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If someone you don't really know (can be IRL but in my case it's mostly online) comes up to you and tries really hard to be your friend, calling you a good friend etc. without you ever saying they were your friend, what would you do? 

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105 deviants said Give them a chance, but feel awkward about it...
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84 deviants said Attempt to make awkward responses that aren't really agreeing but not flat out rejecting them either because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings
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28 deviants said Uhhhh OKAY SURE LET'S BE FRIENDS
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19 deviants said Tell them you don't know them and that they can't be your friend then (can be more or less politely worded than this)
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11 deviants said Other?
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9 deviants said Ignore them.

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GothicChains Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Yeah, that's me........
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jun 13, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:XD:
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DTKinetic Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I would have to tell them I don't know them and wouldn't consider us as friends, but instead of saying "You can't be my friend," I would rather have him reintroduce himself and start from the ground up. That makes the situation normal and a friendship grow over time, rather than a forced reaction. 
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, I see ^^
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Roxalew Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Mmmmph ^^; would give them a chance, odds are they are just trying to be nice :aww:
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Maybe, I just get awkward with them :XD:
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Roxalew Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Haha 8D well in that case, you could always tell them to stop :D Just depends. 
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
True!
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Roxalew Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:D
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WinterSong12 Featured By Owner May 31, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
People online sometimes say I'm their friend and I'm just like "uhh, OK. I can be your online friend and respond to stuff you do and things like that"

In real life i am a social slug.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Ah :P
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InfiniteHex Featured By Owner May 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I formed a friendship doing this before.
The worst mistake I could ever make, honestly.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 30, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same. :lol:
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zooIogy Featured By Owner May 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Depends on the person, but in the past, I've just told people something along the lines of "We barely speak so we aren't friends; more like acquaintances".
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, indeed!
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kojoten Featured By Owner May 29, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
im a rudely blunt person so id just say "dude i barely know you, we arent friends? if you wanna be then ask but dont be weird about it and assume we are best buddies" pft im such a jerk
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 29, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's what I wanna say sometimes, but unlike you I don't have the guts to say it :XD:
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alkeryn Featured By Owner Edited May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
well even though 'friendships are made not just created out of thin air!!!!! you need to know eachother first!!!'
i would highly prefer it if people could just walk up to me and say 'can we be friends'    not really irl but online i mean 
its way easier ,, and if they don't straight out refer to me as 'my friend' i'll probably never think of them as one,   since i usually think of everyone im watching as inherently 'better' than me, even if we're mutuals (except people who are jerks)
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well I think everyone I watch is better than me too :XD:
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KittKatArt Featured By Owner May 28, 2015
I don't mind if somebody tries to be my Internet friend, but only if I know that they're a nice person and not just some stalker trying to get all of my information...but then, you probably shouldn't listen to me since nobody has ever tried extremely hard to be my Internet friend. :p
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see!
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AliKitKat Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I feel like I come across as that all the time, so I'm always hesitant to dish out the "good friend" or "best friend" adjectives. Though I always appreciate it when someone calls me their good friend, I feel wanted and liked and it gives me the warm-fuzzies.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see! I just find it super awkward coming from a total stranger.
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SekiiRei Featured By Owner May 27, 2015   Digital Artist
I generally see people who do that as attention-seeking unless it's obvious that they're just confused or something. Majority of the time when I see this, it's younger people trying to kiss up to/befriend a popular person or artist on the site.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, I have the same experience, which is why I'm kind of hesitant towards them.
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NutmegArtist Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student General Artist
If it's over the Internet, I usually don't mind.  As long as the person is nice, then sure, I don't mind being friends.  However, I won't really consider them a good friend until we get to know each other a bit better.  It's hard to trust the world these days.

If it's in real life, then I'll give the person a chance but be pretty awkward about it.  I won't correct them if they say "Hello friend!", but inwardly it kind of bugs me.  A lot of times it makes me feel like the person wants to be my friend just for one reason, rather than because they like my overall personality.  Usually the people who approach me like this don't become very close with me, though, because it always happens to be someone younger.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, it sure is.

