In a relationship, from what point on would you consider your partner to be "cheating" on you with someone else?
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If they are friends with people of the gender(s) they are attracted to
0%
If they fall in love with someone else
17%
If they tell someone else they have feelings for them
22%
If they flirt with someone else
20%
If they kiss someone else
31%
Only if they have sex with someone else
5%
Something else than that
5%
I wouldn't consider any of those cheating
1%
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Published: November 23, 2014
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AskTheGreySkull's avatar
Some of more than one.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :0
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AskTheGreySkull's avatar
These were just how far it can come for my view. It can begin from flirt and end on having sex.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, yea :XD:
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wyndsEdited |Student Digital Artist
the last relationship i was in ended because she cheated on me by kissing someone else.
i feel like what defines cheating is not necessarily the action, but how deliberate it was. by that, i mean, who kissed who first, who initiated the intimate action. like, if my girlfriend kissed someone else, i would definitely mind, but if someone else kissed her (and she did not reciprocate) i wouldn't mind as much, because it wasn't something she wanted. i don't care if they're flirting with someone else as long as they're joking. 
if they do have feelings for someone else and plan to pursue someone else, that doesn't mean they're cheaters, it means it's a bad relationship that should probably be broken off before anything actually bad happens.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ahh, I see, sounds reasonable! Sorry to hear that happened to you D:
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Katiasmore|Hobbyist General Artist
Well, if they had feelings for someone else (And I have no experience cause I've never been a relationship) then I'd think that clearly we're not meant to be. Its not exactly cheating, it just tells me that if he gets feelings for someone else then he doesn't love me, so I'd let him know, and he could dat the other chick if he wanted to. But if he is still in a relationship with me, and he tries to pursue those feelings, or goes even further, than he's definitely cheating. 
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
If someone has feelings for someone else it does not, in ANY way, mean they do not love their current partner.
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Katiasmore|Hobbyist General Artist
.....But if they loved their current partner, they wouldn't need to look at anyone else. And I'm not just talking about love. I'm talking about REAL love, like, engaged going to be married kind of love. And if they don't see you as the only one, and they start feeling affection for someone else, than how does that mean that someday they could stop feeling affection for you if it grows stronger towards someone else? 
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was talking about infatuation that grows while in a relationship, so we're talking about different things, it seems.
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In my eyes: when they Kiss someone else. Flirting is no cheating for me as long as it is just for "fun" to have fealings for someone else is even no cheating in my eyes. You can't controle that and just to have feelings is no cheating. The person can be on your side even they have feelings for someone else.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, indeed about the feelings thing. They can't help it!
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Hawkieface|Hobbyist Writer
I would be a little hurt/concerned if they started flirting, but only if they started kissing someone (or you know, having sex with them whatever) I would be "HOLD UP. CHEETAR"
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ahh, understandable!
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Creature-of-Chaos|Hobbyist General Artist
If they physically interact (touching/a hug that lasted a little too long/kissing). :I 
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, that'd make me jealous too if it was too intimate :XD:
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I would probably say "only if they have sex with someone else."

The safe choice is too pick the "if they tell someone else they have feelings," because then you can deal with it early before cheating becomes a real issue. Talk it out, and if you can't work it out, separate and move on. Or stay together and hope for good results.

Anything else on the list can be misconstrued as something simpler, though I've known people who would probably choose "if they were friends."

... granted I've never been in a genuine relationship before so its all a moot point. :(
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ahh, I see :P
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Chedtim|Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hmmm. Tricky tricky. I don't consider falling in love with someone else or admitting this to someone else "cheating" per say, but if you continue to be in a relationship with someone you no longer have feelings for then it's leading them on- which is nearly or even just as bad as cheating, in my opinion.
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SpitfiresOnIce|Hobbyist Digital Artist
It depends, actually. Sometimes people keep going in order to get through it and come out stronger in the end.
In love, you often start with the fluttering feeling that is heavy and infatuation - but it's not love. And those feelings fade eventually, yes. But that doesn't mean your relationship has to end there, it just changes. And then it's more love than infatuation.
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Chedtim|Hobbyist Digital Artist
I was thinking in the case that all feelings for your current partner are gone, but if that isn't the case then is certainly makes sense to keep going uwu
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KittyKatWarrior|Hobbyist Digital Artist
//Comments for 500th time as usual\\ 

 So I was reading the comments with people saying flirting and kissing and things aren't really considered cheating but they are pretty much close to it.

If you are with someone and you fall in love with someone else no you can't help that but you shouldn't keep dragging the person behind if you love someone else.

If they tell someone else they have feelings for them, if they flirt with someone else, if they kiss someone else, if they have sex with someone else, if they fall in love with someone else, THEY AREN'T REALLY YOURS. Why waste your time with someone who isn't 100% into you?

(By 100% percent into you I don't mean that they can't hang out with people and all that jazz)
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Emberguard| General Artist
If you are with someone and you fall in love with someone else no you can't help that but you shouldn't keep dragging the person behind if you love someone else.

That's fine if you're still single. It's no good saying you should stop being with the person you're already with because you've started to develop feelings for someone else if you've already married someone. Marriage is for life. It's a promise and shouldn't be taken taken lightly. While we can't 100% control our feelings, we can tell when we're starting to be attracted to someone and take measures to keep that under control. The best thing would be not to develop a relationship with that particular person before it gets too far. 
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KittyKatWarrior|Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's fine if you're still single. It's no good saying you should stop being with the person you're already with because you've started to develop feelings for someone else 
develop feelings for someone else 

There is a difference between feelings and LOVE and i said love. You should only love ~romantically~ one person in your life

Marriage is for life.

Yes it is that is why you don't rush into it incase something like this happens. What if you marry someone and you think it's love but then this person comes along and you realize you were in love with the wrong person and now you're stuck with them?

The best thing would be not to develop a relationship with that particular person before it gets too far. 

Yes exactly what I just said so pretty sure we were on the same page????
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