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So who do YOU like? by TessCas So who do YOU like? by TessCas
And it’s asexual awareness week again!

Here is a comic I drew last year but never got around to posting. I did this shortly after realising I was ace and all the warm feelings it gave me. I know some people struggle a lot with accepting this part of themselves, but I was just so happy to finally find a place I belonged in, people that actually understood what I felt.

Asexuality and Aromanticism is really something that needs to be talked more about. If I had known that not feeling sexual or romantic attraction was ok, I could have been much happier in the relationships I was in, and potentially have saved one of them thanks to being able to talk about my feelings instead of not understanding them, or I would have allowed myself to occasionally say ‘no’ to sex instead of feeling like I had to because i didn’t have a good enough reason to say no to my partner. So many things could have turned out differently if I had just known I was ace when I was younger.

And that’s why we need asexuality awareness week. Especially if you see this and feel like it's completely out of the blue and had no idea this was going on. Cuz that's how i feel. And I know about it.
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AmbroiseViridian Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
PLEEEEEEEEEEEEASE OPEN A  REDBUBBLE AND SELL THE LAST QUOTE AS MUGES OR T SHIRTS!
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gear26 Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
this is the best....no words
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ArwenAngelis Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2018  Student Filmographer
It's so me... I recognise myself a lot.
And I'ma really happy to see that I'm not broken or alone.
Thank you. From all my heart.
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MiyaTheGoldenFlower Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I do not know what to say. This ... this is beautiful.
Your comic represents everything that happens in my life about my sexual orientation, I never questioned it until everyone began to expect things from me, things that I did not feel, that I did not want, that I did not like.

"You just have to find the right one"
"You would have someone at your age"
"Why do not you invite him/her out?"
"It's just a phase"
"You are immature sexually, calm and you will pass"


And I came to think that something was wrong with me, that I was very grumpy, antisocial or uncouth. That maybe I was not worthy to love.
But when I discovered the different sexual orientations, I started to investigate and I saw this concept "asexuality" and I said this is me!.
But I repressed it for a long time, thinking that it would pass, i stop thinking in that and continue with my life.
And a few days after a conversation and being tired of "the couple talks" I said "I'm asexual" and I just said, just like that and ... it felt so good, it felt so right.

When I read your comic I even cried a little, it was like seeing myself.
Thank you for this beautiful workHeart 
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TessCas Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2018  Student General Artist
I'm so glad this comic was able to resonate with you. We don't have enough of our stories being told. I hope you're able to gain strength from this new discovery of yourself :) 
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madaz75 Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2017
I've only just discovered this comic of yours and want to say, Thank You.
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
Thank you too.... =)
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neru-nytsu Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2017  Hobbyist
I've only discover asexuality and aromanticism recently it your comic point it so right that I'm crying a bit ( yes, I'm a bit emotional at the moment)
It's beautiful ^^
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
I completely understand you... it was really emotional for me too =)
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Jadebat Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2017
This is really great and so well drawn Sweating a little... Nod 
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
aww, thank you so much.... :3
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Lucky-Puppy Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2017  Student General Artist
thank you for this <33
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
thank YOU for your comment :3
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Lucky-Puppy Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
:hug:
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Zeykanno Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2017
finally i found a comic who shows how i feel, your work is amazing
keep doing stuff!
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
thank you so much! I certainly will :D
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Orangcreme Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2017  Student Filmographer
This is the best thing I have seen. Bloody hell. Thank you so much for this!
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
<3 thank you so, so much for your support....
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chelsealhibbert Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2017  Professional Filmographer
<3 
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
:hug:
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Art-lover221 Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2017
Thank you...
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
:3 thank YOU <3
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Caiterz Featured By Owner May 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for this~
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
:hug:
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paun Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2016
But what about if you do like both genders but feel no desire or need to be sexually or romantically involved with anyone?
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
then you can move between rooms! no structure can represent the entire spectrum of identities and attractions... I feel the same thing you're describing... =) 
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Caiterz Featured By Owner May 29, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
bisensual (A sect of asexual)
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Maeglin-Amandil Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2016  Student Writer
Tu sais que j'adore ton style de dessin mais en particulier cette BD provide un message incroyablement important pours les personnes qui ne peuvent pas trouver une place pour eux-memes ou qu'ils pensent que telle place n'existe pas. Bon travail, Tess! 
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
merci beaucoup!! <3 c'était le but de cette BD, meme si ce que je représente est encore limité
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AradiaLeijon Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Um... I'm sorry, but why does only the "homosexual" (which, I don't think you know, but it's a "medical" slur made when being gay was considered an illness) have the STI and STD sign.. Idk, it just sort of rubs me the wrong way.. Some good proportions though with the comic layout.
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TessCas Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2018  Student General Artist
I actually put posters about sexual health in all the rooms, because it's important for absolutely everyone. Sex isn't bad, but sexual health is important regardless of identity Unfortunately I wasn't very good at comics or anatomy all that much when I did this comic, so there are a lot of graphical mistakes and omissions that I would fix if I re-did it now. Unfortunately I don't have the time. This really was my first go at making a full comic after all.
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The-Max765 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
But they ALL have those signs warning about STDs and needing to use protection. Because they all are about sex. Not gay sex. Not straight sex. Sex.

