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Saw a poll about this a while ago, and am curious for your opinions. Do you think people should be allowed to marry under the age of 18, if they really want to? 

82%
151 deviants said No.
18%
34 deviants said Yes!

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taurequine Featured By Owner Edited Jul 11, 2015  Student Digital Artist
I think the idea of people marrying before 18 makes me a little uncomfortable. There's simply no way you could have been seriously dating someone for long enough to really know them while still getting married at 16 or 17.

I mean, I am 17 right now and I'm dating, and I'm hoping to make it last... but really, I recognize that I'm not ready for marriage. I'm fine with waiting - I think that extra time will help to prove to myself and other people that I and my boyfriend are actually serious about the relationship - and plus, that seems like what we will have to do anyway. We live over a thousand miles apart, not to mention I am going to college. Meanwhile, he is still in high school. There's just no way that would work economically, physically, and etc.

That said, though, I've managed to date him for nearly a year now despite the fact that we live so far apart, so I think we are doing better than most people our age. I've already kind of decided that I will marry him if we are still together after college. I'll (hopefully) be 25 and have a PhD by then, so I see no reason why I wouldn't be able to make a decision then. 25 is more than mature enough, and I should be more than able to get a good job.

But anyway, no, I don't think it should be under 18. Maybe in times past it made sense but I just don't think it fits in our current social structure. It's difficult enough to support yourself just being a single teenager with a high school diploma, let alone a married one. The thought of scrapping college to move down and marry someone and hoping to support myself with just a high school education sounds like a really bad decision to me. :P

EDIT: Also read through the comments, and saw some really good points. Someone said that if a <18 couple was confident of their relationship lasting and thought they were meant to be together, they wouldn't have a problem with waiting. And I completely agree with that. As I said, I feel pretty confident in my own relationship lasting, but I'm not exactly jumping in line to get married right away. I've got time. I don't see us breaking up before I turn 18 anyway. Something really drastic would have to happen for that to occur. But that's my opinion. :shrug: I simply wouldn't consider marrying someone if I was that worried about them breaking up with me in the next couple months. 
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, indeed! I agree with that owo
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NarnMindWalker Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm split between this one.  Girls as young as 12 are having babies in third-world countries and raising them.  Hell, even in our own country not too long ago girls could marry after 15, it varies by state law but that's how it is.

on the other hand, marriage is nothing but a contract.  That's the way it has always been, and still is.  There's no reason for them NOT to wait.  Until very recently, love had nothing at all to do with it.  Marriage was merging two houses together.  Two families.  (or more, if you live in Utah lol).  The modern concept of love and marriage is just that… modern.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea, but I doubt those 12-year olds are happy with that... no one can tell me that's a good situation or a situation to justify marriage at a young age :I

I see :P And yea, there is no reason not to wait indeed.
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NarnMindWalker Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm all for waiting, myself.  Just playing Devil's Advocate for a minute with the last response.  There's no reason not to wait.  Having been one myself, kids don't know what love really is.  Boys think with the wrong head.  :XD:   A lot of them still do.  Even me sometimes :giggle:
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Ravynflight Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No never XD Most people below 18 don't even know what they are going to in life let alone who they are going to spend it with. Not to mention the fact that people change.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Exactly, they sure do :P
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Yesterday-Torrey Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Yes
Because if they fell in love and want to marry for mw its okay
^^
I saw people with 2-5 years having a girl/boyfriend its soo cute
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It's cute, but I think it might not be a clever idea x3
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Yesterday-Torrey Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I know

