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Trans day of Visibility by R0BUTT Trans day of Visibility by R0BUTT
I know I'm a day late but I wasn't home during Easter and couldn't post, but now I'm back!! HAPPY TRANS DAY OF VISIBILITY!!!
I don't know how many on this account are aware of my gender and such, because I barely ever talk about it, barely irl as well, but I thought that I should!


I don't care what pronoun people use for me; he, they, her, etc, it doesn't really matter to me! 
I'm in the non binary spectrum of being trans, and I don't recognize myself as having any specific gender that's in the binary, and refer to myself as many different terms (dude, gorl, prince, them, etc) and don't mind when others do the same!

There was a period where I identified myself as being a guy, but I stopped doing that after a while and settled in this part of the spectrum. I think I wanted to take distance from exclusively being seen as a girl, since everyone in my surroundings did, and I knew that wasn't who I was, and it was very hurtful. But now I feel much more comfortable with being seen as who I am, and presenting myself as who I am!

My parents are aware of all this since way back, and they're really chill about it, they don't see me as any different as before and are happy to have learnt this new thing about me!
My closest friends are aware of this too I believe,,, I often forget to talk about it with them, but I know that they like me just the same!

I've noticed that strangers and people I haven't met don't see me as a girl anymore, and sometimes are confused about how to refer to me. And that, honestly, makes me happy! 

I've felt comfortable and happy with who I am in that sense for a long time now! I still have a long way to go before I feel comfortable with myself and with the body that I have, but I'm taking one day at a time, and I know I'll get better with time<3


If you are also trans, I hope you had a great day yesterday!!!
If you are closeted, I hope you know that we support you still, and I hope you feel that support!!! 
If you are not trans, I hope you're listening to us and support us!!!

It is very difficult and hard to explain how it feels, but if you want to read more, there's so many recourses online today and it's really amazing! Take the time to read some about it!
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R0BUTT Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Digital Artist
bold of you to assume that I don't
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R0BUTT Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Digital Artist
It's not that I'm apathetic to how people refer to me, I'm just comfortable with whatever pronoun is used. This is just my personal case, but obviously I recognize the pain and feeling of being misgendered, I've experienced it myself in the past. It bothers me too, when people are being misgendered, and I do not advocate for that it generally doesn't matter what we call people - I think it's important to respect that. I'm sorry if I didn't come across that way! 
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Panda-Virus Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Traditional Artist
Hey! I couldn't help but notice you seem to have a very narrow view of the trans community and the variety of experiences in it that still completely align with being trans. There are many variations of nonbinary genders, and all of them use and are comfortable with different kinds of language to express who they are. It is actually VERY common for nonbinary people to use more than one pronoun and gendered terms / pronouns as well. Genderfluid people in particular, for exmaple, often (not all, of course, but still there are plenty out there) also don't mind what pronouns / gendered terms people refer to them as, since their experience is different from a binary trans person's. It is also NOT uncommon to see afab nonbinary people who EXCLUSIVELY like girls to call themselves lesbians, since it is an easy catch all that helps clearly define to whom thy are attracted.

It is extremely rude and self-contradictory of you to comment on a person's piece talking about being nonbinary in which you call them a cis female, due to your OWN experience as being trans that has colored your perspective to be so one dimensional. You, yourself, misgendered a trans person, then proceeded to tell them why their trans experience isn't valid and what misgendering truly is and means to a trans person, which they are already aware of and made that perfectly clear. It is people like you who give our community a bad name, because you believe yourself to be the representation of a True Trans Person that gets to police other people's experiences. It also is not pertinent for you to talk about binary trans people's experience in a place where a person is talking about their experience being nonbinary, that of which is an experience very similar to other nonbinary people's experiences. It would be beneficial for you to hear out other people before jumping to conclusions. Perhaps you would learn more about the community you so earnestly defend.
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Panda-Virus Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Traditional Artist
I was referring to you saying in your initial comment "female to female". That is a blatant implication that you were perceiving them as a cis person pretending to be trans, which was when in your next comment telling them they can't be trans without dysphoria (so you clearly disregarded everything they said in the artist comments).