And indeed, it can creep me out a bit sometimes!
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GlitchyDuck Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I myself will call anyone I meet "my friend", unless I loathe them. So I probably come off as a creep to a lot of people. ;-;
But I do get uncomfortable when people are overly outgoing towards me, so I'm a hypocrite of sorts.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :XD:
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LateAMdoodles Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
the first thing ill say is 'do i know you?'
i dont really trust people who start acting like that out of sudden.
mostly they want something from you
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same here, I have that experience too :noes:
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LateAMdoodles Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
im glad im not the only one XD
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MayaAtMidnight Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student General Artist
Depends. If I enjoy their company and we have enough in common, I'd just go with it. If I don't really like being around them, I'd probably just give awkward responses without either rejecting or agreeing to be friends with them.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know that feeling!
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Hugrf Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
In real life? Sure, I'll be okay with talking with them in hopes to get out of the awkward situation if they want so badly to be my friend, I guess... But I guess I wouldn't trust them from the start and would rather get to know them more than give them any kind of advantage on something. (Also personal space is a thing.)

On the Internet, I might ask some more questions about if I know them at all, since they might just be a friend who's changed their username really... If not, then honestly? I don't know. I might avoid them more, really, thinking of them as a fake friend after observation or I might be OK with getting to know them anyway... Who knows. This thing hasn't happened to me as far as I remember, so I can't really be sure. All I can do is give a prediction, but knowing myself, some of this is probably close enough. 8I //rambleofbrainlesslel//
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, indeed. Personal space is very important :P

Ahh, okay!
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Silverdreamstar31 Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
In my science class a few years back there was this kid who would always asked my do labs with him, and we were getting along ok I guess. One day we did a bacteria lab where we would take swabs of things like the keyboards, water fountain, etc. and see if it would grow in a Petri dish. He took a swab of his armpit, right in front of my face. Then asked me if we could be friends and hang out together. I told him I'd think about it. I thought about saying yes. Then we got our Petri dishes out that next week. The one he took a swab of his armpit in grew. IT GREW BACTERIA. I avoided him for the last few years. Now my friend has a crush on him. She invited me to go bowling. Mr. Armpit Bacteria is coming too. :/
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Omg, that sounds so gross :XD:
Though, you can't expect it NOT to grow bacteria, a sample from anywhere on your body would have the same result :P It's gross to see, but perfectly natural.
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dragongirl1012 Featured By Owner Edited May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
It would kind of be really weird if some random person said they were my friend.
I would say something like, "um, I don't know who you are..."
Their answer would change how I react to them. If they said that I was their best friend and that I just don't remember them, I would ignore them, but if they said that we had met before on some other website and that we were friends on that, I would give them a chance. If they said we had met on some other website, I would want to know which one, and who they were on it.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
And what if they said they just wanted to be your friend?
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dragongirl1012 Featured By Owner May 28, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
well, I would give them a fair chance.
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ALARIS-HYN Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student Digital Artist
As long as their online friends I don't really mind.  But Id still be a bit awkward if they over play my importance or influence on them.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes, I hate that too. I don't want random strangers to act all affected over personal decisions I make...
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ALARIS-HYN Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student Digital Artist
You are your own self, friends know this and accept it.  If their's anything unethical about whatever you do, true friends will help you go clean.  But of course strangers on the net are just that, friends are people that love you unconditionally and help out, consider your emotions and well being.  Just now I am a friendly stranger but a stranger none the less.  For now you should treat me with the respect all humans deserve at first glance yet keep any sensitive or none superficial intel about yourself well tucked in.  Trust is easy to brake but hard to build, anyone willing to go through all that trouble might be a good friend in potency.  
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aliewren Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
kind of what's happening to me right now ^^' there's a boy in my geometry class who talks to me a lot, and we hang out some, but he creeped out one of my closest friends a lot.. so i dont exactly consider him a friend but he says im one of his 'good friends' but we barely know each other well? and he asked me out too once so??
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hmmm, weird D:
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XylerTheWolf Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Be flat out and blatant and ask them what they want. people don't do that unless the have an alterier motive for it, or are just rather obsessed.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I have to admit I tend to be distrusting like that too, ffffffff
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XylerTheWolf Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It tends to be a helpful trait. but sometimes it gets in the way.
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ElsaTinuviel Featured By Owner May 27, 2015  Student Writer
Do your best to get to know them without telling them that you didn't in the first place. Be kind. 
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