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Respect Fetish Artists by TicklishTouch Respect Fetish Artists by TicklishTouch
I know, I'll be posting more actual art soon, but this is something I feel I've been wanting to speak up about for quite some time now.

Although I haven't been as active lately, I've been noticing a disturbing trend both on here and on Tumblr of tickle-lovers (or anyone with any kind of kink, really) being made to feel very uncomfortable, and sometimes outright violated, by people who have no regard whatsoever for their personal boundaries; People who try to sweet-talk or guilt them into a roleplay, or jump right into being flirtatious or raunchy, and end up making someone feel like they're trying to get physical with them by using so-called "harmless" asterisk cues ( you know, like *squeezes your sides* or *licks* or *pokes your feet* ). I have seen this affect people with anxiety, people who are recovering from terrible relationships, asexuals who have no interest in making tickling into something more sexual, people who are minors, and a few of my own friends. I have experienced it myself more times than I can count, despite my repetitive reminding people that I really don't appreciate it.

And while I don't put it this bluntly in the stamp, I'm just going to say it here:


THIS SHIT IS NOT OKAY.

In my experience, the reason a lot of fetish artists, especially tickle-artists, draw or write fetish content is because they feel alienated, or even embarrassed about their kink, so they wouldn't dare share it with people in person out of fear of judgment, or fear of some selfish, manipulative pervert trying to take advantage of it. But, they need to express it in some way or another, and have found respite in a wonderfully patient and supportive community which they feel comfortable sharing their work with. And hey, maybe they do end up finding someone they love that accepts their fetish too!

But, see, the people who respond to their work by basically deciding it's okay to see the fetish before seeing the person... They are telling the artist/writer they are merely a means to an end. They are taking away that feeling of security, trust and respect from someone who has very likely struggled to feel safe and accepted, by trying to push past or outright ignore boundaries just to indulge in THEIR own desires.

"But they enjoy this too! So obviously it's okay to tease them about it!!"

...No. 
NO-ONE who claims they're pulling any of this crap because they know a fetishist also gets enjoyment out of it, without even stopping to think that maybe someone's not interested in experiencing what is essentially the internet version of groping or cat-calling, is thinking about anyone but themselves or actually taking said artist's emotional well-being into consideration.


"But this person is very open about what they enjoy & what turns them on! They're obviously asking for the attention!" 

This is just as bad as slut-shaming and victim blaming. Don't fucking do it.

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Sure, kink artists are being open to their audience. Once again, they are in a community that knows how to talk about what they enjoy as general discussion, as a way of sharing creative ideas, as a way of venting and feeling more content with themselves for having their fetish, and as a way of ensuring other people that they have every reason to feel loved and accepted. But, see, unless they explicitly give permission for someone to suggest something sexual or intimate with them, you do not have the right to jump in and basically back them into a corner for you to try and persuade them to enact their (or your) fantasies.

Basically, when it comes down to it, ask permission! Keep the vulgar comments to yourself! And know when to quit while you’re ahead. You are NOT being sexy, coy, fun, or attractive in any way by more or less deciding you know what will turn someone on when you don't even take the time to truly know the person first.


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:iconkenneth-setser:
Kenneth-Setser Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2019  Hobbyist General Artist
Dang. It's been almost 3 years since this got posted.
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FloofyGecko Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2019  Hobbyist Digital Artist
BLESS THIS HECKIN STAMP Clap 

While I don't have a tickle fetish, I am in a different fetish community were unfortunately shit like this happens a lot
And y'know it really fuckin sucks
Cause the internet and art is the only place were I can actually feel safe about expressing my fetish. But when people try to ruin this by being perverts, that just takes away that sense of security I have. And then I can't even feel safe about posting fetish art at times
Just UGH it makes me so pissed off that people don't understand what boundaries are DX
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Dasha-Doodles Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed.
But you can have non-sexual tickling and sexual tickling at least.
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Of course! Like I said in the description, I've seen plenty of people, especially on Tumblr, that are asexual and only enjoy SFW (safe for work) tickling. Which just makes it all the more gross when creeps try to make it sexual and try to persuade & harass people into getting what they want :no:
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Dasha-Doodles Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
True
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Calliefeet Featured By Owner May 30, 2018  Hobbyist Writer
Preach
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Greenhorngal Featured By Owner May 16, 2018  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
I like this stamp alot
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner May 17, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you!! I'm glad :)
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AlwaysBurning227 Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2017
It's insane how much people invade boundaries when it comes to this topic. I must admit that I have some trouble with boundaries sometimes, given my... erm... personality shall we put it? But at least I know not to be a creep... I'm glad people in this community are as friendly and respectful as they are.
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neckbeard-cadet Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Professional General Artist
what does fetishism have to do with what your sexuality is

