though (in fact it's kind of a relief too! XD ). You're pretty brave ^^

Yay, you know, I think it's awesome that you have an asexual character that's so well thought out. Literature needs more of them (there are like...nearly none from what I've read) and I get what you mean, I think I need to read a little more and get to properly know Estelle better though! (I can now I'm finally free xD). Yeah, its nice to have a good range of different characters ^^ I like knowing what all of mine are even if I don't tell the reader ^^

Maybe I'll finish Cybelle's and put it up on dA (I'm always kind of worried about certain people seeing it, but I guess I'm just being a bit paranoid, I doubt they'd react too badly even if they did) besides, Cye's another clear ace (although she's a hetroromantic like me) so it only seems appropriate ^^
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Hehe, thank you <3 Maybe brave, but stupid. :XD: My parents just think it's another phase... and worse- not willing to educate themselves on the matter. I thought they understood what I meant, but they're just being judgmental. Other than that, practically no backlash on the web... maybe I lost 1 watcher... but that could be my imagination as well!

What's funny is that I was unintentionally writing Estelle as asexual. (at first) Then when I realized how asexual she sounded, I figured I'd take advantage of the situation and write her romantic life like that. Estelle is a tiny bit different from my orientation: "Heteroromantic, full on Asexual, and sex-repulsed" must I choose to label her. It's a relatively new thing... so I don't think the original story will reflect her wishes that much (although the ending makes more sense when you think about her orientation: she gives up something that had always made her feel conflicted, in more ways than one. ) I think the updated story will have some more background stories for characters other than just Estelle, but also give a sense for why Estelle did what she did.

It's totally normal to feel paranoid about it. I certainly was when I put this up <3 I think what helped was having the encouragement from my friends... and some people on deviant art. I'm biromantic myself... so that felt even worse. :XD: But I feel so much better describing myself as "Biromantic" than anything else... and the more I think about it, the more I'm certain this is my sexuality (The "Gray-asexual" part too). But you should definitely consider at least uploading to your stash, or something, if you're too afraid to upload it to your profile.. and maybe send me a PM or something. I'd love to see it. <3 Cybelle's a great character... I enjoy her a lot. I can't wait to finish her story! :D <3
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TakaraYuuki Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Student General Artist
You're welcome. Oh its not stupid at all, to be honest I think a lot of people get that problem with people around them when they come out (to be honest, its part of the reason I never told mine). Hopefully time will pass and they might give you an easier time about it ^.^ but hey, whatever happens, power to you for living the way that makes you happy, nobody can take that away from you :)

You know, I did exactly the same thing with some of my characters xD Its funny how they just decide things about themselves sometimes xD The little I know about her, I find Estelle really interesting (and certainly now quite relatable)...you're making me want to continue reading now and find out what happens to her...xD and I shall... Even if it takes me a while xD I hope your new version of the story is going well, by the way ^^

I guess its just a result of past experiences, I mean, I know my family Google me from time to time to see my work and I guess one of them I'd rather not have the conversation with >.> although I guess being hetroromantic makes it a bit easier, its easier to hide. I can only imagine how nerve wracking it can be for others >.< but you know what? You've inspired me to finish the painting ;)if nothing else I'll finish it, but I think it's time to swallow my fears and upload it (I guess everybody will find out when Heart of Night comes out anyway...)
Oh, and I'm so glad to hear you like Cybelle! You know, I always used to think she was too easy to hate xD It really brightens my day when someone tells me they're enjoying my story and characters! ^^
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I  think the problem is just that they're uneducated. They're generally pretty non judgmental about everything otherwise. I  think I did manage to finally convince my mom otherwise, giving her some of the basic facts. She FINALLY realized, it's not a phase, and that I'm happy about this. She even said she could relate. I told her to educate herself, and talk to dad about it... he's generally more passive about things like that... it's a  battle to get them to understand, but I think things are finally going my way, the more I push it at them.

