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Something I'm learning in therapy right now that I think is really important to share: IT'S OKAY TO HAVE FEELINGS. It's okay to have any feeling. It's okay to have every feeling.

Feelings tell you how you're doing. Even 'negative' feelings are important. The one I have the hardest time with is anger; I've always thought it was horrible. But you know what it means when you're angry? It means that your needs aren't being met. It tells you that something needs to change.

Growing up, I wasn't allowed to be angry, and I wasn't allowed to be sad or cry. I have a really hard time with these emotions now, and I avoid them like the plague.

But they're important, and I need to learn to accept them.

I actually have this written on my inspirational whiteboard in my bedroom. "I feel ______ right now and that's OKAY."

Re-learning how to think is really hard, but we can do it together. ♥

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Warriorcatsandmice Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2018  Student Digital Artist
using!
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ChatReaper Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Using!
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thegreatred07 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
use !
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Shelklyn Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student General Artist
i have to use thiss
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LPtheMagicalDino Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2018  Student Digital Artist
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XxKalosxX Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
using,MMMMMMM XD
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Beli0304 Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2017  Student Digital Artist
About to use in a few mins--
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2017
Thanks ^^
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Nyaneiiowo Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2017
Thanks ^^
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ArticWolfClaw Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Im only ever afraid to express myself when it comes to crying in public (at home I'm a mess though), I don't really know why. I go to the store in my pjs and couldn't care less about what others think. but I always hold back tears when I'm in public. It really doesn't make any sense
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017
I feel the same way about crying. I think that, for me personally, it's partly about peoples' responses being more personal. Sometimes people try to comfort you or ask what's wrong, or avoid you, but you might feel pressured to start answering their questions, or just start wishing they'd leave you alone....
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SmolAlienPrince Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
using. Thank you for making this.
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WvlfsBane Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
my "best friend" decided she didnt wanna be my friend anymore because i was depressed (even though i thought i was doing better than before, and i literally only fall into some depressed state every few months)

since then ive felt pretty bad about myself, but i gonna try to involve myself with better people and try accepting how i feel. because being sad isnt wrong. being happy isnt wrong. there is no feeling that is wrong or invalid.
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WvlfsBane Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
i actually stayed at a behavioral center because of my depression, but it made me feel worse. all the staff kept telling us we werent allowed to be sad or cry because "no one wants to see that"

im glad im not going back there again
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Werewolfninja5 Featured By Owner Jul 5, 2017  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Using! I love this so much because it's okay to express how you feel!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Mar 24, 2017
I agree. It is important to learn how to express yourself safely. :)
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Mrbunnykinz12 Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
HEY I NEED TO ASK YOU A SOMETHING
Pastel-Patches, Pastel-Dream, or Pastel-cloud
what is your favorite because i can't decide okay bye thanks random person
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017
lol!

I'm all for alliteration, usually, but I think I like Pastel-Dream the most!
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Mrbunnykinz12 Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks :D
Sorry for bothering you, byebye!!!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2017
No worries! xD
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SquishDemon Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Using because this is important
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2017
Thank you. :hug:
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evmily Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Using because yeah
I feel like this a lot
People don't keep my feelings in mind when they make me feel like shit


yeah
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016
Yeah. I think a lot of people get uncomfortable when other people have feelings around them, so they try to shut that person down. But it's okay to have feelings, and while it's healthy to learn how to cope with negative feelings, there's nothing wrong with experiencing them!
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evmily Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This really brought my day up. Thank you! I needed this <3
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016
You are welcome. :hug:
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evmily Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Heart 
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Fox-Trap-Forever Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
but they told me it wasnt ok to cry.
so im not shure how being sad will have any effect if im not allowed to cry.
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2016
The answer is that it is okay to cry. :hug:

I wasn't allowed to cry when I was growing up, either - except for very specific circumstances in which my dad would get mad at me for 'not caring enough' if I didn't cry. It always felt wrong to me, so I didn't completely internalize it, but it's still a problem I deal with sometimes. My therapist actually encourages me to cry when she sees that I'm holding tears back.
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Fox-Trap-Forever Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
woah.
thats so sad.
and thank you
i really appreciate the kind reply 
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MidnightWaifuWaffles Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2016  Student Digital Artist
using ^^
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How do ppl use these on there da page??? I always wondered
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2016
Go to the social media sidebar to the arrow next to "Tweet". Click it, copy the code under "Thumb", and paste that on your page. It will paste the image with an automatic hyperlink! c:
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okay thx!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Oct 30, 2016
Thanks :)
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using <3
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JoodleDraws Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Im gonna use this on my page if thats okay!
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016
Of course! Just use the thumb code. ^^
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E0NBREAK Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Using!!!
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Daebelly Featured By Owner Aug 19, 2016
Makes sense to me. I'm just a bit of a jaded person, so I don't really feel as much as others would; However, I still feel stuff and when I do it hits harder than it would others.
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Kialei Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Using ^^
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Sometimes I get really depressed and whenever it is in public

People would say " smile " or " turn that frown upside down " which I could understand they are trying to help but the way they say it is like a bad thing.

So, thank you for making this stamp!
///ihopeididnotsoundlikeapitybitch
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Sugary-Stardust Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016
Yep; where I used to work, I was a server at a retirement center (so I was very familiar with the residents, because the clientele didn't change). If I wasn't being chipper one day, they would say, "Smile!" Which, sometimes, is very sweet. Sometimes, it was just aggravating. I get that at my current job, too, if I'm handing out free samples. People are telling me to smile when I'm standing at the door, bored because nobody's interacted with me for half an hour and, you know, I'm at work.

Anyway, I understand you! It's okay to have your feelings, and I think you don't need to hide them.
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Haha it's good to know someone has somewhat the same experience like mines

Also thanks for replying back that means a lot to me love (●´ω`●)
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oOSeductiveBitchOo Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Sometimes I get really depressed and whenever it is in public

People would say " smile " or " turn that frown upside down " which I could understand they are trying to help but the way they say it is like a bad thing.

So, thank you for making this stamp!
///ihopeididnotsoundlikeapitybitch
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Using <3
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