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Do you feel like it's right for people with fetishes to judge other people for their fetishes? 

70%
1,299 deviants said No, if their fetish isn't hurting anyone they can express it if they want.
30%
547 deviants said Yes, some fetishes are objectively disgusting.

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:icontsuujou:
Tsuujou Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2017
I'm not above silently kinkshaming a motherfucker. lol
When you're into shit like eating people and motherfuckers melting or being mutilated, yeah gross. Seeya.
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AgnosticDragon Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
I judge people by their actions. I have no problem with any of the fetish art I see on here. There is some of it that should never be acted on, and people who have certain fetishes know exactly why.
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:iconjeufufns:
Jeufufns Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2017  Student Writer
Depends whether you try to execute them in real life or keep them on the internet. I don't think any online kink should be shamed and the only time I'd ever be concerned with their real-life execution is harm that goes beyond the rules of consent like dismemberment, gore or vore.
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:iconthe-wandering-mage:
The-Wandering-Mage Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Unless your fetish is judging other fetishes (it's cool)

everything is alright with the world
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:iconkiryumega94:
KiryuMega94 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
A lot of fetishes can be and are objectively disgusting, and everyone with a fetish possessing some level of gross attribute(s) falls under this, even me.
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:iconfarfetchdfreakbackup:
interestingly worded.the option boil down to "I judge people' or 'possibly desire judge people who cause harm?'

but yeah, if it's not damaging others i don't care. I've been into some crazy stuff before. Hurting can be fine if it's consensual, spanking and such is common play, but as long as it's consensual it's fine. If you wanna do stuff I'm cool. my friends and I often have casual talks about our fetishes and such, always have even IRL. I've talked with people into plenty of stuff, and I see them the same as before. just doesn't matter to me.
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:iconpywackett-barchetta:
Pywackett-Barchetta Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2017
I'm genuinely surprised and disheartened at just how many people voted for the latter.
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:iconziggystardust197214:
ZiggyStardust197214 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2017
who can really say. what I find to be pleasing and arousing, some may find it to be disgusting, and vice versa. we all have our own likes and dislikes. it's how we have so many great things today. if there's something I don't like, then I won't look. simple as that.
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:iconsweer-tomato:
Sweer-tomato Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
There are layers to this question:

A) If it isn't practiced in real life and doesn't affect someone else in a non-consensual manner. Then no, it's not okay to judge, it doesn't matter.

B) If this is the case, and the person in question is breaking laws or doing something unethical. Then yes, it's okay to judge.

I advocate for the right to appreciate silly fetishes/kinks shame-free, but only where it doesn't cause explicit harm to a person.
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:iconinfini-alts:
Infini-alts Featured By Owner Edited Jul 22, 2017
Look at Trinity asking the tough questions.

As long as they aren't shoving it down your throat, I'd say they have the right to make art and stuff of it.

I mean, take us, the fat lovers, for example. a good 95% of us are aware that, yeah, being overweight and obese isn't healthy, and yeah, a good 95% of the rest of the human population find us disgusting, but that's why we have our own websites to prowl around. It's sort of like an elephant marching into a zoo for it's own protection if you can think of it that way.

As for the judging part of the question, yeah, you can judge. For me at least judging is a silent action. I constantly judge other people, but unless they ask my opinion I keep it to myself. It's only natural to judge things and people objectively rather than subjectively from time to time as well. We're all only human.
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:icongnight:
Gnight Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2017
Take a fetish, no matter what it is, there's going to some people who's into it only in fantasy/fiction. Keep that in mind.
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:icondevyfox111:
DevyFox111 Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2017
The amount of people who feel it is right to judge others for their fetishes is sad to me.
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:iconkamujin:
Kamujin Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2017
Neither option expressed my position—I think it's normal and acceptable for people with a fetish to find other fetishes stupid, annoying, or disgusting, and to say so if they want to. What's not acceptable is actually demanding that the people who gross you out stop doing it merely because it grosses you out.
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:iconxomegahackx:
xomegahackx Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2017
Amen
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:iconthe-dark-lord-dagon:
the-dark-lord-dagon Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I mean they shouldn't REALLY be all that personally offended but they can certainly find something just as gross as we find attractive. Personally I am a gross perv who makes fake accounts to avoid being judged but in truth there isn't anything wrong with enjoying fetishist art. Some fetishes being acted upon could be totally socially unacceptable however such as rape. I know there are lots of comics of rape stuff but as long as it doesn't become REAL...
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roarthebigdancer Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I think it's not as simple as people make it. Sure, it's not like someone walks up to me on the street and (insert fetish here) but if we're browsing DA and ANOtHEr (insert fetish here) it's just as visually obtrusive. It might not 'hurt' anyone, but I think if it's in a public forum that isn't well hidden, then it is equally in our faces, almost like if we saw that in public. Now, whether or not you'd care to do anything about it is one thing, but I think it's completely fine to judge. That also means I can think 'this is weird' and you'll never know.
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Shrapnel-Jones Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this is an argument of fantasy versus real-life indulgence. fucking animals is wrong. illustrations of fucking animals is just that, just an illustration. c'est nas un pipe. it does nothing real.

