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You're Not Alone

Tue Dec 24, 2013, 11:43 AM
Untitled-1 by techgnotic

“Sometimes we lay aside our own troubles when we wipe away another's tears.”


Is no longer alone


his life is not easy; a winding, sometimes whimsical, sometimes tragic journey that ultimately finds terminus in the same common destination for each of us. No matter the brave, fierce constructs we build and serve that would have us believe we are each one of us all alone as we make this journey, we make our way toward the end of all things side-by-side in our community of the living each day defying death.  Our paths may be wildly divergent—the way of the hungry and impoverished traveling the same timeline with the grotesquely indulgent, the very best of us side-by-side with the most evil of us; but all headed for the same fate: dust. Every one hundred years or so, tribes of all new people roam the Earthsphere, trying to figure it out one more time from the handful of clues, many just recycled, left by those having come and gone before.

Until there were written records, the clues were all visual; a handprint on a cave wall and then a foot cast in dried silica turned to fossil; maybe a drawing of an animal; maybe a group of stones that is now incomprehensible but undeniably sculptural. Only recently do we humans use writing at all or keep things in books. Museums are only a couple of hundred years old.  Public ones are mostly younger than a hundred.  And now we collect clues in digits in quantities and scope unparalleled in the past with the vain glorious hope that our collective records will last for all ages and transmit out to other universes; when of course the reality may be that a single electrical blip, perhaps a sizeable solar flare, could wipe those digits clean in an instant.  It is the here and now that matters. It is the collection in front of our eyes that draws meaning. It is the art you make now that expresses your soul and reflects all that has come before worth knowing and projects forward all that will be forever.

It has always been easy to imagine ourselves, and truly believe ourselves, to be all alone in our journey through life.  For some of us this perceived loneliness is too much for a human being to bear, especially at the Holidays. But this cannot be.

In this new millennium, the spirit of the cyber-Magi, ghosts riding the world web, have brought us a gift of connectivity and global community such has never existed before.  The phantom of aloneness is finally disintegrating and blowing away amidst wave after wave of millions upon millions of web citizens linking with each other.

Communities like deviantART and others that have formed with the advent of the web have suddenly given us the opportunity to move past the confines of our own geographical “villages” and allowed a connection and sometimes, more aptly, a collision, of diverse humanity to connect and jack in to the collective Anima Mundi.

We feel alone with our personal problems, secrets, burdens, and self-destructive obstructive thoughts—suffocating thoughts that sometimes seem to be slowly killing the soul. Such are our thoughts of absolute isolation when confronting our hidden things that are too much for one person to handle.

But sharing our pain begins our healing.

And beyond that: Shared pain often leads to shared healing.

I have read so many deeply moving journals over the years with story after story of support and friendship both on the site between artists of every stage of development and off site between friends, colleagues, lovers, co-workers, activists, and everything in between. Deeply important connections shared with each other sparked by an initial passion for art years before. The deviantART community has proven to me again and again that at core it operates on a currency of love—love for art and love for other community members.

Since finding the deviantART community I have made friends and shared burdens with people on deviantART that were not shared in real life. Many burdens require just such a community of others who have endured similar fire or experiences, as they sometimes are the only healing waters that can extinguish tormenting flames. At some point I will write about my experience and I will share pivotal moments of peace I found at critical junctures through connecting with others around the world within the deviantART community. It should be no surprise that the deviantART community should provide such a source of regenerative person-to-person healing.

Many online communities are capable of providing loving curative support to worldwide members. But deviantART, for me, with the message of the special powers of ART at its core, is a massive supernova-strength engine for global as well as personal peer-to-peer communication and healing. The very idea, intention, comprehension, gift, and nature of art can be a powerful form of communal and personal healing. A community of millions with an art intention can heal multitudes.

Don’t believe the depressing hype.

