Does someone's age excuse them from bad behaviour? Aka, if someone is younger than you and shows rude behaviour which you point out to them, is it immature if you to "pick on someone younger than you"?
341 deviants said
(Generally) no, they have to learn that their behaviour is not correct, only then will they actually make better decisions when older
16 deviants said
(Generally) yes, you should let them be because they don't know any better and it can be harmful to correct them
I can't say yes or no, I know kids with aspbugers can be hard to deal with. they rub off from others. so when an aspie is disrespectful, it's because they feel disrespected, when they are defiant they just have something to say, but since aspie's think way for from someone who doesn't it's hard to know what they mean. but when u think from an aspie's view you'd be very surprised. I know cuz I have aspbugers, along with adhd, so i'm hard to understand.
No..the kid needs to learn what there doing isnt right,using negative emotions like whining,or being annoying, Tell em that there actions wont get them there way,but only for more ppl to not like you..
Nope. When I'm on xbox live and there is a little kid gaming if he starts whining over anything we make it a point to explain that whining will not get you your way. No need to be mean or rude at all, but it never hurts to explain there are better ways of expressing yourself.
That's just one example, and that works for about anything. However, it would be rude to do such a thing while their parents are around.
Hm, if a child is being super rude to you and the parents are not doing any attempt to stop them it might be best to explain that you don't like that behaviour anyway. Some parents might feel insulted, sure, but if they tolerate their child to be rude, they are a bad example for them.
Aside from a few exceptions, I would definitely say no.
Unless someone explains to a child why their behavior is unacceptable, they never learn how to behave properly. And if people really cared about their kids, they wouldn't let them get away with it, because once those kids grow up they'll probably have no idea how the real world works, and it's not going to be easy for them to get through life with such a lousy attitude.
It's especially true of some of the kids I've met on here before - they can be horrible little monsters, and heaven forbid you try to reason with them and calmly explain that their behavior isn't acceptable, lest they chew your head off over it. In some cases, they don't seem to have a concept of what personal accountability is - they just push the blame for everything they do off onto other people. Case-in-point, I had the displeasure of meeting such an individual on here not long ago that would victim-shame anyone who she wronged, saying that it was their fault for making her do it.
VenillahFeatured By OwnerAug 20, 2015Hobbyist General Artist
No, I know this first grader who is a younger sibling of my friend. She is spoiled, and never gets in trouble for things. Even for on purposely throwing a tennis ball at my face (she confessed). I always tried to scold her because her parents don't, and only do it to my friend. I think it has to do with birth order. Either way, she always overreacts about things and o think she fake cries sometimes. She's gotten better, but is still a bit rude sometimes. There was also this kid at camp who I will consider a bully, and he's younger than me. He went on a firefly massacre, and called people names like "turd," "dumb dumb," and stuff. I once got in a fight with him pointing how rude he is, but he kept saying weird comebacks and kept saying he was rude sometimes and I was all the time. (It's the reverse, a lot of counsellors and kids don't like him for how he acts to them.)
So no, you should point it out and discipline kids, or they won't be nice to others and be disliked. In birth order, usually the youngest gets away with more, and sometimes more disliked by others, especially older. We don't want kids going around being rude and disrespectful to other people because the parents didn't discipline them on behavior.
VenillahFeatured By OwnerAug 20, 2015Hobbyist General Artist
I still hate pointing it out, because I'm shy and shake inside when trying to be assertive and stuff. I usually have to know the person decently. And yes, it's not nice seeing them like that. And it's upsetting when they're at an age where you start understanding more and seeing what you do. (Ex: I just learned and remembered who two of my cousins are) I hate when the parents don't bother to discipline them, even for really disgusting behavior. I'm good will little children, and while I may not like the child for how spoiled he/she is, I kind of act like a parent. parenting a different child that already has a parent(s) is not something I try to do. But teachers point out rude and unacceptable behavior if you go to school.
If you never scold them, kids will just go on thinking it's okay to do things that are wrong, so no, it isn't immature to teach them that they are doing the wrong thing. Although I think that if you're going to try and correct someone you should be careful and try to analyze the situation first. I've seen people spank other people's kids before and it was totally uncalled for because they were toddlers for crying out loud. Like, it isn't your job to discipline them, you shouldn't be doing that. A comment is fine, but dishing out punishments is just not right unless it's your kid or sibling etc.
Oh no, giving random kids physical punishments is not okay. If you have to spank a child to get your point across you're not doing a good job anyway. Words are fine - again, as long as you do it right. Insulting them isn't going to work well either.
For the most part, NO. I get if if they are -3 i kinda get it (they haven't developed memory yet), but if they are 4+ NO. I hate it when my parents use the exuse "they're younger than you, their phase will pass".
Absolutely not. If someone is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong (Let's say...6-7yrs old. And I'm being generous here.) Then you are old enough to be lectured/punished for your behavior.