You mention that people don't delve far enough into fairy tales and source material, but have you ever looked at the source material the Grimm Brothers were playing around with? In the same way that Disney "veered off course," so did the Brothers Grimm – their adaptations of the stories are notoriously misogynistic, often demonizing, brutalizing, shaming or punishing women across the board when the original fairy tales did nothing of the sort. I wholly recommend Grimm's Bad Girls and Bold Boys
if you're interested in digging deeper!
I don't approve of arbitrary changes or whitewashing of myth and fairy tales (Hera, Mulan recast as the hero of a western morality tale, the innate racism of Aladdin) but I don't think adapting or changing fairy tales is innately
bad! Even Greco-Roman myths weren't written in stone; they evolved, they were passed along and changed, and they were adapted to suit the needs and tastes of whoever was telling them.