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So last night, my sister with the 2 daughters were going home, and my younger niece says she wants to talk in private with me. Im like ok... She looks at me and tells me that her mom (my sister) saw my wedding dress and said its ugly and that I should wear something else, why dont I wear it white? why its not pink? etc...

Im not even gonna g through the reasons why the dress isnt a light color (its bronze btw), cos thats not the point... the point is that my sister didnt even have the courtesy to either tell me personally what she thinks, or either for that matter say "she doesnt like it" and not "its ugly". Est modus in rebus, theres a proper way to do everything. Honestly I found the whole thing extremely dejecting for a good number of reasons.

If she told me that she honestly thought that the dark color wasnt appropriate and that she just couldnt like it and she was willing to go see if there was anything I could of liked more, I would have had nothing to be upset about, but coming to know this way (my niece is 8 years old btw...)... I dont know, I found it sad and somewhat a useless harm done to my feelings.

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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
Firtsly I wanna hug you all my friends cos your words reminded me of the things that in the hurricane of the preparations and the billion thoughts I have in my head I forgot. And I also wanna say thank you truly with my heart.
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LilaeaBluecoat Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2012
I'm sorry to hear that! Something as happy as a wedding should be just that, but somehow always seems to manage to bring out the worst in some people...
Keep in mind though, that an 8-year-old may not quite have heard what she think she heard, or got a feeling about something unclear that she overheard and interpreted it in her own way.
Whatever the case: Your wedding, your dress! Your sis can stick it if she doesn't agree! :P
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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I then found out that my dad was there too and confirmed what my niece said.

You know... I felt pretty bad cos my niece was just trying to help me, she obviously didnt realize that was totally inappropriate to do it that way.

And you are definitely right :)
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LilaeaBluecoat Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2012
Your niece at least displayed a very good quality; she's honest! Hope her mom takes a cue from her one of these days...
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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
exactly... I have little faith it will happen honestly but here in italy we say that the hope is the last to die...
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LilaeaBluecoat Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012
That's a good expression. So hope for the best, maybe she'll surprise you in a good way this time. :)
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MagicClare Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Yes, friend, this is indeed sad.

Two things: First, you cannot please everyone, especially in matters of style. In a wedding, you must please yourself! This should be your perfect day!

Second, do not let this incident fester in your mind and heart and cast a shadow on your plans. Find a good time to speak to your sister directly and ask for her honest opinion of the dress, then discuss it. Your young niece may have exaggerated what she heard (as kids often do). If not, at least you will clear the air between you and your sister, even if it is to "agree to disagree." Good luck, my friend. :rose:
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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I did the day after, I talked with my sister and asked what she honestly thinks about the dress. She said that she cant agree with the choice cos its too dark and brown dress, she said it mortifies me too much to be ok for my wedding day, and at that point I had to agree, its true its dark, and its... brown... well not exactly brown, its bronze... I have an appointment in a store for today to try more stuff, I wont go white for sure... but maybe I wont go bronze either... I may post the pic of the first dress on DA as soon as I can take a pic of it, havent even had the time yet >.<; I shall keep you updated!

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KatLEwing Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I am so sorry. That is sad. Such an important time in your life. Just remember, it is ALL about you. It is what YOU want and not your sister. There were a number of things I wanted to do differently in my daughter's wedding, but it was not about me so I kept my mouth shut. It will be your day so don't let anyone sway you...... you would regret it later.
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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
Theres not many people that would act like you did, its most likely they wont. My mom for example never stop telling me what to do and how to do it. I like suggestins and advices, as long as they are not forcedly thrown at me for every single thing I say or do lol... that gets unbarable on the long run.

Sometimes I just for a little more credit from people.

And you are definitely right, I would hate to regret things of this importance later. So I wanna follow your advice :hug: thank you
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KatLEwing Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I hope your special day turns out just as you have dreamed it would. Good Luck and Best Wishes!
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th3blackhalo Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
Thank you so much!! ^^ :hug:
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