Allow me to present you the watercolour illustration I was commissioned by DeviantArt for this year's Pride campaign, with the prompt "being LGBTQ+ and how one can be a good friend and ally to people who identify as such."
The picture is downloadable for those who would like to showcase it on their journals or headers and share their pride! And here you can read the full official article featuring this work: fav.me/ddyygow
I decided to paint a scene where a huge event is just about to happen, and I chose a proposal specifically because it represents something I can only dream of. Living in Poland, currently ranked the most homophobic in Europe Union; in Poland where LGBTQ people are treated as sub-human, dehumanised to be spoken of as a "plague" or "ideology" and things like marriage equality are such a faraway concept that we have literal guides published by an LGBTQ organisation on how to get married in the UK or Germany - which, mind you, has no legal power in Poland anyway, no office will make a transcript, it's just illegal.
This is no contest on who has it worse - because of course there are so, so many, who have it worse, and I can't speak for everyone either. My point is that I wished so hard there was someone who could've stepped in when my s.o. and I were verbally and physically attacked in the street for SITTING next to each other, that we weren't left alone, that the people around wouldn't just stand and watch. I wish so hard that more people will realise that caring about the wellbeing of others is really the bare minimum of humanity, and that while you might feel comfortable where you sit back, there are lots of people out there who have to fight for a smallest fraction of what you take for granted - because you do have it granted. We don't.
Being an ally can be uncomfortable. Yeah. But it's something you choose to do - for us, there is no switching off being queer, or a PoC, or disabled. If you choose to be just silent and observe, what you really are doing is giving an allowance for the awful things to happen to us. And that applies just as much to an in-person situation in a street and to the fact that we don't have the same basic rights as you do.
It's something particularly relevant in the current days, so to reiterate - silence in the face of this is compliance. That's that.
I love the face of the girl proposing it is priceless and you can honestly feel the support of the friends helping her with this big moment! Beautiful work of art!
To your description I am so sorry that the government/people of your country are so intolerant... I live in the USA were gay marriage was a toss up state by state till recently... I remember my cousin getting married in Canada to his husband long before it was legal here... It is honestly sickening to think about all the people of the LGBTQ+ having to fight so hard just to be treated like humans... Even in this day and age... While great strides have been made around the word there is still a long way to go... Post like yours is a good step in showing other the injustice in other places . I honestly had no idea about Poland's intolerant until I read this... While I myself am asexual I still helped fight for my friend and family who where LGBTQ+ because nobody should be told who they can and cannot love even if they are the same sex!
It's a shame how the lbgtq community is treated. Seriously. It's the 21st century; we're supposed to be less ignorant than that. Love is NEVER wrong or evil. Hate is very wrong. One cannot help who they fall in love with. Love is beautiful in all its forms.
The rule is "Do as you will, but harm NONE."
#1: Gays (just for example) are harming NO ONE.
#2: Hate, for any reason, harms many, including the hater.
#3: There's this concept called 'tolerance'. If you find lgbtq offensive, then be an adult and ignore it; no dirty looks and keep your mouth shut. They're not hurting anyone and they're sure as hell not hurting you, so suck it up, buttercup, and get over yourself!
#4: Don't teach or incite hate in others, as it is extremely harmful. You may think lgbtq is wrong, but shaming and slandering them and harming everyone around you with hate is the real wrong.
Never give up hope, my friend. You do not need a piece of paper, institution or government sanction to legitimize your love. You don't need marriage to be life partners. As the Beatles so wisely put it, "All you need is love". <3