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So who do YOU like?
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Published: October 27, 2016
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And it’s asexual awareness week again!

Here is a comic I drew last year but never got around to posting. I did this shortly after realising I was ace and all the warm feelings it gave me. I know some people struggle a lot with accepting this part of themselves, but I was just so happy to finally find a place I belonged in, people that actually understood what I felt.

Asexuality and Aromanticism is really something that needs to be talked more about. If I had known that not feeling sexual or romantic attraction was ok, I could have been much happier in the relationships I was in, and potentially have saved one of them thanks to being able to talk about my feelings instead of not understanding them, or I would have allowed myself to occasionally say ‘no’ to sex instead of feeling like I had to because i didn’t have a good enough reason to say no to my partner. So many things could have turned out differently if I had just known I was ace when I was younger.

And that’s why we need asexuality awareness week. Especially if you see this and feel like it's completely out of the blue and had no idea this was going on. Cuz that's how i feel. And I know about it.
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Hey, I just travelled here from a meme site and joined Deviant Art in order to thank you.

I’m demisexual panromantic or whatever you may call it. The point is that I struggle to understand the sexual desires most people have. Long story short I had a lot of different feelings fighting each other and taking me into a spiral of negative thoughts.

About one and a half years ago I have met my current partner. He’s not asexual. We’re very happy together and our relationship really seems to be one that can last forever. I also found these cute words to describe my sexuality. I know that I am not the only one and that I am not “out of order”.

I wish I could tell you that one day I understood that it doesn’t matter what sexuality my partner or I have as long as we’re having fun together and living our happy life as a team. I wish I could tell you I stopped being randomly jealous of everyone else because I know my partner doesn’t need any other romantic/sexual relationship and I trust him that if he did, he’d immediately tell me and we’d work on a solution. I also wish I could tell you that I accepted that my partner loves my in his slightly different way but with all of his heart and with the strong will to keep me as the most important confidant by his side. Or that I could at least tell you that I’m in a process of accomplishing all this and fulfilling my dream of simply being happy.

But I still sit there and have doubts and I still lay there and cry and I still have a hard time accepting how my life is going. Together with seeing how humans exploit other animals and fight against each other for no legitimate reason I got into a mentality where my only goal was it to stay alive and help others until I was allowed to die without having to kill myself.

Today I saw your comic. I saw how you told the story of finding oneself not broken or alone. I already found out that I am not broken or alone but as you see it didn’t help me get rid of my insecurities and negativity.

However, your comic was like someone telling me “Try again. Come on, you’ve got nothing to lose.”

I can’t understand a lot of things.

But it doesn’t matter because I don’t need to understand these things as long as I am happy. I shouldn’t let myself be occupied by the thought that there are things in this world I have no control over. I should focus on how I can make this planet a nice place for the creatures living on it.

And I will try this again, I promise.

So thank you for giving me the will to enjoy what I have. May your beautiful art never stop inspiring people to become a kind and happy version of themselves.

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This is awesome! Clap 
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this is the best....no words
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ArwenAngelisStudent Filmographer
It's so me... I recognise myself a lot.
And I'ma really happy to see that I'm not broken or alone.
Thank you. From all my heart.
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MiyaTheGoldenFlowerHobbyist Digital Artist
I do not know what to say. This ... this is beautiful.
Your comic represents everything that happens in my life about my sexual orientation, I never questioned it until everyone began to expect things from me, things that I did not feel, that I did not want, that I did not like.

"You just have to find the right one"
"You would have someone at your age"
"Why do not you invite him/her out?"
"It's just a phase"
"You are immature sexually, calm and you will pass"

And I came to think that something was wrong with me, that I was very grumpy, antisocial or uncouth. That maybe I was not worthy to love.
But when I discovered the different sexual orientations, I started to investigate and I saw this concept "asexuality" and I said this is me!.
But I repressed it for a long time, thinking that it would pass, i stop thinking in that and continue with my life.
And a few days after a conversation and being tired of "the couple talks" I said "I'm asexual" and I just said, just like that and ... it felt so good, it felt so right.

When I read your comic I even cried a little, it was like seeing myself.
Thank you for this beautiful workHeart 
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I'm so glad this comic was able to resonate with you. We don't have enough of our stories being told. I hope you're able to gain strength from this new discovery of yourself :) 
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I've only just discovered this comic of yours and want to say, Thank You.
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Thank you too.... =)
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I've only discover asexuality and aromanticism recently it your comic point it so right that I'm crying a bit ( yes, I'm a bit emotional at the moment)
It's beautiful ^^
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I completely understand you... it was really emotional for me too =)
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This is really great and so well drawn Sweating a little... Nod 
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TessCasStudent General Artist
aww, thank you so much.... :3
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thank you for this <33
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TessCasStudent General Artist
thank YOU for your comment :3
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finally i found a comic who shows how i feel, your work is amazing
keep doing stuff!
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TessCasStudent General Artist
thank you so much! I certainly will :D
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This is the best thing I have seen. Bloody hell. Thank you so much for this!
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TessCasStudent General Artist
<3 thank you so, so much for your support....
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:3 thank YOU <3
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