Thank you <3 Her Asexual side doesn't get covered a lot, but it certainly effects some of her life's choices. If she's going to be swayed, it's not going to be by sexual desire. It's why she clearly doesn't care what Otto does with his romantic life, despite still feeling strongly romantically for him on some level. She also doesn't understand what marriage truly means to someone. At first, when I wrote these facts about her character... they never made sense to me... then I realized: Estelle's a solitary creature, and she might be happier by herself, than being in a relationship. She might desire a non intrusive relationship, where she's in charge of what goes on, and controls  what can happen, and what can't. (This isn't always an asexual trait, but as far as I know: Any relationship that has / will happen for me,  I want to make sure people respect my limits, which means: no is no for sex, kissing if I really trust you, hugs and cuddles are okay. ) And by golly: I do not see her having kids. :XD: Not ever. Hence why I think Estelle is asexual :XD:

That's understandable. I was really scared when I thought I was bisexual, and came out to my parents about that... but they took it pretty well, and it turned out someone in my family was bisexual too. :XD: People are generally pretty accepting on here too. I mean... it turned out like 4-5 of my watchers including yourself were asexual too :XD: LOL So I lost basically no watchers, other than one person (and I'm not even sure about that XP ... it could just be my imagination! ) Doesn't mean I wasn't incredibly nervous coming out, though. It's easier when you're already heteroromantic, but it can still be tough for several reasons. I think you should totally do it though, but only when you're ready <3 There's no pressure to do it (many asexuals choose to never come out, because so many people are like: "Oh it's just a phase" or "You'll die alone" and stuff like that. But that's only from people who are ignorant, and if they're going to be judgmental, chances are, they're not a very good friend, and shouldn't be in your life. ) but if you really feel it's right for you, and you want to be acknowledged, then wear your asexual pride ;) There's no stopping you from expressing who you are, and the life you want to live.

I've been really bad about reading books in general lately, but hearing about your characters makes me want to read more about them <3 I wouldn't worry about Cybelle being a hateful character... assassins are tricky to write, especially as protagonists! She sounds like a very intriguing character thus far... and when I start to read books again, I'm going to definitely read your book. I just wish I could tear myself away from the computer... LOL I'm too addicted :XD:
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TakaraYuuki Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2015  Student General Artist
Sorry my reply to this is so late. All the hiatus...all of it >.< 

I'm glad to hear things are improving on the parents front, I still think you're really brave for being able to come out as ace! (Still haven't told mine, but  guess what they don't know can't hurt em) A lot of the problem when you tell people just seems to be lack of knowledge, I'm sure things will go well with time (considering how long it's taken me to get back to you, perhaps they even have!). 

I love how well you've thought out her character like that, and how her asexuality affects parts of her life. I think I sort of relate to her a little on some of those things xD I must apologise, again due to my inexcusable absence, for how behind I am reading your work! I shall have to pick Netheron back up again as soon as I can. Hopefully it'll be a little easier to do so now xD

Your words are very encouraging ^.^ ah, time has passed and I sort of decided I...half came out. Still haven't told my parents but being hetroromantic, I guess they don't need to know (its not something we really talk about, haha!). Decided it was best to just be chilled about it, tell people who need to know and and those who ask politely :D Hehe, everyone is kind of nice about it (my best friend calls me a sea sponge, but she's my best friend and we banter like sisters, we both know she means well). I wear my ace pride stuff now too :D my Creed has always been 'I do what I like and I like what I do' so ;) I'm not without the odd problem, but hey, is anyone? 