i mean maybe for mpreg and that shit but vore isnt a gender lol
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avdsouza Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2018
No one is talking sexuality.
We are talking about... you know, starts with s...
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Edited Apr 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
...You missed the point, dude. Where do I ever mention gender/sexuality? I'm talking about people who try to take their interest in a fetish too far and act like total creeps towards people who draw the art, and that's regardless of what anyone's gender is.
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neckbeard-cadet Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Professional General Artist
O H  :^(((

but why would anyone draw fetish art if they arent prepared for people to comment about how hot it is

u dont draw a dog and say "NO DOG PEOPLE ALLOWED TO COMMENT"
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Did you even read the description? There's a difference between commenting on the art and saying it's hot, and harassing the artist into cybering or role-playing, leaving creepy comments about what they want to do to the artist, and asking them to post photos of their feet (or any part of their body really).
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neckbeard-cadet Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Professional General Artist
i skimmed it since it was like 3am

dont most fetishists do that anyway
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:iconticklishtouch:
TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Aah, I see :P

And...yes, sadly. :no: But that doesn't make it okay. I made this stamp as a way to tell people that just because people in the community make kink-related art, we're not automatically open to random people basically hitting on us. I understand that people outside of a fetish community will assume that fetish artists are automatically sex-obsessed creeps by nature, but we're still human and we all have our comfort zones and personal boundaries.
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neckbeard-cadet Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Professional General Artist
woah there pal nobodys saying youre inferior at all dont worry

its just

what else would we think if youre dedicating all that time, effort and talent to your turn-on
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I suppose, but it's just as judgmental to make that kind of assumption as it is for people to assume all artists are okay with creepy comments. Basically 'don't judge an individual by the fandom' is what I'm getting at.

I'm not really sure how much more clearly I can explain this, so we're done here. Have a nice day. :)
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Palatiina Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2017
Found this under my friend's favorites. Let's look at this from the other side. I have autism and have trouble seeing boundaries. I don't do exactly what you say but I mainly just ask to be friends. Still I end up being always labeled a "creep" or "random person on the internet" if not immediately but eventually with no explanation. And so it's no wonder autistic people commit suicide 28 times more often than the general population.

And I like vore not so much tickling.
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm sorry you've been made to feel that way. :( You're right, that kind of treatment is uncalled for, especially when you deal with Autism or any other type of mental disorder.

It's still very much the responsibility of the person who feels they're being harrassed or violated to speak up about it, and politely tell a person that they're not comfortable with the direction a conversation is going. How the hell else will the other person know what they're saying or doing wrong? I, too, highly dislike it when people will make snap judgments about online users, and either 1.) assume the worst right away, or 2.) tell other people to avoid them.

That being said, the reason I made this stamp is because of people - myself, my friends, my peers on Tumblr - that have spoken up about their boundaries in the past, but still continue to get vulgar messages to this day.

I'm sorry you've been treated unfairly, but please know that I'm not trying to perpetuate the message that anyone and everyone in fetish communities that try to communicate or reach out to others who share their interests are automatically creeps. It's when the boundaries have been clearly set, when the person has repeatedly told others to stop bothering them, or when they say right on their profile page that they're not comfortable with something, but people outright ignore them, that it's unacceptable. And, to mirror what you say, it's no wonder people like myself grow up to be very defensive and untrusting, when almost all of their interactions with other online users lead to them feeling violated in some way or another... To the point where they no longer feel there is a point to try and explain themselves.

