Saw a poll about this a while ago, and am curious for your opinions. Do you think people should be allowed to marry under the age of 18, if they really want to?
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Yes!
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No.
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Published: July 14, 2014
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I think the idea of people marrying before 18 makes me a little uncomfortable. There's simply no way you could have been seriously dating someone for long enough to really know them while still getting married at 16 or 17.

I mean, I am 17 right now and I'm dating, and I'm hoping to make it last... but really, I recognize that I'm not ready for marriage. I'm fine with waiting - I think that extra time will help to prove to myself and other people that I and my boyfriend are actually serious about the relationship - and plus, that seems like what we will have to do anyway. We live over a thousand miles apart, not to mention I am going to college. Meanwhile, he is still in high school. There's just no way that would work economically, physically, and etc.

That said, though, I've managed to date him for nearly a year now despite the fact that we live so far apart, so I think we are doing better than most people our age. I've already kind of decided that I will marry him if we are still together after college. I'll (hopefully) be 25 and have a PhD by then, so I see no reason why I wouldn't be able to make a decision then. 25 is more than mature enough, and I should be more than able to get a good job.

But anyway, no, I don't think it should be under 18. Maybe in times past it made sense but I just don't think it fits in our current social structure. It's difficult enough to support yourself just being a single teenager with a high school diploma, let alone a married one. The thought of scrapping college to move down and marry someone and hoping to support myself with just a high school education sounds like a really bad decision to me. :P

EDIT: Also read through the comments, and saw some really good points. Someone said that if a <18 couple was confident of their relationship lasting and thought they were meant to be together, they wouldn't have a problem with waiting. And I completely agree with that. As I said, I feel pretty confident in my own relationship lasting, but I'm not exactly jumping in line to get married right away. I've got time. I don't see us breaking up before I turn 18 anyway. Something really drastic would have to happen for that to occur. But that's my opinion. :shrug: I simply wouldn't consider marrying someone if I was that worried about them breaking up with me in the next couple months. 
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Yea, indeed! I agree with that owo
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NarnMindWalkerHobbyist Photographer
I'm split between this one.  Girls as young as 12 are having babies in third-world countries and raising them.  Hell, even in our own country not too long ago girls could marry after 15, it varies by state law but that's how it is.

on the other hand, marriage is nothing but a contract.  That's the way it has always been, and still is.  There's no reason for them NOT to wait.  Until very recently, love had nothing at all to do with it.  Marriage was merging two houses together.  Two families.  (or more, if you live in Utah lol).  The modern concept of love and marriage is just that… modern.
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Yea, but I doubt those 12-year olds are happy with that... no one can tell me that's a good situation or a situation to justify marriage at a young age :I

I see :P And yea, there is no reason not to wait indeed.
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I'm all for waiting, myself.  Just playing Devil's Advocate for a minute with the last response.  There's no reason not to wait.  Having been one myself, kids don't know what love really is.  Boys think with the wrong head.  :XD:   A lot of them still do.  Even me sometimes :giggle:
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RavynflightHobbyist Digital Artist
No never XD Most people below 18 don't even know what they are going to in life let alone who they are going to spend it with. Not to mention the fact that people change.
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SpitfiresOnIceHobbyist Digital Artist
Exactly, they sure do :P
Yesterday-Torrey's avatar
Yesterday-TorreyStudent Digital Artist
Yes
Because if they fell in love and want to marry for mw its okay
^^
I saw people with 2-5 years having a girl/boyfriend its soo cute
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SpitfiresOnIceHobbyist Digital Artist
It's cute, but I think it might not be a clever idea x3
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Yesterday-TorreyStudent Digital Artist
I know

But i dont mind
I have a cousin has 6 years already dating
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SpitfiresOnIceHobbyist Digital Artist
Do you mean she's 6 years old and dating, or has been dating for 6 years?
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Yesterday-TorreyStudent Digital Artist
Shes 6 year old and is dating
And im 19 and never dated bedoure XD
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SpitfiresOnIceHobbyist Digital Artist
Well, but that's not serious dating... :XD:
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Yesterday-TorreyStudent Digital Artist
It is.
They kiss everytime
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Doesn't mean anything :XD:
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The idea that you have to get married to be seriously together is crap. When you break it down, all marriage is is a huge celebration, a big promise and paperwork. I feel like if they truly want to spend the rest of their lives together, they can totally wait until they're at least 18. Besides, people at that 15-17 age tend to be a little immature about relationships, solely because they haven't really had too much experience with 1. really serious relationships and 2. the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone because it is most definitely not what they think it is. As much as I'm cringing at the idea of generalizing that group of people and tying them down to the teenager stereotype, I feel like this point's one that needs to be pointed out anyhow. That's a little bit of a worse, more lacking argument on the subject, but I still stand by what I believe. ovo 
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Exactly! There's no reason not to be able to wait.
Yep, same. And even if there are exceptions... I don't feel like we should make those exceptions the rule, if the rule is something the majority cannot handle properly.
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not really. if they love each other, then they should just keep dating until they are old enough to be trusted with the responsibility. 
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Exactly!
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How could they financial support themselves I don't even know. I'm turning 19 and my boyfriend 20 and neither of us has a job yet, he's in college and I'm unable to attend school or get a job because of my anxiety and depression. I can't rely on him to be the only one to support us in the future now can I? So that means I have to find ways to work around my anxiety to make an income. That will take time. Now I know plenty of people have jobs starting as early as 16 but you still have to think, is that a job you want for the rest of your life? Can you support a family with it? Probably not. If you truly love your partner and are responsible enough to consider marriage you should wait until you are in a secure position. Now that said I have nothing against someone who is younger getting engaged to their partner. And engagement can be drawn out for years and if they want to power to them, just wait on the ceremony kiddies.
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Same here, I think so too! Nothing wrong with engagement, but the actual ceremony can wait util they are legal adults.
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I think that if a couple under 18 are devoted to each other and were truly meant to be together, they will remain dating until they are older. If you fear your partner will leave you before then, it most likely isn't worth it, because they'll break up even in a marriage. 

That's my opinion ;)
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Exactly! Same opinion here.
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