Poll idea stolen from :devokamiwhitewings: because I found this an interesting question. Imagine, one of your friends admit they love you. You have no romantic feelings for them at the moment, but they truly do love you and would do anything for you. What
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I would give them a chance, maybe this could work out?
50%
I would wait and think about it for a while before answering them.
36%
I would tell them we couldn't be together because I have no feelings for them...
11%
I would start ignoring them...
0%
Other
2%
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Caseybar's avatar
Caseybar|Hobbyist Digital Artist
god this actually happened to me :L I told them that i dont like them in that way and that i would hurt them more in the end but they just dont listen, theyre still trying after 3 years -_-
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SpitfiresOnIce's avatar
SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
3 years?! They keep on trying indeed... Sounds very frustrating :P
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Caseybar's avatar
Caseybar|Hobbyist Digital Artist
It is indeed >:I
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Roxalew|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hmmmm, that's actually happened before ^^; maybe give them a chance, you never know, the more you get to know someone the more you tend to like them :)
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SpitfiresOnIce's avatar
SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
True, it happened to me, too :) And yeah, I would give them a chance for sure :D
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Roxalew|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah... its confusing when it happens ^^; but giving it a chance is the best way to go :D
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Wellllll seeing as I'm taken I would have to say no XD... But basically, I'd let them know how I feel, but tell them it won't change our friendship in any negative way; the fact they trust me enough to love me (and to tell me so) gives cause to become even better friends.

If they were a friend, as you've stated, I would try to make special outings just for them. Not "dates", but like, go out for a walk and get lunch, go shopping together, movies, etc, because I know people who have/had unrequited love, and some have told me that's the sort of thing they wish they could do with their crush, even though they can't have them.

I would never ignore them. The fact they've brought up the courage to tell me how they feel means they deserves some respect. And if they lose a friend because they tell them how they feel; what about their next potential love? They may not get the courage to tell the next person if I was to reject them harshly... And that would be even more devastating if they had a chance with the second person. It's almost traumatising to be rejected by someone you really love; let alone lose someone because of it.

BUT; there is a huge difference between love and infatuation/obsession. If the person seemed more obsessed or infatuated then I'd hope to talk it out with them, but it would have to be on a person by person basis (there are different types of obsession/infatuation, I've seen a heap which were all waaaay different). But I still wouldn't want to lose a friend because of that, so I'd try.

That being said; I was asked out by a random guy once, and my response was "What is my name?" when he couldn't even tell me my name, I was like "YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME. BUGGER OFF." and left. But then, he wasn't a friend... At all. :I And he wasn't upset about my rejection, either. If he seemed upset I probably would have approached him and apologised. But the way he asked showed he didn't really care XD

And I'm sorry, this comment got really long :O
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Haha, long comment indeed :dummy:
Yeah, I can understand that :) In fact, that's a very nice thing to do, of course it won't be easy all the time but at least I think it would hurt less that way :3

Random people asking you out... Ugh. I've had that online a few times, someone I've never heard of sends me a note "wanna be my girlfriend?" What. x)
I would never turn a good friend down like that, but a random stranger... well I can't say yes to them, can I? xD
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AdelieQueen's avatar
I think it would hurt less, too... Which is why I'd want to do it XD

Hah, haven't had that in a looooong time XD Probably because I flaunt Michael around :I
And yeah, better not to get with a random stranger, don't know where they've been! :O
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Silverfox4life|Student Digital Artist
its ironic because im kinda going through this right now. i really like this guy, and he kinda turned into his "consultant" and i dont know what he would do if i told him i liked him. XD
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Haha, coincidence xD Yeah, that's hard indeed...
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manganimedelaney0531|Hobbyist General Artist
that happened to me but it was jerk that always hurt my feelings so i got really mad at him and i said "ok.... i dont like you back though...." and left.... i feel kinda bad but he is a complete and utter jerk!!!!! but if it was a nice guy i was friends with.... it would be more like this "*blush* oh... um.... awkard..... i-i-i'm sorry... but i dont like you back..... but can we still be friends? plz?" so... yeah...
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :3 Yeah, I think I can understand that :D
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AnArtisticArtist|Student General Artist
I'd tell them I'm sorry but I don't feel the same. and I have a boyfriend.
But I'd still be their friend ofcourse xD And I mean.. you can't force yourself to feel the way you just don't feel.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Haha, true xD
Yeah, that's right. ^^
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hartseeker|Hobbyist Traditional Artist
1. I think I only have two close friends.
2. I'm not sure if I'm capable of feeling "romantic" feelings.

But I don't see why anything would need to be different even if this scenario was to take place. I guess I'd be like: "Sure. I'm not sure if I'm capable to answer your feelings in a same way and I don't see how this revelation should change our relationship in any way. But sure."

Or something like that.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :3 Yeah, I think I can understand your way of thinking :P
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Hipster-Fish|Hobbyist General Artist
I'd have to think about it; I'm very insecure relationship wise due to a recent event, and now I can't help but second guess everyone's motives. I'd have to feel incredibly safe and at ease around the person before I even considered going out with them, and they'd have to prove they had no underlying motive... But if they fulfill these criteria, then yeah, I'd give it a go. |D
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SpitfiresOnIce's avatar
SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ah, I see :3 Yeah, I've had a hard time trusting people at certain times, too, but in general I'd give it a try xD
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DeviousFishbone's avatar
DeviousFishbone|Hobbyist Digital Artist
i think that you never know with who you might fall in love, so why not give it a try?
but maybe sometimes you're just sure you could never have those kind of feelings for a friend, so you might think there is no point in trying :/
its a pretty hard question, and the answer changes depending on how deep the friendship with ye friend is :3
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SpitfiresOnIce's avatar
SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
True, it is :3 I would probably give it a try, but indeed, it depends on how deep the friendship is. :P
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DeviousFishbone|Hobbyist Digital Artist
My best friend has that problem right now :I he really likes this girl, but they are really good friends, and he doesn't know if she'll say yes if he asks her D: but he told me he's gonna try when it's the right moment :b
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :3 The problem with that would be that the right moment is quite hard to find xD
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OkamiWhitewings|Professional General Artist
You thief :iconohuplz:
Totally the first TwT
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