But i dont mind
I have a cousin has 6 years already dating
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Do you mean she's 6 years old and dating, or has been dating for 6 years?
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Yesterday-Torrey Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Shes 6 year old and is dating
And im 19 and never dated bedoure XD
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, but that's not serious dating... :XD:
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Yesterday-Torrey Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2014  Student Digital Artist
It is.
They kiss everytime
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Doesn't mean anything :XD:
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Skkon Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014
The idea that you have to get married to be seriously together is crap. When you break it down, all marriage is is a huge celebration, a big promise and paperwork. I feel like if they truly want to spend the rest of their lives together, they can totally wait until they're at least 18. Besides, people at that 15-17 age tend to be a little immature about relationships, solely because they haven't really had too much experience with 1. really serious relationships and 2. the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone because it is most definitely not what they think it is. As much as I'm cringing at the idea of generalizing that group of people and tying them down to the teenager stereotype, I feel like this point's one that needs to be pointed out anyhow. That's a little bit of a worse, more lacking argument on the subject, but I still stand by what I believe. ovo 
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Exactly! There's no reason not to be able to wait.
Yep, same. And even if there are exceptions... I don't feel like we should make those exceptions the rule, if the rule is something the majority cannot handle properly.
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Skkon Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014
Yeah ovo 
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neonliights Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
not really. if they love each other, then they should just keep dating until they are old enough to be trusted with the responsibility. 
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Exactly!
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TheDoomedSpirit Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014
How could they financial support themselves I don't even know. I'm turning 19 and my boyfriend 20 and neither of us has a job yet, he's in college and I'm unable to attend school or get a job because of my anxiety and depression. I can't rely on him to be the only one to support us in the future now can I? So that means I have to find ways to work around my anxiety to make an income. That will take time. Now I know plenty of people have jobs starting as early as 16 but you still have to think, is that a job you want for the rest of your life? Can you support a family with it? Probably not. If you truly love your partner and are responsible enough to consider marriage you should wait until you are in a secure position. Now that said I have nothing against someone who is younger getting engaged to their partner. And engagement can be drawn out for years and if they want to power to them, just wait on the ceremony kiddies.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same here, I think so too! Nothing wrong with engagement, but the actual ceremony can wait util they are legal adults.
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IvypoolForever Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I think that if a couple under 18 are devoted to each other and were truly meant to be together, they will remain dating until they are older. If you fear your partner will leave you before then, it most likely isn't worth it, because they'll break up even in a marriage. 

That's my opinion ;)
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Exactly! Same opinion here.
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ShadowAuroraz Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
No, people may not see the bigger picture and such if you marry earlier, plus teens marrying would be weird.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yea :P
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LollyWhiskers Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
All of your polls seem very thoughtful and I love reading all the comments and seeing the responses. 
It's very interesting.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks! I like making polls about interesting subjects and see what people have to say on the case. :)
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LunaClare Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Nah they might not know what they want yet because, not that they aren't responsible or grown up, but they aren't fully matured. If anything the marriage age should be pushed back to 20 or 25.

Otherwise I would say sure why not.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same here, I think so too!
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Scarlegs Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
No. I feel like they would break up too quickly, and if they didn't, what's the hassle with waiting until 18(Unless of course they were terminally ill, in which case I think maybe?)
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The terminal case is the only case I can think of that I could find acceptable - I'm not the one to deny a dying person's wish :'D But if you're not dying then I don't see why you couldn't wait.
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Scarlegs Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah. There was this huge thing in Australia a few years back where a 15 year old didn't want to die a virgin so his friends hired a prostitute(they made sure everything was safe ect.) for him. He died happy but lots of people were pissed off.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh wow D:
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spaceshroom Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Student Digital Artist
the legal age here in the uk is 16
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I see :0 That's pretty young.
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ZombieRaccoon5 Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Depends on the people.
If they're both responsible, and mature then yes, because they're "serious"
If they're a bunch of "swag swag alchohol and drugs yolo" then it might be a mistake, but then they just get married after 18, so it really dosn't matter. :p
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Well, but you can't really decide who is "serious" and not serious from the outside. It's either everyone or no one, I don't think a system where "they can if they're serious" would work.
Besides, I don't think you should make the exception the law - I don't see why they just couldn't wait?
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ZombieRaccoon5 Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
hmmmmm...

i don't know.... :p

ah! just get married! :D
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:XD:
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Piratelock Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
While I'm all four freedom and rights and stuff, I don't really think this would be a smart idea. I hate to say that kids shouldn't be given too much freedom, but this is one restriction that might be good. I think dating is fine for minors, but marriage should wait until after one becomes a legal adult.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same here.
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Nunafish Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
No, I don't. Seventeen, yeah sure. MAYBE sixteen, but anyone under that age are almost definitely not mature enough to make that huge of a decision. Even people who marry at eighteen don't usually have a good marriage, so fifteen, sixteen, or younger is definitely out of the question in my book.  
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Same here :'D I think the majority of people at that age wouldn't be able to handle such a commitment yet.
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Nunafish Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yupyupyup!
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AliKitKat Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No. Kids do stupid things, getting married would be one of them. A set career should be a requirement before you get married, to be honest.
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
True!
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AliKitKat Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
AND A LICENSE FOR A CHILD CAN I GET AN AMEN?
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SpitfiresOnIce Featured By Owner Jul 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
AMEN.
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Caution-Koneko Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
No, they should not be MARRIED until they have a career set out for them and have a degree in college and all that shit. But getting engaged is fine! It's not that I doubt teenagers can understand their love for eachother, but if they get married young and have babies before they get a working job, them and their child's life would be screwed. Only the father would be able to get a working job and the mother would have to stay home and take care of the child, thus making her drop out of schooling/college/her job/pretty much everything. 

However, that assumes that they are in a heterosexual relationship. Even with a homosexual relationship, though, getting a home together costs a LOT of money and getting married costs a LOT of money, which would make it more difficult to pay for college.
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