Ahh, I hope you enjoyed it! Haha, Cye seems to be liked by readers a lot more than I expected! I'm not complaining though, it makes me happy! :) aw, I kinda did the opposite! XD Abandoned DA for months and burrowed into my pile of books and manuscripts xD

Finally, I hope you are well, it's been ages since we talked :) 
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Aww it's totally okay! :heart: I totally understand :) I've managed to balance my writing time with art time and deviant art time. I make the most out of the time I got, and I'm currently doing Nanowrimo with the sequel and will have three projects to work on afterwards <3

Well, honestly-  a long time ago, I already came out to them as bisexual and they were perfectly fine with that. They just got a double dose of coming out, and telling them my real orientation the second time was easier than the last. Now I'm starting to think I'm actually an Asexual Lesbian instead, because of my high amount of interest in pursuing a lesbian relationship, verses my zero interest in pursuing a male-oriented relationship, hahaha :XD:

It actually wasn't on purpose at first! :XD: Although in my journey of writing her, she managed to share my orientation (Biromantic Asexual) minus the Gray-asexual part. :XD: She was actually originally going to be aromantic, but then Marcilyn fell into the picture, and I couldn't resist pairing her up in a lesbian relationship with Marcilyn. :XD: Sometimes, those things just happen I guess... hahaha~ Aww it's  totally okay, I totally get it! It's actually highly outdated now... I have a new book coming out in 2016 summer, which is the prequel, and then I'm modifying the original book for the changes. I changed my audience slightly, which I hope is okay, because Netheron was originally a project for school, anyhow! :XD:

Aww thank you! <3 I'm not completely out myself. Only 2 of my friends, out of my 3 friends know about it... as do my parents, but  there's not a whole lot of other people I can tell at the moment, for the reasons that no one else really knows me yet at the college :XD: If it came up, I would tell them and be honest, even if they turn out to be ignorant. I don't care what other people think of me anymore- I nanowrimo on the bus all the time with my sequel, which has some scenes with Marcilyn and Estelle that are borderline romantic. As long as I have friends who are accepting of me, what's there to lose?

I really did! The ending from what I remember was very intriguing and unexpected- and Cybelle I've grown to like as a character c: I'll have to remember to give her a draw sometime <3 She's super interesting! I think you've managed to touch her up as a unique, well done character. She's like what you would call a "kuudere" in anime :XD: Cold at first site, but warm as you get to know her. I think that's a really likeable quality. I also really loved your world-building and your structure for the different types of creatures that show up in the story. Some really neat ideas, I think :D There were a few errors I've managed to find, but I'm sure you're well aware of that. Usually I'd spot the small ones.

I've been great, actually <3 Thank you for asking. c: I hope my comment is not too long for you :XD: Hahahaha
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Edited Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you <3 I worked really hard on it!

The asexual flag is purple, white, gray, and black... those were the colors used for this picture. And some people in America speak openly about sexuality... but there's still a lot of judging involved, which is why I was really nervous posting this. Asexuality is such a minority here, that many don't ever speak about it... in fear that others will judge them. I even got told by my own parents ( who are very non judgmental) that it was just a "stage" and "it would pass." It took a little bit of talking and informing, but I think they understand now. 

If you need to know the definition of asexuality, be sure to let me know as well and I'll try to sum it up best I can.
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lydia-san Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ooh.. Yes I've ever heard about the judgement and stuffs... and ppl saying that it's just a phase.
Aw yes please I really would like to know! Or perhaps there's a good website where I can learn more? :XD:
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Ah! Let me link you to a few good ones to learn from!

Aven is a great place to start!

www.asexuality.org/home/

Then there's wikipedia~

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuali…

Asexual Archive is something I've recently discovered a while back. It has some great information regarding asexuality. They don't censor the facts, so be fair warned if it talks about some rather interesting topics. :XD:

www.asexualityarchive.com/

The Huffington Post has some great articles revolving around Asexuality as well.

