I avoid those kind of games for the very reason that you've so elegantly illustrated. I just end up hating them. Well, maybe not hating them, but not playing them nevertheless.
For example, I backed a platformer on Kickstarter called Shantae: Half-Genie Hero. Loved the concept, character designs and such. Got the game, enjoyed it until I got stuck on the first boss. Couldn't beat the damn thing, not even after reading tutorials about it. Just dropped it and haven't played it since. These games just aren't for me. I guess I'll always be a filthy casual, but that's alright by me. Great games will always be played by someone.