Yea, especially with so many relationships starting on the internet these days, I think it's a requirement to just, well, see what it really is like. As you said, with the gender thing. Online, it doesn't matter at all what sex your partner really has because gender is all there is. But real life is different, real bodies have flaws, and you might be confronted confronted with something that makes you severely uncomfortable in a sexual situation. Before you decide to settle on a person, I think it's best to rule out those scenarios as much as possible.