It may just be you all by your lonesome, warming your bones by your fireplace yule log (or like me renting a video of a fireplace and watching it burn and flicker on a TV set), as the snow piles up outside… But you are not alone. If you are reading this Holiday Message it means that you have 24/7 access and instantaneous worldwide reach at your fingertips.

We’re on our way into 2014—and we’re going in shoulder-to-shoulder, side-by-side, connected and jacked into our worldwide community’s future.

The sum of our Karma will one day free the Universe (so enough with the too-hip-for-the-room grumpy Scrooge vibe).

Onward, to the next artful steps on our path.

  1. Have you ever had a secret you feared would alienate your friends, but only strengthened your friendship when it was revealed?

  2. Do the holidays make you want to retreat or explode?

  3. Are the arts or the making of art a pathway to getting you through tough times?

  4. How have you used the deviantART community to connect during the holidays?

This holiday season, it can be easy to feel an ineffable disconnect for any multitude of reasons. But if the thriving and ever-growing community of deviantART can give you one gift this year, it's the knowledge that you are not alone. Let art and community into your soul for an inspirational dose of healing whenever you may need it.

Writers: $techgnotic
Designers: $marioluevanos
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CartoonyFan221 Featured By Owner Dec 16, 2017
1. I think so
2. No, I like the holidays
3. Well.. I guess. I wish make some art, but stories do. :D
4. Not really
suruha Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Some of my most light and carefree giggles and some of the most chest-heaving sobs, that I have shared with another, have been on the internet, usually in communities like this. Sometimes, it is a result of my seeking out what I needed. Then, there have been so many times where 'a friend' found me! This form of support is so vital, and just knowing there is ALWAYS someone, somewhere, to talk with, is good!
I like what you do! Thank you!
skullhead4554 Featured By Owner May 8, 2016
1. Maybe.
2. Maybe both,
3. Yes.
4. I believe, so.

Amazing! :)
WatcherMagic Featured By Owner May 4, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I followed a few links and wound up here... absolutely true. All of it.

1. Never had one?

2. Bit of both... I explode during daylight hours and retreat when the sun dips below the horizon.

3. Yes.

4. Too new for that, but I plan to.
jonwatson87 Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2016  Professional General Artist
Lovely post, and as applicable in 2016 as it was back then! :) *hugs*
GeorgeXVII Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2015   Traditional Artist
Great journal , all the best !!!! 
crazydreamy Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2015
So glad I've found this post; you've given a gift to the community.
WindySilver Featured By Owner Apr 28, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
1. Actually yes.
2. I mostly retreat to my own peace during holidays. I keep in touch with my online friends and sometimes message with my IRL friends. But since I see them daily outside holidays, I prefer having some seclusion and private time otherwise.
3. Well, kinda. I think that if I haven't already expressed some of the more difficult things in my stories, I will do that.
4. Yes.
Tachiagaru Featured By Owner Edited Feb 21, 2015
1. Shared with someone i trust deeply, in the end we don't even talk to eachother....... <- Have no friend i know in rl but 1 sorta 1 da friend..
2. At the moment the holidays are same as any other day.
3.Art helps me express myself and let some emotions out.
4.Used to connect to others on da on my old abandoned account now no-one, ppl do end up alone on here or not..
Holidays are just like any-other day atm.
RoamingEopeton Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2015
1.  Maybe if I had friends...
2.  'Explode'...?  Maybe with food..  The holidays have often been a time when I can get a reprieve from the bullying and shit at school.
3.  It sure was, back when I was regularly facing bouts of depression.  What worked most for me was listening to music.
4.  I didn't, unfortunately.. too busy enjoying the break with my family!
ArtOfTheChaotic Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2015  Student Writer
1. Ive never revealed any of my secrets to my friends...At least not yet.
2. Depends on how things are going in my family.
3. Yes
4. No
Hashtagkitty14 Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
1. yes
3. yes
4.The community has helped me because I don't get to celebrate holidays too much because of money issues but when I saw the inspiring art it like gives me hope I guess u could say. It reminds me that I have a blessing of good health and a loving family. For all of that I am truly blessed.*Free Icon/Emote* Thank You Pusheen *Free Icon/Emote* Thank You Pusheen *Free Icon/Emote* Thank You Pusheen *Free Icon/Emote* Thank You Pusheen *Free Icon/Emote* Thank You Pusheen 
zesinidia Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
 1. I remember once, it was a secret about the things she did not know about me and when I told her she told me that she has somehow seen in it me, which made me feel indescribably happy because she had seen all of me somehow and even parts I cannot always see, she sees clearly. Which is probably why she means the world to me...

