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Stupid question by Tenshi-no-Hikari Stupid question by Tenshi-no-Hikari
Hey guys, I'm not dead, lol! Here's a little comic as a sign of life xDDD
Sorry for not submitting for so long but my new full time job is very exhausting '''OTL Still need time to adapt to it x___x

But I promise I'll try to be more active from now on, still have so many ideas that need to be drawn! :D


As for the comic itself, here's a little description:
I hate that attitude some people have: they have the urge to put you into a category, either you're straight or gay/lesbian or bi, because anything else 'does not exist'. It's funny how people want to negate something just because they don't understand it. Besides, not having a girlfriend/boyfriend does not mean you're searching for one, even if you're not asexual. xD
PS: I'm talking about people who really are asexual, not kids who pretend to be one just because it's "trendy" or whatever. xD
Oh and 1% of the population are asexual, if you think about that, that's a lot of people!

EDIT: I know that asexual must not automatically mean aromantic and that asexual people can still want a romantic relationship. But let's face reality: how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this (or who's also asexual)?...
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Gaia-Nicolosi Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I've had people say that I'm too affectuous to be aroace.
Zyden Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2017  Professional Digital Artist
Ravenpuff Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was pretty young when I was categories as "not straight" by peers. At the time nothing else 'existed' outside of straight besides homosexual. So I was declared a lesbian wether I agreed or not, in lack of anything else to be called.
Kitsuchan59 Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017
Frusrating as hell, isn't it?  People keep insisting I'm gay when I'm not.  The trick is to have some really good friends who understand you.  For long term relationships, it can't be beat.  Another possibility is to look for a partner who has a low sex drive or is asexual themselves.  ^_^
EricVonSchweetz Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
ThePhilosophicalJew Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know how you feel.  I just went off to college two years ago, and when I came back for the holidays, my relatives constantly interrogated me on whether I found a boyfriend yet.  Though back then, I was still looking for one (Thank god I found one).  It stinks that people constantly (especially relatives) literally have to interrogate you about your love life every.  Single.  Holiday.
MagicalDragon8 Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
A friend in my choir is asexual but lesbian-romantic. So she has a girlfriend, but thier relationship is without sex and so on. And she is really nice and cool and I think it's a honor to me that she commits it to me, because I know, some people (also in my choir) would think bad about this. 
DaesLune Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017
I wonder what category I'd fall under. My feelings change drastically all the time.

At the moment, I see love as a universal lie and a tool to cause pain. Sexual interactions, to me, right now, seem like horrible and perverse things.

At the same time, I do crave more for myself. I get lonely.

I don't think I fit in any one category. I'm more of a 'nothing'.

It is frustrating trying to deal with gay friends and family who insist that I have no idea what it's like to be different. When you see your Trans-masculine roommate as more normal than you, you know there's something off.
Calaverico Featured By Owner Edited Sep 3, 2017
I do believe that love exists, just not in the way media tries to sell us all the time. I believe the idea of a person who thinks all the day about you, who wants to kiss/make love to you, who wants to spend time and shit is not necessarely love. Love happens when someone has seen your worst and knows all of your flaws and yet he or she stays there by your side. Not out of loneliness but because you matter to them. One of the best examples of this is a loving mother.

I have no comments on sex doe. I know nothing about it.
DaesLune Featured By Owner Sep 3, 2017
Oddly enough, I can see familial love and friendship love just fine. But when it comes to romantic love, just the thought of it makes me want to spit. Lies and disgust.
richardddragon Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017  Student General Artist
My ex-roommate is asexual, and she has a wife...
richardddragon Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017  Student General Artist
What I'm trying to say more or less is.... relationships are weird....
Orangewolf004 Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2017
You can be asexual without being aromantic.
richardddragon Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2017  Student General Artist
I did just say that, but thank you for repeating it.
RinMitzuki Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017  Hobbyist Filmographer
Being asexual has nothing to do with not having a SO. In this case it's a legit question. Yes, it makes matching harder. It just means you have no sexual attraction. Not, not having someone.
LTea-Eccentrix Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Like the comic! And I get the comment you made. Biggest fear is not finding someone who can tolerate my preference. I'm already a difficult personality, anti-social and average at best in the looks department. At this rate, I've already come to terms with my fate. Doesn't stop me from having a family though!
urzapw2000 Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017
i'm aromantic
great picture!
spidershark Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Well not everyone knows the orientation idea :T
isnorden Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2017
Ace-aro myself, so I know the feeling!
Frozenomad Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2017
The struggle is REAL =_=
HeraldOfOpera Featured By Owner May 20, 2017
Yeah, 1% of the current living population is 70 million people. That's a lot of people who don't give a f**k (note: that's my personal joke about my asexuality, and I need it to be clear which swearword I'm using because I'm punning on said swearword)
Petalsandglitter Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
omg why is this so true Face Palm emote 
Dragonbat1 Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm so confused by everyone in the comments below. Isn't asexuality just not having s*x with a partner? You can have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or what ever suites your fancy....
DemyxXIII Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
My life in a Nutshell 
Orangepelz Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I've been in this situation too many times xD
Rzavio Featured By Owner Dec 22, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Two Girls one is happy and 1 is angry the angry one want boyfriend and happy one think of a boyfriend
Ada-Erika Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2015  Student General Artist
Yeah, at least I a have the feeling like "Who would wanna be in a relationship with me? That's just crazy I don't think anyone can tolerate me enough xD " And I don't think it in a sad way I mean it would be awesome to have someone to cuddle and kiss and do some romantic stuff, but when I think about it I can't imagine anyone liking me other than as friends(maybe cause I haven't been in a relationship? I dunno)
Also my country is pretty darn sexualized (I mean like in a poll put as "one of the most sexually satisfied country" and some of the news that I've read here seem to lean really into Acephobic Dx ) (and all relationships are so into sex, like all my friends are so into it and just chatter about "How it's normal and needed and etc" -.- ) So hard it's hard. But thankfully the Health Education at least mentions aces and school wide pool had ace as an opinion =w=
Tester-of-Tales Featured By Owner Oct 16, 2015  Student General Artist
//This.// It's really, really irritating, hearing this.
Mustacio2000 Featured By Owner Jun 27, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
My life.😽
ThePuttySCULPTOR Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
What makes matters more complicated is that a person's orientation is not always easy to define, and subject to innumerable emotional and psychological factors that defy rigid catagorization. Things aren't always black and white.
Icefeather31 Featured By Owner Edited Apr 10, 2015  Student General Artist
I know what you mean, I face palmed when a girl said she was asexual, yet complained how hot guys never payed attention to her and how she wanted a guy to ask her out. It seems like people just don't know the meanings of words now. It's sorta sad though, since most things starting with "a" can mean "non", meaning "non-sexual".
Pompo-chan Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
tbh this is exactly what happened when i told my dad i was asexual
UltimateFangirl1234 Featured By Owner Mar 16, 2015
I agree with this wholeheartedly.
DarienOppal Featured By Owner Feb 12, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
=n= Some people I know are like this too, they know I'm asexual and I think they do it just began to makes me annoyed...
CinnamonPig Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's annoying how often I get this!
meperson94 Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2014
I'm an asexual, had a friend who was pan-sexual. She would always say stuff like this to me.
100Cat Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2014
OMC This happens to me all the time!!! It's so... crazy! If I could fall in love, I might already have, but I've never been nor will I ever. 
ML3mae Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014
A lot of people think Bi is just an excuse too. Like if they date same-sex "they were really in the closet that whole time." And if they date opposite sex "they were just going through a phase." Like you said, it's mostly because people don't understand it and are too stubborn or lazy to try.

