Hey, I get it.
I'm close to being underweight myself. I would certainly be underweight if I didn't exercise so much. I started rapidly losing weight when I had a health scare and decided to start eating healthy and exercising more. At the time I was at a mid-range normal body weight. You know what else? I used to have GG cup breasts 35 lbs ago. Now they're F. I know exactly how you feel.
I think the men who are drooling all over these women are responding to how "easy" they look. This girl is in a really provocative pose with lots of skin showing. The really skinny girls walk around with ass-showing shorts in the summer and painted on jeans in the winter. But think about the KIND of man you want to attract. Do you want one that just responds to that kind of superficial crap? I realize this is art, so in that way it might be acceptable. But I'm pretty sure this model wouldn't show this picture to her father. I sure wouldn't.
I wish thinspo wouldn't exist. I wish the glorification of women who look like this was more limited. The woman in this photo represents 4% of women in the US population. It's great to show off rare gems but when you make that the standard - it leaves other beautiful body types and styles to be underappreciated or even rejected. Let's just put it this way - what do you think looks better with clothes off - a skeleton or a lean/muscular woman? I mean, after all, we strive for attractiveness to entice a mate to reproduce.
I do think that men want women with toned bodies in the "normal" weight range. There are also certain body shapes that are more attractive than others. But then that's something you CAN'T change no matter how much weight you lose unless you're nearly at the point of death from being underweight. On top of that, I think a lot of men are most attracted to youthful women. Getting super, super skinny takes it to the extreme - then you start looking pre-pubescent. In fact, a lot of anorexics stop getting their periods. But the name of the game is looking young, fresh, fit and healthy. You can't exude that if you look like chicken bones.