LGBTQ+ Rant
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Wokebrain/Progressive Tryhard: "Wait, you're attracted to someone of the opposite sex AND the same sex? -gasps- That must mean you're Gay!"

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Today, I wish to toss in my two cents and expose this misconception for what it is; trite pandering.


I blame Tumblr and the Usual Suspects [*cough*Marvel, LucasFilms, IDW, CBS, Disney, puppet companies under Disney hopping on the Pride Month bandwagon*cough*] for promoting this asinine misconception. That if you're a woman who has romantic/sexual relations with men AND other women, you're automatically shipped in the same category as a man who has romantic/sexual relations with other men. When that's the furthest thing from the truth.


Contrary to what the fairytale image concocted by people with way too much free time and too much money to spend would have you believe, I'll spell it out here; if you are Gay, it means that you have a romantic attraction toward other men. It does not mean the same as you finding both men AND women attractive. That is called Bisexuality.


But that's not even the worst part. You see, Bisexuality Representation in Media is both the safest and the most annoying kind of Representation. Want to have a girl kissing another girl to show how progressive you are, but don't want to piss off the censors? Just say they're Gay and move on. So what if the characters involved previously hung out with male characters, and by mixing up Bisexuality with Homosexuality, we're pushing out the one group in the media that's been constantly fucked over and misrepresented as weak-willed self-destructive pansies or pedophiles, in exchange for one tumblrite's half-assed headcanon between two women who've barely spoken to each another? If we say they're Gay, the fangirls will justify our slacktivism for us by saying we're progressive. When in reality, it's to LGBT representation what the Kiddy Pool is compared to a Swimming Pool.


The term Gay refers to an orientation between one man and another man. It is not, and has never been, meant to be used as a cheaply-made umbrella term for lesbianism, bisexuality, intersexuality, transgenderism [which isn't a sexual orientation, but rather transitioning from one sexuality to the other], etc. that you can slap on a business sign and call it a day. When you keep peddling this misconception, all you wind up with is an ocean of Korrasamis.

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AHarryKidd's avatar

I understand every term on here except intersexual.


Is that like gender fluidity? Or is it someone who is attracted to people without discriminating whether they identify as a man, a woman, or anything in-between, otherwise known as a pansexual? Or something else?


As someone interested in LGBTQ+ activism, as well as a decent human being, I consider everyone worthy of celebration (except for sexual predators), so when I come across an unfamiliar word, I tend to ask these kinds of questions, as I consider it my duty to be inclusive of everyone.

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TeiOujaStudent Digital Artist
I honestly don’t know anymore.
Burke23's avatar

I'm not used to being around people that are LGBTQ openly. i live in a very religious community.

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TeiOujaStudent Digital Artist

I can understand that. I mean, I didn't really 'come out' until 2018. Even then, my folks didn't see it as a big deal.

Burke23's avatar

Well it is where I am. There is literally someone in town that boycotts the dollar store for selling copies of the rocketman movie. You know, the movie about Elton John?

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TeiOujaStudent Digital Artist

Really, boycotting the dollar store? It's not even like most DVD shops where the profits go to the makers. You're literally paying for a local business to keep its' doors open.

Burke23's avatar

She's crazy, and very anti-gay.

AHarryKidd's avatar

Sounds like certain people in my area.


People tend to forget that religion has been used as an excuse to discriminate against the metaphorical other, since at least the dawn of monotheistic thought, when the prophet zoroaster led the very first of those sorts of religions in Persia, circa 3000+BCE.

Burke23's avatar

Interesting

FemaleJester1212's avatar

It’s sad that some people don’t understand the difference between gay/lesbian and bisexuality. Eyeroll Icon 🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️


It’s like how some people don’t realize that a person can be attracted to any (more than one) gender along with not realizing attraction to gender basically has no limitations. Gender is basically a trait/characteristic of a person, and it’s possible for a person to be attracted to more than one gender.


Those who refer to a bisexual person, ”That person is gay!” might as well say that, “the bisexual person is straight” when bisexuality is neither straight nor gay.

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TeiOujaStudent Digital Artist

Exactly my point. It feels like these same people who want to push this misconception are doing it to scrub the long, painful road homosexual men had to travel from history. All that pain and misery, the protests, for a thin sliver of hope that they'd be recognised as human beings. And then, when the label's finally recognised by every corporation, it ends up being slapped onto an entirely different orientation that have had it ridiculously easy by comparison. And the worst part? No-one is speaking out about it.

FemaleJester1212's avatar

Ikr?


It is worth mentioning that it’s also sad that some people don’t realize that you can’t force someone to be attracted to someone nor can you force someone to be attracted to someone— this includes the gender someone identifies as. It’s stupid and pointless to force someone to be attracted to someone or to not be attracted to someone cuz of the characteristics/traits someone has to them. Forcing someone to be attracted to someone or to not be attracted to someone is basically forcing someone to change (whether it’d be against their will or if they can’t change).

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