 2. retreat, away from the world and the all of the people and just at home and enjoy the simple things

 3. sometimes, it mostly come at the end of it. During bad times I am usually drained of inspiration, but when I start feeling better art has often helped me out of it, because it is one of the things I enjoy the most

 4. no, I have not... I am not good at social interacting - even more so online
kanekichigo24 Featured By Owner Aug 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Depends on which holiday and how many people are there and what mood I'm in
Just making art for that holiday
1DeViLiShDuDe Featured By Owner Jul 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
grumpy Scrooge vibe
I had to laugh :)
I couldn't stop it
from producing:D
I personally would
not look forward to
 A War Of Words!
with - against you!
Your prowess with the
explicative is - heart-
felt and inspirational!
Applause withstanding,
you should thusly take
a well deserved bow!:bow:
Ihniwid Featured By Owner Jul 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
1.I have that secret, yes, though have not and might not reveal it.
2. Holidays make me retreat inside, except Halloween. Halloween is the best night of the year.
3. Dear God, yes.
4. To get away. (Except Halloween)
Nightstar10023 Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you!^^ art is Very Moving.
pantrer Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2014  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
a-sur Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
....something which soothes the soul...although stresses the body!....

Any day gives the ultimate pleasure, profound happiness...which can be compared with the  long lost days of childhood!
heartlovejulie Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
2.sometimes, matter how bad the stuff going on in my family is
3.yes, it helps me not cut (don't judge, if you do you don't understand all I go through, and at least I don't do drugs or anything that crazy!) insted and it helps me use my emotions through the drawing or poetry I kinda do, I haven't been on here sense I first used this site and I desided to get back on here
NayKiler Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
So much feels... I like your text, it's so beautiful! =')
1. Yes
2. It depends, but usually no.
3. Sometimes
4. Lots of commenting and faves (I'm am in holiday right now xD) when I'm not at home and when I am, let's draw! :D
Pipoawas Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014
Very good words, although sometimes the more time we spend with our remote (or even virtual) friends, the less we spend with the real ones.

