Google docs of all the terms (that I know of):
Genders: I split them up into two docs to make them smaller: A-K L-Z
And here’s the text-only version: Link.
And here’s the text-only version: Link.
I'm always open to answering questions or designing things, but if I don't know the answer or can't think of a design, you can try asking one of these lovelies too!
Q1: What’s MOGAI?
A1: Marginalized Orientations, Gender Allignments, and Intersex. It’s a more inclusive alternative to LGBT.
Q2: Will you add flags for allies, cis, panplatonic, analterous, hetero-, allo-, sapio-, kinks?
A2: No. I believe pride flags belong only to marginalized groups as a symbol of being proud of who they are despite how badly society treats them. Sapio- is ableist because “intelligence is a social construct and the word itself marginalizes disabled people.” And while the kink community does have a lot of ties with the MOGAI community, I'm going to keep them off this blog.
Q3: What is alterous/sensual/queerplatonic attraction? And what’s with the aplatonic spectrum?
Alterous attraction is described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic, & is used in the place of -romantic or -platonic (so say bi-alterous instead of bi-romantic). Someone can be both alterous & romantic &/or platonic & can have varying degrees on attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic.
Sensual attraction: Having a desire to engage in sensual acts with a certain individual (kissing, cuddling, hugging, hand holding, etc). Useful for people on the ace/aro spectrum who are uncomfortable with romantic or sexual acts or feel little to no sexual or romantic attraction but do desire sensuality or do feel sensual attraction.
Aplatonic spectrum: Originally created in the aromantic community, as well as by trauma survivors and neurogivergent folks to describe not feeling platonic attraction (a strong desire to get to know and spend time with someone in a non-romantic non-sexual way. These kinds of attraction typically lead to friendship or, in some cases QP relationships), which are also called “squishes” (as opposed to romantic “crushes”). Platonic attraction exists on a spectrum, just like there’s a spectrum for sexual and romantic attractions. Some people consider aplatonic spectrum as MOGAI, some do not. The abbreviation for aplatonic is “apl” (pronounced “apple”).
Queerplatonic, quasiplatonic, or quirkyplatonic attraction: Describes relationships where an intense emotional connection transcending what people usually think of as ‘friendship’ is present, but the relationship is not romantic in nature; people in a queerplatonic relationship may think of themselves as partners, may plan on spending their lives together, etc. The ‘queer’ is a reference to the idea of queering relationships and ideas about relationships, not for describing the orientations or genders of anyone in a queerplatonic relationship. Anyone, sexual or asexual, romantic or aromantic, straight, gay, queer, bi, lesbian, poly, cis, trans, etc etc can be in a queerplatonic relationship, can have more than one such relationship. It’s a popular term within the aromantic community, but not all aromantics feel queerplatonic attraction, and not everyone who feels queerplatonic attraction is aromantic. Similar to alterous attraction but not quite the same.
Q4: Can I ask you a question about a gender or orientation?
A4: Sure! I can’t guarantee I can answer, but I’ll do my best.
Q5: Can you add a flag for me?
A5: Yep! Just link me to the design or describe how you want it to look if there isn’t one and I’ll (try to) make a full size one and add it
Q6: These are all made up genders/orientations!!!
A6: All gender labels are made up really, even man/woman. Genders frequently differ across cultures. The gender binary most of us are familiar with is a very Eurocentric colonial binary that’s only common because it’s been forced on most cultures around the world. Historically (and even now) many cultures have genders and gender roles that are completely different than the European binary. Many don’t even have a binary at all! One’s gender and sexuality is a unique experience to them, and while many people are comfortable with fitting in the rigid man/woman binary, many people are not and seek to find an identity that fits them. That’s the beauty of human language, it’s an open system so new words and phrases can be added to describe objects, concepts, or feelings that either are new, or have existed before but didn’t have a label for whatever reason.
One’s gender and orientation is a very complex thing and I personally believe most people arent 100% straight, allo, or cis. For me I used to believe I was cis and straight, but something felt “wrong” and I couldn’t put words to it. When I started researching uncommon genders and sexualities some of them resonated with me and a lightbulb went off in my head saying “Oh so that’s what that feeling was!” Finding new labels to describe who I am and knowing that I wasn’t alone is an amazing thing. I’m still not 100% sure on everything, but one day I’ll find the perfect label to describe my experiences.
I feel like this is the case for many, if not most, people. That they feel there’s something “different” or “wrong” about them, but for many potential reasons, can’t, or won’t, put it in words.
Many of the labels here don’t really describe the genders themselves, but certain aspects someone’s gender could have; like how fluid it is, how much of a certain gender they are, how much they understand their gender, what effects their gender, and many other things.
Q7: This is hurting REAL LGBT people because people won’t take us seriously!
A7: I’m sorry you feel that way, but people have always disrespected MOGAI people since the beginning of time in many cultures, including this one. People who say they would respect MOGAI people but all these new ‘ridiculous’ genders and orientations turned them off from being an ally are lying. They did not respect us beforehand and scramble to find any excuse to rationalize their hate. What really harms MOGAI people is forcing them into a rigid idea of what you deem “acceptable” for a person to identify as or orient in order to please our oppressors, or because you yourself are infact, still bigoted.
Every troll comment I got that said the above gave me a different list of what were “real” identities and orientations. One was just gay and straight; another was “gay, straight, bi, pan, cis, trans, agender”. Someone’s gender is unique to them and only they can choose to label themselves in a way that makes them feel comfortable; whether it’s find an existing label that fits them, or create a new label, their gender and orientation is valid and should be respected. That includes referring to them as the pronouns they give you.
Q8: I don’t understand genders like Feligender, Arithmagender, Leukogender, Digigender, etc.
A8: Genders like these are known as Xenogenders. Some people have very unconventional genders which can be hard or impossible to understand and the best way to express or explain them is to compare them to something else since the current binary is extremely limited. Many of these genders are compared to nouns and archetypes, senses and feelings, abstract concepts, and can be influenced by their synaesthetic perceptions, neurodivergent status, or their kintype.
Read more about it here.
Q9: Otherkin isn’t a gender!
A9: You’re right! Kintype and gender isn’t the same thing, BUT some otherkin’s genders are connected to, or influenced by their kintype.
Q10: Aren’t these neurogenders romanticizing mental illness?
A10: These terms are coined by neurodivergent folk, for neurodivergent folk to describe the way their neurotype or mental illness interacts or influences their gender experience. Our experiences with life itself are different than neurotypicals’, so many of our gender experiences are different and unique to our neurotype. I’m autistic and certain aspects of my gender can only be felt by me and many other trans autistic people in the context of being autistic. It’s not ‘romanticizing’ to say “hey, this is what I am, this is how my neurotype affects me and my gender”.
Q11: Isn’t Woma-/Ma- or Proqua-/Proquu- or Fin-/Min- the same as being gay/straight?
A11: Nope! Those terms were coined by nonbinary people to describe their orientations because many don’t want to use gay/straight to describe themselves since those terms can be erasive and not adequately describe them.