You are not nonbinary. You do not get to decide if the nonbinary experience doesn't align with the trans experience, and it is utterly insulting and insensitive of you to insinuate that nonbinary people aren't trans. Have you ever even met a nonbinary person and talked to them about the experience? Because as a nonbinary person who has talked to both nonbinary and binary trans people I can tell you the experience is the same, just with differences being in how you approach gendered terms and gender expression. And of course a BINARY trans person might not be okay with multiple pronouns, but nonbinary people can be. And I'm not talking about 72 genders (although if you look at other cultures, MANY more nonbinary genders are very common), just VERY COMMON nonbinary ones. If you want to learn, you have to be open to realizing that YOUR trans experience is not universal, even binary trans people. You have to listen to others and accept be that you don't know everything about the experience. At the end of the day, trans simply means not identifying with the gender you were assigned at birth. That's it. That's all it takes. That's been the definition for decades. You don't get to decide who's trans experience is or isn't true because it doesn't fit your narrative, especially in regards to nonbinary genders. And in Otto's case, they know exactly who they are, they know their gender, and just because their experience doesn't make sense to you, doesn't mean that they don't understand themself.

Please do some research on the side effects of T as well. Any hormonal therapy and surgery has physiological aspects to be feared. And just because you change your body doesn't mean your gender and sexuality change too.

Also I'd be interested to hear if you think trans people who have undergone surgery, and therefore do not experience body dysphoria, are still trans, because, yknow, they still don't identity as the gender they were assigned at birth.
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R0BUTT Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Digital Artist
Since you edited this instead of writing a new comment I'll just reply to this again

Never did I ever say that I do not experience dysphoria. It even says in the description that I used to feel hurt, and I still feel discomfort, I don't know where you got the idea that I love myself and feel comfortable with who I am. I don't! It's a struggle for me, and I don't even feel like I'm able to express it very well. I'm not comfortable with my body. I would be on T right now if i wasn't scared shitless of it. I have not learnt to not let this bother me. I think about it a lot.

Even if I did feel comfortable and didn't experience dysphoria, that shouldn't dictate if I'm trans or not. And telling me who/what I am without knowing how I feel is hurtful, I hope you understand that. I'm quoting my friend here: everyone's experience with gender in relationship with their body is different. Some people have no problem w their body, but experience dysphoria bc of the way it's perceived by others, and to say body dysphoria = trans invalidates that external dysphoric experience.


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R0BUTT Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Digital Artist
I think we are done here
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R0BUTT Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2018  Student Digital Artist
Hey it's alright! It's a touchy subject, I'd be upset as well! 
And you're right, gender and stuff is just a small part of who we are, but it's complicated, and I'm not one to explain it. People find great value in those parts of themselves, to others it's just a side-note
The relationship between my gender and sexuality is confusing, and I can't explain it in a way that it makes sense. I don't exclusively like girls, either, girls are just generally really awesome imo oof
For me, saying I'm gay works very well as an umbrella term, since I just don't know how to explain myself without writing essays. Saying that I'm a lesbian isn't entirely wrong, but definitely not entirely true either! Maybe there's a term that just means "attracted to <blank>" as opposed to "girl/boy attracted to <blank>" idk! I should probably look that up!
Society and our place in it is kinda messy and hecked up, and I try not to think too deeply into it, but if I did I'm sure I could come back to you with an answer as to where I stand when it comes to my sex, gender and personality. 
We don't have the same experience but I'm happy we're having this talk! And don't feel bad, it's easy to get rubbed the wrong way, but as far as I can tell, that our experiences are different doesn't necessarily mean that any one of us are in the wrong 
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Star-Waves Featured By Owner Apr 1, 2018  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
aw that makes me so happy that you've reached a comfortable point <3
it's amazing that your friends and family are so supportive and aware 
stay amazing!! 
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artcus Featured By Owner Apr 1, 2018  Student General Artist
I'm happy you've reached a point where you are comfortable with yourself! (:
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