A warming text nonetheless :-)
HorrorHorseAnimation Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
1. I don't keep secrets, kind of like when I didn't want anybody to know I wasn't going to be able to hear again in a few months, I told everyone even though I didn't want to.
2. I hate holidays.
3. Yeah, I express my emotions through my art. Kind of like one day I'll make something completely dumb and the next day I'll animate something about killing myself or other people.
4. I only make a small picture for friends then I'm just like 'Screw it all, who needs holidays?'
Matthew-Slaymaker Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
As I look through these comments, I am disappointed. Most of you guys say you have either no or little artistic talent, and that you have no friends. Thats not true. I know exactly how you feel, trust me. I used to think that I had no artistic talent whatsoever, and that not everyone could draw. But that is not at all true. Everyone has some artistic talent, you just have not found it yet. You are only what you make of yourself, and if you see yourself as an artist, then you are an artist. If you see yourself as a dancer, then you are a dancer, if you see yourself as a doctor, lawyer, engineer, teacher, caretaker, preacher, scientist, anything, then you are one. You see, being an artist does not mean that you can draw. It means that you have creativity, which I know everyone has. If we were not creative, nothing would happen. Society would not advance, we would not make new discoveries, there would be no artists, engineers, doctors, merchants, there would be nothing. Every one of you is creative. That is what Deviantart is all about. Creativity. Thats why they created it. So anyone, and I mean anyone, can come and share their creativity and imagination with others. And to the people that say you do have artistic talent and friends, way to go! And to those of you who say you don't, life is what you make it. So make it exiting and beautiful, don't exclude yourself from others because you feel that you don't fit in. Don't hide your light under a bushel, Let it Shine! Show your artistic creativity, whatever it is, and be proud of it! Be proud of what you do and who you are, and others will follow in your footsteps. :)
Matthew-Slaymaker Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
1. I used to be self destructive (cutting) and i thought that if my friends found out they would think i was an emo freak, but they gave me support and helped me get through all the depression and pain. The outcome has not only strengthened my friendships, but changed my life for the better. I also had a hard time telling my friends that i'm gay. I honestly did not know what to expect. but they still support me, and they still love me, so they are still my friends.
3. not really. i only create stuff when i have time.
4. no.
illier Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It takes so much bravery to even think of talking about a personal secret to anyone else. And the thing that you can do to get a good reaction when you do say it is hope.I have never revealed a secret like that. To me there are only a few secrets that you should keep forever. Too many can overwhelm you, and the ones I've decided to keep are ones I can't talk to anyone about. I'm not an open book. But should you find the key, you will have to look hard and close to find what you're looking for.

The holidays give me a chance to relax.
I get to be on my laptop more, and at night I can stay up in my bed drawing (because if ya go into my gallery, it's nothing very impressive if even good...).

No, they aren't.
At least about 97% of the time escaping reality using my laptop and the games on it help me to at least think of a way to deal with those times.

I haven't.
I don't know anyone on this site, I don't know if any of my friends are here. I post things here but I get nothing, not even a criticism trashing my work. People visit my page/gallery, but prolly don't stay long and only got there by the random deviant button. It's my own fault for not being too active on the site though.

I'm 16, I have a 1-sided sense of humor (I can't make jokes, though laugh at others), I'm sarcastic and sometimes a jerk to others, I have to lead a bunch of others (at least 9) in a group I'm in, I have such a damn-high expectation level from everyone including myself it's driving me into becoming a fucking lonely bastard who does nothing but sit at his computer all day with barely anyone to hang out with.

I'm also a junior in high school taking a college course at a local college, I'm more mature than a lot of my classmates (usually), I have high grades and a high GPA, my first time taking the ACT I got a 26 (taken last Oct.), suicide has crossed my mind, but then I think of what my family would do afterwards and disregard the thought completely, I have friends to hang out with, I have my laptop and the games on it, my parents are not divorced, all my grandparents are alive and well, my will to help is stronger than my will to hurt, and I have people who care about me.

My life is screwed up. But there are people in worse situations. When the time comes when you get to decide whether to help someone or not, choose to help. You'll feel better about yourself, and your reputation will be better.

Ignore if ya want, I don't care. I did this to show that even though there's all these bad things that are happening, there are always good things happening.
SaraMcNamara Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
Ya i find it hard to strike friendships too, not active here either. What has worked for me though is look at forums and see if someone has same opinions as you, share info and get to know them, it progresses from there :)
illier Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Every friendship I have is a good one. I know at least know my friend's name and his/her personality.

It takes a strong will and a decently intelligent/street-wise mind to survive in this world as well as being physically strong. Words or actions can only do so much. But words AND actions can do anything.
SaraMcNamara Featured By Owner Apr 21, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
Thats true :) i just find it hard to chase people i want to maintain a friendship with, actions only go so far then, esp when u them 10 years. 
I think being vulnerable is ok too sometimes, I relate to people more if i know theirs
tjcooper666 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
1. I dont have friends lol but i dont really care i like being a loner
2. I dont celebrate holidays 
3. I do art because its the only thing I'm good at but not good at it at the same time
4. Im rarely on DA but I upload drawings no one ever even tries to look at
Sushi-Kittie Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
1. No, I don't have any friends in real life.
2.I just want to die exploding.
4.I talk to my friends but they don't even like me.
IrishStereotypes Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
1. Yes
2. Retreat
3. Yes
4. Lots of commenting
Bellykid5 Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014