www.huffingtonpost.com/news/as…

Then Tumblr is good for all-around knowledge of asexuality and asexual slang. Just search "Asexual" or "Asexuality" in the tags.
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lydia-san Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I've read them!! and yes they gave me visions...
but now I'm confused. The statement that asexual ppl dont have interest in having sex and stuff.. tbh, I feel that too. My BF was confused sometimes, thinking it would need some time, because I'm not accustomed to sex.. but well, it seems to be a problem til now. Then am I considered asexual too? But I do want a family, I want to marry, to have children and beautiful, nice family. To be loved (by a man) and I can feel something warm and comfortable when he's with me. Well no butterflies, but I love him and that's all I know. I love him but I don't want to have sex with him... strange indeed. When I was younger I once had an urge to have the thing but then I restrained it over and over again until I didn't feel anything. And the sensations never came back to me.
Will I be considered being 'asexual' in your country?
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Looking back on my comment I gave you... I've realized how poorly constructed it really was. I wrote it in a rush without checking any of my research to make sure my facts were true... so what you have is a bunch of blobbed up messes of random gibberish... and this is so embarrassing to me, I'm probably going to hide that comment, and give you a more fact-based answer. I tried to keep it short... but I'm sure I failed at that. OTL

First I'll write from my head... then I'll check the facts. I am so sorry Lydia... OTL Please excuse my scrambled up brain. I have a really bad way of putting things sometimes... so if some of my facts are inaccurate, it's because I can only hold up so much in my head. I just hope you're doing okay, and I haven't done too much damage to your self-esteem... (or your relationship!)  I just hope you can forgive my scattered up brain... I have a memory problem as well... so the smart thing would be to take everything I say with a grain of salt. The best thing you can do for your relationship, is to continue to be happy with your husband... and try to get him to understand the situation. You're confused at this moment in time... and that's okay... that's normal! I was very confused for a very long time... I thought I might link this article as well: www.asexualityarchive.com/poss… if you can relate to a lot of these things, chances are you might be asexual. But if you're not relating to these things, than it's probably just your first time. I've never had sex, so I have no clue about these things... but from what I heard, it's pretty natural to be rather "reluctant" to have sex the first time, for some people.

If you're not happy with the fact you haven't had sex yet, chances are... you may not be asexual... because an asexual might be like: "Meh, whatever" to the topic of sex. (I am actually like that, in fact. ) Many asexuals don't care about having children either, though for myself, I do plan to adopt. If you want children, but don't want sex... adoption is a great idea. But the point of being under the asexual label in America (and other 1st world countries) is that you are comfortable not ever experiencing sex, or experiencing the birth of children. It's not that you're just reluctant, it's that you are uninterested in having it, or bearing children... or having a family by sexual reproduction. (That's contradictory to what I said in the below comment... but I wrote that early in the morning, and my brain was just fried from play practice. ) As for restraining the sensations... I may have done that myself in the past. I am Gray-asexual, which means partially asexual... and the reason I label myself as that is because I go back and forth between having more sexual feelings, to having none at all... depending on having crushes on people, or just falling in love in general... but I also don't care about sex, or having it at all. There's many other variances to "Gray Asexual" as well... and a list of that can be read here: thethinkingasexual.wordpress.c… I'm also slightly demisexual, but I go by Gray-asexual instead.

Well in any case... just ignore the comment below... OTL I hope this makes more sense...  I had much more time to write it. I'm so sorry Lydia... I hope you're okay :(  I noticed you haven't logged on in several days, so I'm worried about you... please remember to take the below comment with a grain of salt :heart: Maybe take me in general with a grain of salt :XD: You're probably really mad at me... I'm so sorry... OTL I'm sure you won't forgive me... but well, I tried my best to help you... I know you're a really neat and kind person, so you don't deserve the trouble I've caused :( Just remember that if you're not comfortable with the asexual label, it's not right for you... and my god, I sounded so stupid below... I'm so sorry... OTL I didn't mean to cause so much trouble for you...
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lydia-san Featured By Owner Jun 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Viviiii :hug: omg no you did nothing wrong!! Omg seriously I'm not mad at you~! I've been trying to find answers for years and for the first time I got a glimpse of the answer I always need. So I THANK YOU for giving me that. I appreciate all your time to explain these things, I know it took quite some time. But you did it anyway. Thank you.
And even if I am really asexual, I would be glad to know it. Because knowing more about myself will help me cope with future problems. Thank you so much vivi :hug:
Btw, I'm not married yet. Lol I do have a boyfriend and we've been together for more than 4 years. But we've never tried sex. Not that I'm interested in it. He tried to seduce me a few times (with my permission, because I want to try being seduced too) but it didn't work. That's when I was thinking there must be sth wrong with me. Well.. I do want to have children... and family by sexual reproduction.

