The Lonely Path

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I have never found a companion who was so companionable as solitude.

Henry David Thoreau

I I always thought of Thoreau’s comment as simply a word game — clever but ultimately false at its core. A Valentines Day without a Valentine means being alone and alone means being unhappy. It’s taken many years to finally understand the truth in Thoreau’s words. We are never so alone as when in the company of loving family and friends, our Valentine companion held tight in our arms – but knowing we are lost, unfulfilled in our dreams and visions, and untrusting in our own inner counsel. Now I hope to one day seek companionship in solitude – meaning I will have become my own best counselor, trusting, loving and confident in myself, needing no others to encourage me to follow my true path to achieving my dreams.

Spring feelings

by pamukcuceveyediprens

empty poem

by the-psycrothic


by miaboas

alone with me

by LauraZalenga

Become aware of your aloneness — which is a reality. And it is so beautiful to experience it, to feel it, because it is your freedom from the crowd, from the other. It is your freedom from the fear of being lonely.


Most art has to come from a singular obsession

Is a companion, even for Valentine’s Day, a weakness to convention in the face of a need for excellence? It an be many years of Valentines Day cards and chocolates before the true source of loneliness descends: a disconnection to your muse, your art, your desire — the essence of that which makes you an artist. Will you abandon the false happiness of crowds and the search for that special somebody and nostalgic rituals and embrace the search for connection throughout the fullness of the universe through art? Solitude is the path to ultimately connecting with us all — to really touch others with love.


by akirakirai

No me esperes con la lluvia

by tatucito

if you're lonely.

by wannywanwan

Singin in the Rain

by crilleb50

Shakespeare, Leonardo da Vinci, Benjamin Franklin and Abraham Lincoln never saw a movie, heard a radio or looked at television. They had ‘Loneliness’ and knew what to do with it. They were not afraid of being lonely because they knew that was when the creative mood in them would work.

Carl Sandburg

Our truest love lies in what we find within ourselves and then share with all humanity

The artists, writers, collaborators, appreciators, and visionaries, here at DeviantArt, perhaps in solitude in front of their screens and canvasses, share this grand conversation with each other everyday through their own personal, yet fully connected art journey. You can never be “alone” on Valentines Day ever again. The key is in the words of Paul Tillich, the existentialist philosopher, who once said: “Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone.”

The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Pale Flower

by GerryArthur

lonely heart.

by inContrast


by Kosmur

lonely's day

by everyredqueen


by Coferosa

#3 lonely traveler, A Town Called Mercy

by Farbenfrei

We can recognize the dawn and the decline of love by the uneasiness we feel when alone together.

Jean de La Bruyere

Manufacturing love

by D3N1S3

Just a little Lonely

by Jotaku

The Lonely Mountain

by KristynJanelle

#lonely nymph

by Sabinerich

A Wound of Love

by Starshrouded

lonely -wolf- Samurai

by sakimichan

The more I think about it, the more I realize there is nothing more artistic than to love others.

Vincent van Gogh

We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.

Orson Welles


  1. Would you rather experience the loneliness of a loveless Valentines Day, if you felt it aided in your art? Or is Valentines Day the sort of thing that feeds your art too much to be abolished for even one year?

  2. Do you have an understanding of what it means to be truly alone in the world as an essential ingredient in making a truthful and moving piece of art?

  3. Do you like being in solitude as meditation to art or do you need the support and love of another?

  4. Do you know a difference between sadness and solitude?

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inkrush's avatar
Come back to read this every valentines day
WindySilver's avatar
To me, Valentine's day is for friends. I have not found the love of my life - at least not yet. As the years of studying in the comprehensive school went by, as friends came and went, I became more independent, more of a loner. Now I am in high school, and at least right now I feel like I really would not mind very much being friendless at school. I do have a couple of friends there, but I don't have hang out with them outside of school, since I stay at home for most of my free time. I have friends here online, and those are the friends I "hang out with" during whatever free time I have. Well, this year Valentine's Day is on Sunday, and I spend it all at home, studying for the test week and working on stuff on my laptop. The "Happy Valentine's Day" messages which came to my phone felt quite useless. I don't need a "special day" for my friends, because I care about them even without any Valentine's day. Maybe I'm just tired or something right now, as I am writing this. It's been a hard week.

So, 1. The loneliness of a loveless Valentine. I may take everything bit of benefit of it since I spend it alone anyways.

2. I don't know. Maybe somewhere deep inside I do know, or maybe not.

3. I prefer solitude. While I'd love to have someone, just anyone, take a look at my art and say if there's something I could do better (and maybe even give some advice on how to), I want to do the work on my own; only myself, my laptop and music in a peaceful place without noise or something else to interrupt or disturb me.

4. I do.
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I would rather be alone on Valentine's Day, than know that the person who is supposed to love me, the person I have spent several years with, is off with someone else. That is an even worse rejection than just being alone. And while many do not have a special person to spend Valentine's Day with, that should not be a reason to be miserable for the day. Treat yourself to something nice. You don't need love from an external source to be happy. Go get a cupcake, or a special dinner, go see a movie, or go get a massage. Do something nice for a friend. There are more types of love than just romantic love, celebrate those as well.

