I wear a collar for a similiar reason that you do. Yey! xD
And I imagine that if you went to a therapist voluntarily, it might be helpful. But I was taken, and needless to say, I didn't like it. I did think about telling one of the therapists about my therianthropy once, but I chickened out, and I decided it was better off not said.
The same goes for me with my parents. I didn't mean to tell them, but since I talk to them a lot, eventually I slipped and they asked. Thank goodness, my parents are understanding, but they still kinda think it's a phase or an identity crisis or something.
"God I'm so submissive sometimes, even for naturally being a very dominate, leader-like individual."
I feel the same way there too. Actually, I consider myself forthright and assertive by nature, but... because of an experience I had when I was young, I became a very insecure and submissive person.
Hey, we both rant about ourselves, it's even. xD
As for my mate, well.... I love him, very much, but he's a very technical minded person. Anything that isn't able to be proven is... not worth believing. I can understand where he's coming from, but it really does break my heart. Not to mention it drives me crazy, having my human side constantly on top, and my wolf side never acknowledged, never stimulated except perhaps by a stray scent.
So while I consider my mate a packmate, purely because I trust him so much, I usually end up looking for social interaction for my animal side elsewhere in my pack. People I love very dearly, but are not my mates. Sadly, these people seem to be very rare, but I'm lucky to have two or three.
Thanks for the nice comment and the fave! It made my day!