It isn't something that can be easily solved from either side, sadly :no: But the first step is to try to make that effort to communicate. And, I'm sure you do and/or will find people who will be able to do this properly. :)
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SuperOverwatch Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2016  Student Digital Artist
I don't even know what to say...
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Okay? :?
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ColossalStinker Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
One person sent me a note asking if I could show them my feet. And I don't even have a foot fetish...
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh wow :facepalm: 
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AngelOfDarkness089 Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
I fully agree with everything you have said in here. Being a tickle-writer myself I also had to deal with the comments you have mentioned in here and since I am myself asexual and see NO sexual things in tickling or being tickled, I feel very, VERY uncomfortable whenever I get disturbing comments like *licks your feet* or anything like this. Some people may like this, but for me this is just...well...disgusting to be honest and I don't want to have anything to do with this and yet people still come to me, sending me mails with (sometimes sexual) RP-starters, even when I said that I don't do any RPs. I also have made bad experience with people who can't tolerate a fetish/kink/special liking for something, since I myself have been attacked from people who couldn't handle the tickle stories I write and they called me a "gross fetishist" without knowing ANYTHING from me and this can hurt very much. I myself don't care much for such bullshit comments, but what about those people who do care? Seriously, these intolerant people should learn some respect and I really don't understand why they read such stories, because I for myself write a warning over ALL of my stories, so people KNOW what they're going to read and yet they read it and attack me (and other tickle artists on here too). I have no words for such an immature behavior!
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm glad you agree! :hug: But I'm also very sorry to hear you've dealt with trouble from both ends of the spectrum; From disrespectful creeps, and from people who are judgmental about your interests. It's not fun at all, and it's not fair to you. :( You have the right to write whatever you damn well please. People need to learn how to back off.
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AngelOfDarkness089 Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
I couldn't agree more with this. And I honestly don't be bothered by people like this.
Not anymore. I tell them what I think and then I block them.
But I just don't understand why these people still read my stuff when they know
that I write tickle stories here and there? Where is the logic? -.-
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Littleaquagirl Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
I'm glad you made this. :) I hate people who send me messages to RP that are like 3 words between asterisks. I like people who are DESCRIPTIVE. Three words are not descriptive.
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That really wasn't the point of this stamp, but I agree xD
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Littleaquagirl Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
XD
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TicklishKat Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
OMG yes thank you!!!! this button is perfect!!!!! XD
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:iconticklishtouch:
TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You're welcome!! I'm glad you like it. I felt like it was about time someone said something like it :XD:
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TicklishKat Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Exactly! These things need said lol
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Yoshachu Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
Preach it! :D
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Heck yes :XD:
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Fn2187jb007 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016
Well said I have a foot tickle fetish and I've been made fun of in the past for it
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Raven-Firewind Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016
Well said, Touch. I've noticed the exact same kinds of commentary, not unsurprisingly made on your works and profile page, like with many other tickle artists.

I've had similar situations with RPing. While open to the experience now and again, a lot of people fail to ask what the RP parameters are. What is or isn’t okay, what pace their fellow RPer would like to go at, etc. I’m glad you’ve given voice to these concerns, because too many people pull a sort of victim-blame move with regards to it. It’s like that rape video using “tea” as the metaphor: someone can like tea, but forcing them to drink it without first asking them if they want any (or giving it to them regardless) isn’t okay.  It’s the same with any fetish, or anything else that without consent, infringes upon someone’s bodily or psychological autonomy. 


In sum, thank you for sharing. I wholeheartedly agree.

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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yep. Most of the times I block those kinds of comments, but on the other hand I sometimes keep them around so 1.) People see how I respond to it, and 2.) They can see which users to avoid talking to :XD:  That may seem kinda mean but at this point I'd rather call someone out on their BS.

Ugh, I'm sorry you've had to deal with that =/ That's exactly what was happening to me a lot of the time. And yeah, that's exactly what it feels like: Victim-blaming, or an attempt to persuade you into believing it's okay for them to push you outside of your comfort zone. But, no, it's totally not okay. 

And that's a pretty fitting metaphor! Basically, consent comes first, and people need to speak up for themselves just as much as creepy selfish jerks need to back off :XD:

I'm glad you like it, and I'm very happy to share it. :)
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Raven-Firewind Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016
I don't think it's mean at all; I think it allows other people to see that when you do wind up responding more aggressively, it's justified. You're good about keeping your cool, so if someone finds themselves on the receiving end of your anger, they've earned it.

I'm glad you are; I can see this stamp inspiring others to stand up for themselves when faced with situations like that. :aww:
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:iconticklishtouch:
TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, I'm glad you think so :) I like to see myself as a patient person, but let's face it, my patience has grown thin for this kind of crap :XD:

And I hope it inspires people too! I'm tired of seeing my peers and friends getting put down by creeps who just don't know the meaning of respect.
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VanguardAngel Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016  Student General Artist
Wow. I see so much of this in the comments of so much kink Art it had made me scared to comment or even fave so much of it, especially since I honestly havent completely come to terms with it. It's awful how people just assume and do nasty shit like that with no respect for anyone involved.

I don't think I have done anything crass like that but if I make anyone uncomfortable just from my general chattiness or anything else, I deeply apologize.
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, that's understandable =/ And I totally agree. 

Well, you haven't ever made me feel uncomfortable, personally :) I think you're very considerate. :hug:
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VanguardAngel Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Student General Artist
Heh. I try to be. ^^; There's enough bad people around already, so I tend to worry. :tighthug:
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FTGenikit Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016
Well said, TicklishTouch. Well said. And for that... :salute:
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Heh, thank you :)
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serenawarren14 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016
that happens to me a lot, not fun!
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TicklishTouch Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah, it really isn't. People can be so gross :dead: I'm just glad there's so many other people in this community that are much more respectful!
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serenawarren14 Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2016
amen for that! Miraculous - Chatemote - Peace 
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Dathal Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2016
Thank you for saying this.
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