1.  No  not at all

2. Definitely.

3. Yes...

4. It's all I have..

heartlovejulie Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
just know your not alone! :) I no it's extreamly hard but people really do care! your art would be cool to look at, I like art done with emotions, it helps me with trying to stop cutting
cougashika Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Your contribution was incredible: I put off until not to look at it. How could I be so wrong! You are right; art is healing.
HatsuneSnow Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
1. in a way

2. retreat


4. i try to be honest to myself and connect with people who are like me and don't hate or dislike my art/interest
SkunkWitch Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
God, creating is just one of the ways were I can just be free. No one telling me how to do it, or what to do. I just go on what I feel and fly away from my fears.
atomicqueen Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I don't know about friendship. I have some friends that endure, but sometimes my connection to them feels weak. I am used to sharing everything and not having secrets, so when I have to deal with the pain of secrets kept from me-- I'm not a forgiving person. Now, secrets don't matter to me, they're nothing but mistakes and words and perceptions. Actions matter.

Art used to get me through tough times, but I've been through tough times for so long now that a certain amount of emotional exhaustion took a toll and art became a chore instead of an escape. Everything became a chore, since it's been two and a half years at least since my last reliable period of happiness (which in itself only lasted three months maximum), and at least seven years since I first found out I had general anxiety disorder and depression. I'm trying to work my way up again, but it's going to be a while before anything feels worthwhile or meaningful. It does make me re-evaluate my legitimacy as an artist, on any level, to have lost my enjoyment of+connection to it so thoroughly.
SaraMcNamara Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
I travelled to Australia, I feel like I left friends behind, and when I came back they were still gone from me. Even though they were by best buds before its all just grown apart. They have no idea who I am at all any more. But that happens in life, If you want to keep a friend fight to talk to her and be with her, if not find more, there are plenty. There are other friendships that have endured too and Im grateful for them 

Im sorry you have lost your connection with Art. It is hard to be an artist sometimes. 
tigabelle Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2014
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. For me, I simply aim to realise my feelings and accept them. It's not easy, and often I have been hard on myself for feeling a certain way.

I don't know if this is relevant to you, but I wanted to let you know that you are being heard and that there are people out there who care :heart:
Iheart-fanfiction Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2014
1. Kinda
2. Both
3. Yes
4. I had friends to talk to, but they left me.
InsanitysSpell Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2014  Student General Artist
1. No
2. Retreat
3. Yes. A lot.
4. I don't know
bakkok Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist


3. yes a lot
Jayda310 Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
1.Not really
3.Yeah, most of the time.
4.I don't use deviantART community, At least I don't think so...
M00NLIT3 Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
1. No
2. Not really
3. Yes a lot
4. I dont think so 
soyunaperezosachica Featured By Owner Jan 19, 2014  Student General Artist
1. Never experienced that before, or yet.

2. No, neither of them. Gives me some opportunities to do something new.

3. Sometimes.

4. I have never used DA for connections during the holidays. That's kind of a weird question to ask, IMO.
deviantsaster Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2014  Hobbyist Writer

1. Nevwer kept a secret from a friend or had that fear

2. explode

3. Always

4. Lots

Aenex Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2014
1. Only one, and I've only told one person.
2. I don't even know.
3. To honest, I don't think I've ever been in a serious situation where I needed something to take away the pain. If there was, I haven't done anything about it. I would've just sat there. But I'd liek to think that if I ever am in that sort of situation, I can do something creative to make me feel better.
4. I wish I had given people presents! I did for some RL friends and put them on dA on Christmas, or the day after. I think that I could make new friends and connect to the communtiy if I really tried to.
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