the greatest damage to hold with fantasy, though, is that those who realize their desires through fantasy take to fascination with the actual act. conversion, in a word.
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:iconcarwithnoname:
CarWithNoName Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
i voted 'yes' but i agree with both, the two answers are mutually exclusive.

the fetishes i find objectively disgusting are the ones that negatively affect other people.

if someone is actively doing awful things for the sake of their kink, then i believe i have every right to at least judge them for their behavior.

i also really am not a fan of people who have 'rape' as a ''kink''. those people are generally the worst?

but like, yeah, as long as it's not actively hurting someone else, be into all the weird shit you want my dudes
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:iconswasbi:
Swasbi Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I actually uploaded a piece earlier, and within 4 seconds of uploading I got a comment telling me to die. Bit rude, if you don't like something then keep it to yourself if it's not hurting anyone.
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:iconthecopyuniversetcu:
TheCopyUniverseTCU Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
As long as it brings no harm, potential or otherwise, to anyone, I'm not gonna judge. Once it does, however, all bets are off. 
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:iconfourtyseven:
FourtySeven Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
We can't control what turns us on, so as long as these desires are practiced safely and with consenting adults, I say have at it. 
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:iconchubby-chimaera:
Chubby-Chimaera Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
Well I mistook that completely. My personal belief is that, as long as nobody's getting hurt, and it's kept in private, then there's no reason for me to not like you. We all got our kinks. Its not fair for us to belittle others for what they find sexually arousing.
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RoyalJellySandwich Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Professional Digital Artist
There's myriad of fetishes I can't stand (I can't even browse furaffinity any more because its gotten so bad), but I keep it to myself because glass houses. 
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
But can't you just use specific filters for furaffinity so you only see the fetishes you have?
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:iconroyaljellysandwich:
RoyalJellySandwich Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Professional Digital Artist
Not to my knowledge.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Well you can now by just hitting browse and then you can filter which kinda negates finding other stuff
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:iconplumpspidergwen:
PlumpSpiderGwen Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
I lean to no, you shouldn't judge.  What two (or more) consenting adults do is their business.  I might be revulsed by some fetishes, but I'm not really one to tell people they shouldn't have them.  I just don't want to participate them.

Now when we get into the territory of applying fetishes onto unwilling subjects, that's something else entirely.
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:iconcaramelcurves:
CaramelCurves Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I mostly agree with you in that sense, except when it comes to exposure outside the bedroom sorta deal. Because then you have people who are not consenting to seeing it; in terms of artwork though thats a different ballgame, mostly because one can choose whether or not they see it- so most of the time its not an issue. Even so... some fetishes are just objectively disgusting in my opinion. Whether I voice that opinion to people though is in the end up to me, and most of the time I don't see it as necessary, nor do I think people necessarily always need to voice their opinion.

With the exceptions of when it comes to serious harm of others. Its not good to be a bystander in those cases.

 Its a bit of a hornet's nest of a subject for some folks though.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Don't you mean repulsed not revulsed
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:iconplumpspidergwen:
PlumpSpiderGwen Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Revulsed:  affected with or having undergone revulsion.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
You do know you're not supposed to use the word you're defining in the definition right?
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:iconplumpspidergwen:
PlumpSpiderGwen Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
You do know you can use the word you're defining when said word is a derived form of another, ie offense vs offended.  In this case, "revulsed" is a derived form of "revulsion", which is quote "a strong feeling of repugnance, distaste, or dislike."

Oh, and FYI, it's okay to look something up before you criticize someone else.  The internet has a lot of information on it and it keeps you from looking like a damn fool.  

For future reference.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I think I'll block you for simply because I'm tired of your shit. You spout foolish nonsense and then you insult me. Any last words cretin?
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:iconplumpspidergwen:
PlumpSpiderGwen Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Do what you gotta do, kiddo.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Farewell imbecile.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
First off I'm not a fool I figured you meant repulse. Second off no you aren't supposed to. If you don't want to look like an idiot when defining a word you would have said "Revulsed:  affected with or having undergone disgust or loathing". Your idiocy is utterly fucking astounding.
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:iconpolohax:
Polohax Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2017
You blocked someone over Grammar. Get over yourself. Jesus Christ.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I blocked him for being a dick. Get over YOURself dumbass.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2017  Student Digital Artist
No I blocked him for being a dick
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blackmage20 Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
This is something people struggle with alot. Because what one person sees in a fetish, another could see as a threat, and how far does one take a fetish? For me, if a fetish could be considered violent/hazardous in anyway in the real world but not the fantasy world (because the same rules of morality don't need apply) then it is something that needs to STAY in the fantasy world. The problem comes from when they try to do something in real life and end up hurting themselves or someone else. Its make those who practice it only in fantasy look like creeps or monsters.