Btw.. about not longging in for several days (welp it's been some time) it's not related to your answers at all vivi! I was depressed because it seems I failed the test again. It was still a rumour from higher-ups but usually the rumour is 95% true. Let's just make it 100% =p The legal result will be shown next month, but I don't keep my hopes up. And the usual coping mechanism when I'm depressed is... shutting the world out lol *sorry* even my family. I don't want to be judged for what I've failed.
"You should have tried harder" and blahblahblah
I've been looking for information about my failure and I found out that it was probably because of political and racial issues. And that's why I was down. The world is unfair, and I've thrown away my time (it's been 1.5 years) to serve as an assistant in a department who don't actually want me (but still they're using me as a pawn), with less payment. (I'm working as an assistant there despite the payment because usually an assistant have privilege to be a pass the test compared to outsiders)
So... that's what was going on while I was gone. Lol. And for now... I have to get up and find where I should go for now. I no longer have a job... and I (and my family too) still hope that I can get higher education, so I probably would be applying in other department (maybe next year). And most likely, I would move to a remote area to serve there, for about 1 year, and back to the city to look at another chance to enter the residency. Well... that was still a rough plan. I think I'm still mentally unstable to decide anything just yet. But I'm getting better! No worries :)
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
OMG :XD: Now I feel silly! :glomp: Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for assuming things :XD: LOL Just proves how quirky I really am~ I'm glad I could be of help none the less <333 Well, there's a lot of different types of asexuals out there... some are more resistant to sex than others. Just keep doing research <3 You'll figure it out eventually. I was confused for quite a while too... but now I feel secure with myself. Like I said before, tumblr is a great place to start. So are forum posts. You get to hear other people's stories that way... and it really helps you see, if you really do fit in with the spectrum. Just be careful when you tell other people about it, that you're very clear with research to back you up, because people might think of it as a phase, or say that you'll "die alone" or a lot of other stereotypical responses. (It can even happen to the people you love the most, sometimes. ) But oh my god, I'm so glad you're okay :hug: I understand when you need time alone... it was just so coincidental, LOL I can't believe it I feel so ridiculous... :XD:

The rest of that though... wow. That just makes me so mad that people would do that. It's just not right...  I think that sort of discrimination would make headline news in the United States, and it would get so many people angry, that the business would be turned on it's upside. But that doesn't always happen here... In fact, we have some level of discrimination on our own. I think most of the discrimination on the western side of the United States, is very small... even in the school I went to... but many of the discrimination is towards the eastern side of the United States. I don't get discriminated racially (because I'm Caucasian ) but in other manners I can be discriminated against... such as my disabilities. Some people can fire me because I have  trouble with mathematics, or that I'm left handed... or that, I have trouble with memory, or that I'm short and can't reach high things. Some people can also fire me because I need more time off for my mental health, or that I have trouble with socializing. (There's more of a list than just that, for reasons to fire me. ) I'm protected by the law... but there's a stupid work around people use to fire those with disabilities. Since it's illegal to fire me because of those things, they have to "let me go" because I'm not working hard enough, or some other lame reason. And trying to find a job, is beyond impossible without using short cuts. (I.e.: Programs to help with getting jobs. ) So it leaves little choice except to have a good work ethic, and work twice as hard to look presentable. (And not to mention: Never asking for that extra time off. )

Good I'm glad :tighthug: Don't give up. You'll be able to make it into college, I'm certain. <333
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so much <33 :D
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so much <333 :glomp: I'm really happy you like it :) That makes me so happy :D
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Breathing-Rams Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2015  Professional Writer
You're absolutely welcome!!! :tighthug: Good!! I LOVE it!!
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lightbleueyes Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Student General Artist
Omg Thank you so much for bringing me here Rams! :D This is excellent :)
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Breathing-Rams Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2015  Professional Writer
You're welcome!! Isn't it?!
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Aww thank you! :love: I appreciate it!

