A Concern For Manliness

The Shocking Message



These weekly devotionals I will be posting come from and are copyright to Pam Iannello, my pastor's late wife who went home to be with the Lord on June 18, 2008. They were written by a Godly lady for other ladies young and old so that their walk with the Lord may be strengthened.

Used with permission from New Beginnings Baptist Church.


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1 Kings 2:1-4 (KJV)
Now the days of David drew nigh that he should die; and he charged Solomon his son, saying, [2] I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man; [3] And keep the charge of the Lord thy God, to walk in his ways, to keep his statutes, and his commandments, and his judgments, and his testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that thou mayest prosper in all that thou doest, and whithersoever thou turnest thyself: [4] That the Lord may continue his word which he spake concerning me, saying, If thy children take heed to their way, to walk before me in truth with all their heart and with all their soul, there shall not fail thee (said he) a man on the throne of Israel.

Which of your life goals or values would you like to see carried on by your children? Before he died, David felt it was important to review his chief priorities with his son Solomon. Without a doubt, death has an uncanny way of shedding light on that which should be well regarded… Here we discover a dying father's major concern for his son is his manliness. Yes, David urged his son to be strong and show himself a man. In a sense, Solomon would be responsible for the continuation of God's promise to his father David, as verse four points out. Without manliness present in his life, Solomon would struggle to undergo what lay ahead of him as a leader. Such men are called upon to make up hedges, to stand in gaps, to execute judgments, to defend against destruction, etc. Ladies, God looks for clear-cut character traits in men that He may continue His Word, the Bible says. There is much opposition to the Word of God that requires great strength to overcome…

Job 38:3 (KJV)
Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me.

As the heads of their home, God will place demands upon a man that will never be placed upon a woman. A man must be inclined to firmly follow the Lord and obey His commands if he would prosper. As far as David was concerned, becoming a man that God can use should be the greatest goal of Solomon's life. If Jesus Christ were not manly, it is highly unlikely He would have endured the cross…

1 Tim. 2:5 (KJV)
For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;

What a great picture this verse affords us of the nature of our Savior! Jesus Christ was not the least bit squashy or effeminate; He was every bit strong, masculine, resolute and capable. Christian men should grow to be more like their Savior, the MAN Christ Jesus - and women should permit them! Ladies, there are specific things that God wants to do on this earth and He needs valiant men to get the job done… Can you accept that without having to challenge it?? Can you support your MAN in what God has called Him to do, or do you always have to show him up or seek out his inabilities? There should be no fear, no dread, no dismay, no laziness, no weakness; men need the same outlook and stamina that took Christ to the finish line so we could receive forgiveness for our sins through His finished work. Overcoming sin and the devil and enduring hell was extremely hard work and it took an extremely strong man to do it! Aren't you thankful there was a MAN so capable as Christ?? The Bible is filled with testimonies of men who accomplished some great works for God and we should be thankful for courageous, godly headship. Far too many women regard MEN as nothing more than a species to "put up with" and it is a prideful attitude in females! As Proverbs 14:1 reminds us, a wise woman would build her man, not pluck him down. Let your man play his part for the Lord! Cheer men on…

2 Samuel 10:12 (KJV)
Be of good courage, and let us play the men for our people, and for the cities of our God: and the Lord do that which seemeth him good.

Ladies, men are ever conscious of their responsibilities to their families and their duties to God, as well as their weaknesses and their shortcomings. Hence, it is natural to seek a way out of them. However, with a good and godly woman standing behind him, a man may stay focused, believing in His God and himself to bear the work he knows he must do. It has been said that a man's true value consists in his likeness to God. What gives value to his thoughts, his feelings, and his actions is the extent to which they are inspired by God, the extent to which they express the thought, the will, and the acts of God. When the Lord inspires your husband, what do you typically do? Are you in the habit of expressing your doubts in his manhood and God's ability to increase his manliness?

1 Cor. 16:13 (KJV)
Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.

When Christian husbands begin to grow in the Lord, you will find that their manliness will develop as well. They will begin to exercise "muscles" they have not used before. Neither will they flinch in the face of difficulty nor will their courage fall short for good cause. Unfortunately, women prefer to "play the men" and are unwilling to give up a man's responsibilities to embrace their own God given duties. On his deathbed, David made reference to the fact that when things are done right, a man will not fail to be on the throne. Who holds that position in your home, dear lady? It is amazing to me how many unhappy women cry and pray to the Lord to change their husbands and when they begin to show themselves as men in the home or church, they resist the very growth for which they prayed! Are you a hindrance to manliness, Christian woman? Have you contributed to the advancement of effeminacy? Have you made it harder for your husband to take his rightful place as man of the house? What we need in this world today are more fathers who are sincerely concerned for their son's manliness - and women who would not stand in the way of what it takes to come about!

Ezekiel 22:30 (KJV)
And I sought for a man among them, that should make up the hedge, and stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not destroy it: but I found none.

God Bless,
Pam
Isaiah 60:1&2
Copyright 2002 Pamela A. Iannello
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