I remember when I didn't understand Transexuals. My friend was trying to explain them to me. Oh god, I am so sorry to every last one of them.
Me: "So, they're people who can't afford a sex-change?"
Friend: "Well, sometimes yeah, but that's not the point!"

And, dude, I grew up with insanely religious parents and the first thing I ever said online was bashing people for shipping Roxas and Axel. I used 'gay' as an insult and went over how they can't possibly be more then friends. I sincerely apologize if anyone ever read that, I can't find the form again but Axel is obviously in love with Roxas.

At least I learned, though, and was completely open-minded in the end. Some people, though, I feel sorry for them sometimes.
skytiger859 Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
A friend of mine thought I was asexual for a while. I actually just hit puberty pretty late. When it finally ended and I showed interest in the opposite sex, I think she was the happiest person around.
MoonShadow777 Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2014  Student General Artist

I was everyone's object for gossip because they all wanted to put me in a romantic relationship, but they don't understand that I don't like people that way!
I want to be best friends with everyone! Not start eating someone's face! (which is what everyone else wishes upon me...) No, I disagree!
I'm in that 1%... for sure. I really can't imagine myself ever wanting to date.
TheTinfoilRat Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
"Not start eating someone's face!"  I love this description of kissing. XD
rumpg46691 Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2014
I like find this kinda funny xD
SaleneRose Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I can relate to the description so well XD I'm pansexual and whenever I tell someone I usually get one of three things:

1. Well, which one do you like better? Boys or girls?

2. Isn't that just bisexual? 

3. You have sex with cooking pans? 

People need to broaden their horizons a little...
Avvoula Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014
Sex with cooking pans XD
Damn, I can't stop laughing :'D
CarrieSkylar Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2014
Oh my...XD
Phoenix-Skywriter Featured By Owner Jul 12, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm ace, and my boyfriend's a disinterested pan, so yes. c:
asexualdragonlady Featured By Owner Edited Jul 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
MenollySagittaria : This is true. While some will engage in intercourse, it's not fulfilling to them as it is to the partner. It's a function of being human. There are other Aces, like myself who would prefer not to have sex at all and are open to having an open relationship to allow the partner to satisfy the natural urges with another if he/she so chooses.

Sexual orientation does not mean wanting sex. It simply means attraction on a physical and emotional level. Sex drive is a biological tool that many take for granted now and is often misinterpreted to be tied directly to an orientation, though it is not.
Ada-Erika Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2015  Student General Artist
also not meant to be offensive Dx just saying if it does.

Having an open relationship is great. Lot of trust involved especially if only the other one is having sex. And if it works perfectly for some then it's great! But I must admit/say that humans being sexual creatures they usually get easily attached to ppl they have sex with (just endorphines etc basic biology) which makes it a bit harder than a normal relationship. (but not any way harder/worse than a normal realtionship =w= )
MenollySagittaria Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
"how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this"

Asexuals can and do have sex as compromise if they want a relationship.

But given the average person's inability to comprehend the concept of not being sexually attracted to anyone, they're likely to even further misinterpret an asexual actually *having sex . . .

And with the internet, finding another asexual is just a click away. (and later planning and moving, but hey)
novernil Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
There really does seem to be this big disconnect when you try to explain asexuality to people. Straight people simply don't/can't/won't get it, and gay people seem to be afraid it's catching. T.T

I told my mother I had absolutely no interest in getting involved with anyone sexually (or even romantically) and her sage advice was the same as in the comic: I haven't met the right guy yet.
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