If you don't like how commercialized Valentine's Day has become, instead of complaining, find a better way to celebrate it. And instead of complaining that you never have anyone for Valentine's Day, just remember that one day you probably will. Because the future can change for you. Many people do not have parents to celebrate when Mother's and Father's Day, and never will again. That is a very painful feeling. So don't be bitter, keep your head up. One day you will find the right person to be with, in the mean time, make sure you are the kind of person that is right for someone else.

And as for the original point of this journal, I like to create while alone, or with other people. I can concentrate better when on my own, but having a group of like-minded friends around to discuss ideas with, collaborate with, and just be happy and creative with is also a blessing. A good set of friends can help you through almost anything. And sometimes, when I get too obsessed with my art, it's my friends who bring me back down to earth, if just for a little while, and remind me to do plebeian things like eating. Or stretching so my back stops hurting.

Passion in art can be a great thing, but sometimes it needs to be tempered and focused or it runs wild with you. And I love the passion, but that wildness of the soul that comes with it does not give focus or clarity, and can (and historically has) driven some to madness. So find comfort in friendship, and take that and put that into your art. Or take your sadness, anger, or loneliness, and put that into your art. Pull it out like a splinter, show it to the world, and let yourself move on and heal. Art can be therapy.

Just remember to keep your head up, take comfort in your alone time, go view something beautiful, and show how it makes you feel through your art.
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I guess I'll just say that I tend to prefer being on my own more often than not, so loneliness isn't really something that affects me all that much. Sometimes I just like being alone with my thoughts and my imagination. Being alone doesn't mean being sad, after all.
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Feeling alone when you are with your family!! Fullfilling your dream is not everything and not happiness, feeling loved and supported will give you strength and will to do what you want.
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I'm a lesbian every time I get feelings for a girl she has somebody already or is straight so I hate Valentine's day and America has made it all about sex anyway
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I'm a lesbian every time I get feelings for a girl she has somebody already or is straight so I hate Valentine's day and America has made it all about sex anyway
noamkitty's avatar
I'm a lesbian every time I get feelings for a girl she has somebody already or is straight so I hate Valentine's day and America has made it all about sex anyway
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I'm a lesbian every time I get feelings for a girl she has somebody already or is straight so I hate Valentine's day and America has made it all about sex anyway
Erzsabet's avatar
Then do something different and find a way to celebrate it your own way. It doesn't always have to be about sex, it should be about love in all its forms. If you only view it the way the industry tells you to, then they're winning, and you're buying into their business plan.

Lots of people experience the frustration of not being able to find someone to love you back. Sometimes it just takes time, or it's the wrong time. In the mean time, work on being the type of person that is right for someone else. It will help to bring more awesome people into your life.
baka-espada's avatar
Haha... Being alone is a feeling I am well associated with. I do like the solidarity.
55john5's avatar
For me, v-day was skyrim, 😳
laraJkim's avatar
So true, I think loneliness can be a trigger to creativity, because when a person is alone he/she can reach his inner soul and think about new ideas for arts. ^^
KttyChesire2716's avatar
I am that type of person ^-^
laraJkim's avatar
Really? That's cool, I'm like that myself it's the best way to think and produce good arts ^^
KttyChesire2716's avatar
Its true really i am really that type of person
Aya-I's avatar
How nice ^.^
Solitude is a nest. And sometimes there are other people in this nest too. And then we can choose to stay alone or to go near to them for a while :D
frankieluna3's avatar
I love this... Such a strong message. Amazing job 👍❤️
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I need solitude </3
nxplosion's avatar
solitude is to rest.
Andracus's avatar
Hmmm well. Valentines day never meant much to me. If you're lonely that particular day, it's just a day like all the other days. If you're not, then why should you love each other more that day then usually? Should this day really make a difference?
Plus, it's a sweet thing, waiting for the right one. I have trust that we'll find each other the day we're meant to.

I don't think you need to be lonely to create touching art. Art can also be a product of elation, of bliss, of boredom, of anger and of empathy.

I need to be alone sometimes. I have a handful of close friends, we love each other and enjoy each others presence. I guess it's just me being insecure about myself. I need to relax in a place where nobody but my closest family sees or hears me, to be myself without restrictions, to feel at ease... It's the same with art - not always, but at times.

Yes. Even more: You have to distinguish between being alone and being lonely. In my case: Jesus for life. I do feel lonely at times, but I know in my heart that I am not, because He's still there. 
A great feeling. You should really try some Jesus, there's nothing to lose, after all. He's inspiring.
DeadHedgehog's avatar
It's kinda hard to answere 1 and 3 when you never really expirienced the later :/

And yes i do know a difference between sadness and solitude.

But hey when you have voices in your head you are at least never alone o-o
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