I agree so much... when one of my friends in real life came out on tumblr, I knew it was now or never. Plus I had 4 people backing me up... (including yourself and one other online friend ) so that was so much inspiration to just get it out there... one of my bisexual friends was like: "Do it. If you get backlash, it's all on me" and I was like: "Nuuuu don't say that it'll be your fault ;n; But okay..." and my parents FINALLY are getting what I mean by being asexual... I THINK. They don't seem to understand sometimes... but they generally are pretty non judgmental, so they don't criticize me for it...

It truly is wonderful to finally get this out there though <3 I was really scared I'd be judged unfairly by others... but I'm getting a lot of respect instead so far, and it's surprising for me... but it IS deviant art after all. :XD:
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KalineReine Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Professional Writer
You're welcome. I'm glad people have been sort of receptive to it. I mean, I know how much of a big deal it was and how scary it was for me when I finally told people I was Pansexual... It's not as easy as just putting it out there. Having support is always nice and can help a lot. :huggle: I'm just glad you're not getting too much crap over it. There will always be people who judge others harshly for things, but it's not like they're so perfect either. <3
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm glad too <3 I'm really surprised that I got no negative feedback over this... I'm sure it's not going to be that way forever... but wow, I'm entirely surprised. I didn't lose any watchers or anything... and everyone was so supportive <3 I guess I should consider myself lucky for that one. 
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KalineReine Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Professional Writer
That is really awesome! It's a sign that you have the right kinds of people around you, I think. c: 
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
That's a good sign. :D A very good sign indeed. I'm super glad to be surrounded by supportive people <3 It makes me very happy! :love:
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
How do I reply? qwidaskfakfkffl You're so kiiiiind ;u;

God I had no idea if people would take this well... think I was weird... ect. I was really confident and unconfident at the same time. :XD: But I took the risk... because I want people to understand me and skkaskfkfkslkfslflslsaldks tolerate me... and I'd rather surround myself with people who understand, than people who don't... but this was entirely hard of a decision to make, because of my abrupt shyness.... you won't believe how shy I actually AM. :XD:

But KIKFLSLKFDsfsldslfslfKFSZLGLged thank you SO MUCH for your support <333 I highly appreciate it! I'm really glad people aren't freaking out or anything ;u; (I'm probably the one doing most of the freaking out... LOL )
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PantherPL Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
That's my job on this planet :D

You really don't have to worry, in fact that knowledge doesn't change my opinion about you much. I can believe how shy you are, I've been there too... But luckily, now I can say a bunch of awesome people helped me get out of this hell called Shyness.

Yup, you're way more anxious than you should. Come on, bitches and assholes don't last long on dA, didn't you know that?
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
It's a job well done <3

I'm glad LOL Very glad :heart: I had a friend help me come out as well... well, multiple friends anyway :XD: But what really did it was one of my close friends coming out on Tumblr. I knew it was now or never then...

I am, I am... it's just my upbringing. I was raised in a Christian environment in the beginning of my life... and I went to church with my childhood friend in 10th grade when no one else in my family did... and the church had all sorts of crazy beliefs that scarred me for life... like, really badly... and made me hate myself for a very long time. (But I still believe in God to this day... I just don't go to church anymore. ) So this took an unbelievable amount of courage to do so....

I know... look above though. That's my reasoning behind things. I've been a member of deviant art for several years, (6 to be exact) so I've seen it all. All it takes is a block and a hide comment, and it's over.
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PantherPL Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
:iconhartplz:

:D

Another proof that it isn't God who spoils people, it's the Church.

Six years? What are your previous accounts then? 
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Hmm... if you're really curious, it's this: cicikitkat321.deviantart.com/g… I used to  draw anime, badly done fanfics, and at the end of the day: I was a HUGE whiner / complainer.  :XD:
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PantherPL Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Ugh! You really needed a new one... 
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Vivyi Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Now you see why I'm ashamed of my old art... :XD:
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