And...

Homosexual is not a slur, it literally just means "attracted to the same (sex)". Just like heterosexual means attracted to the opposite sex, and bisexual means attracted to both sexes.
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IsaHorse Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
look again, STDs/STIs are only mentioned in the "homosexual" room
speaking of which, sorry but "homosexual" is a word that was coined (and continues to be used) to pathologise gay people and if you're not gay you shouldn't be saying it
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The-Max765 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Using protection blocks contact with bodily fluids, which is how STDs are contracted. Using protection is endorsed in every room. And considering that unexpected pregnancies are only an issue for opposite-sex couples, protection for gay couples is primarily for preventing STDs. And if "homosexual" is a slur, is "heterosexual"? Or "bisexual?" All of these are literal descriptors of what kind of individual the person is attracted to. 

This is just a really sweet, happy comic for making a group alienated even in the LGBT community feel like they are indeed proper human beings. 
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IsaHorse Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
this is serophobic and homophobic and i hope you understand why
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Dra-Zednamun Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so sweet :3
It's fantastic :)
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016  Student General Artist
Thanks :3
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sakpalamey Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Don't people worry about not being able to afford shelter, shortage of food, rising food and transport costs and living in poverty in the first world?
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Ross-Sanger Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Let's imagine for a moment that I've got a minor illness of some kind, like a persistent cough. Now, I could say "well, it's not as bad as having cancer or AIDS", or I could tell myself that "well, people in poor countries don't have access to basic medicine, why should I?" and then not go to the doctor, and I'd gradually get worse, OR I could get the treatment I actually need and actually get better.

Small problems still need dealing with just as much as big problems, pretending they're not problems just because they're small isn't a solution.
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The-Max765 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
THIS. :happycry:
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2016  Student General Artist
There are many worries in this world and worrying about one thing doesnt mean you cant worry about another too. And each worry needs to be addressed on its own, otherwise it's one big mess of depressing things.
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GothicAnimeGirl Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Student Writer
Oh if only that tour actually existed.  Love it!
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2016  Student General Artist
Wouldn't that have made everything easier? ;)
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JadziaTheSadist Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I love it, great job ! ♥
I love your art style, and this comic brings its message very well. You should have posted it earlier !
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2016  Student General Artist
Hehe, thank you so much! I am very glad that you could enjoy and relate to it :3
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DemyxXIII Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was need this sweet thing, thank :')
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Student General Artist
This is the best comment I could have gotten :') im really happy it touched you. Thank you
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Drakmanka Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Fantastic, love it.
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TessCas Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2016  Student General Artist
Thank you! ^^
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MagicFool64 Featured By Owner Edited Oct 27, 2016  Student General Artist
Great Job, I like it :D
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