Like a choking fetish. If yer into that, that's fine, but DON'T go choking someone in real life. EVER. Even if they would allow it. Because that will slowly tear down yer sanity and you'll eventually do it for real, and actually harm someone. Even something as common as body inflation, people try inflate themselves in realife and actually cause serious damage to their insides.

Which raises the question, if you can control it in real life, should you practice it in the fantasy world? Its a struggle, but my only suggestion would be to simple ignore morality in the fantasy world, where nothing matters, death and pain don't exist, there's no right wrong, theres no moral highground. But just realize those rules DO apply in real life.
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Clerf Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I mean, to call someone out on there fetish isn't cool, especially if you have one yourself. However, I feel like it's somewhat understandable to express internal disapproval if it's particularly displeasing. For me, necrophilia is particularly unsettling, but I don't feel like telling them that would accomplish much of anything
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:iconcaramelcurves:
CaramelCurves Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Depends on what the fetish is and how one expresses it.

If its not hurting anyone, then sure.

But if it harms someone or is objectively disgusting such as child porn, torture porn, etc. then yeah people *should* chastise that.

There's also the case of sticking to your own fetish community for the most part. Crossovers aren't really all that welcome most of the time- such as throwing something like MLP in say, a channel full of dudes who like muscular human ladies, and in that case that MLP person would be rightfully blasted. Stick to the subject matter, respect one's boundaries. Same as throwing any sort of fetish in a non-sexual conversation/subject matter.
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:iconstg4300:
stg4300 Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I might personally find a fetish disgusting, but I'm not gonna rub my opinion in anyone's face.
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:icondurf24:
Durf24 Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I'll admit, I'm not a big fan of a lot of fetishes such as vore, slob wg, and male wg is a definite no go for me, but I'm not going to tell someone they're disgusting for liking such things. Fetishes are like opinions which are like assholes; everyone's got one and disliking it won't change that fact.
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:iconpandora672:
Pandora672 Featured By Owner Edited Jul 21, 2017
I think there's a difference between finding something disgusting and gross, and ostracising others for it. I find vomit and scat gross, but I've spoken to people who are into those sorts of things and they're pretty normal down to earth guys. As for more taboo stuff like non-con, loli and guro I think it's important to remember that the people into these sorts of things don't necessarily find them erotic outside of drawings, and find them reprehensible. After all just because I enjoy wreaking havoc in games like GTAV doesn't mean that I want to just drive a car into a crowd of people in real life. That said, it's extremely shitty to constantly shove this sort of content in the faces of those who don't like it.


When you get down to it, most normal people will view extreme obesity fetishism in the same light as those. Don't toss stones in a glass house and all that.
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:iconlauralate:
LauraLate Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
In general, no.

If it's a fetish that enables or encourages harm, disrespects boundaries or harms emotionally irl, I think it's fair to criticize it
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:iconrazor921:
RaZor921 Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I'm not gonna judge people for their fetishes, but I CAN and WILL judge them for how they present it and themselves. If they make their fetish their identity and make an active effort to keep shoving it in people's faces at every turn (I've known people like this), then I'm gonna judge them. If they judge my fetishes even though I stay neutral to theirs, then I'll judge their fetishes.

The fetishes themselves don't matter, it's about what you do with it.
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DeadSupaiku Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Never ever judge anybody for anything on fetishes. Can be as weird as they want, as long as it's fantasy/not acted on to a degree of injury or illegality I still don't care. The only thing I'd say I would be less than okay with is child pornography due to the fact that that is actually illegal to even produce art of (Though keeping in mind people are just gonna say the character is 18).

I don't care if you like your waifus smashed with wrecking balls or taking dumps in your face. I'm into immobile futas. We're all too god damn weird for this world, and it's better to recognize that now rather than later, lol.
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:iconpolohax:
Polohax Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017
I can understand why you'd be less than okay with art of Child Pornography, but the fact that's even illegal to make art of in reality is a problem in of itself. Least, when it comes to purely FICTIONAL Characters. I don't care about the Morality of such a thing, because that doesn't matter. Dictating what is best based on feelings in a objective sort of system is nothing but bad news. And the objectivity of the matter is that drawing Porn of Fictional Children, does not, in ANY WAY hurt real Children. And if one is to argue "oh, but it increases the rate at which-" No. The same thing was argued with Video Games, and what a suprise; it was complete bullshit.
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:icongrahamarnett:
GrahamArnett Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Student Digital Artist
For the most part if it doesn't hurt anybody fine but drawing underage characters for it is the one that I just can't really begin to tolerate.
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