I'm tempted to say that the last couple of months got way too busy for me, as though it was something that "happened to me". But the deeper truth is that I LET them get way too busy. I often (not always) have a hard time saying no to people when I think my saying no will disappoint them in some meaningful way. But I let go of the larger truth at that point ... that saying yes sometimes disappoints ME. Now, I've noticed over my 20,315 days of living, that when I say yes and it disappoints neither myself nor the others involved ... those things work out pretty well. Saying yes to a request for my time ONLY to avoid disappointment in another is more often than not a mistake, which leaves me feeling drained and depleted. It would be healthier and wiser of me to say "I'd love to do this for you, but I'm already stretched very thin right now, can we do it another time" or "I see that this is super important to you and that we can't do it at a later or different time, but given the fact that I'm already stretched super thin right now, can we negotiate letting go of something I'm already committed to, to help make room for this?"
We do that all the time at work. Our effort queue is full and someone comes along asking for something "last minute", "emergency", "gotta have it now" and we smile and say "sure, you can have A if you're willing to give up the B, C, D or E you currently already have in our work queue." That way we don't get swamped. I need to get much more consistent about doing that in my personal and creative life too. My life is just as important as the life of the people with whom I share this planet, and just because they THINK they need ME in order to complete some slice of life for themselves, doesn't mean I should give up my own plans JUST to help them avoid disappointment. QUITE OFTEN their "last minute", "emergency" need is the result of them not thinking ahead (something I'm actually pretty good at). "So, you didn't plan ahead well, and now you need this thing right away, and that's my responsibility to fix because ...???". Yeah, it isn't. And if I LET it become my responsibility, that's on ME, not on them. They can ask, but only I can say yes.
So, here's to me creating more creative time (see what I just did there?
) by being wiser about when to be accommodating to others and when to balance accommodation with self-respect and self-care and just say, "I'd love to ... but no, I'm too busy right now."
PS - I've decided to make some time to go through my 3D creations of the past and post some of the edgier stuff I never used to feel comfortable posting (largely because I couldn't make heads or tales of the DA "what you can't post here" rules. But having viewed 99,999,999 images now, I've finally gotten a pretty clear sense of what they are trying to avoid and what they are OK with ... or so I think.