Remember my rants? Well this one has a good note to it.
Okay first of all I want to write on a very touchy subject for me with you all. Being of the LGBT community and other ends of the spectrum and dealing with...DENTISTRY.
Why is it some people of certain religions feel they have to 'erase' us as it's called? I recently had a bad experience at a dentist's office where i was refused treatment because of my current gender issue. Well...they found out about it. --Not all people who are religious are bad, please keep that in mind. Just some need to move up to the 21st century.
They saw my name didn't match up to my banking card. My medical record's name had been changed but not my banking card. That was the second incident.
That and Dad had told them what's going on. *SMACKS FOREHEAD* ah well..they'd have found out anyways.
The first incident was the dentist's second office partner, her husband and i don't think it's ethical they are in the same building for starters however to each their own on that and he says to me this, "You have two cavities and i cannot ask you to pay a six hundred dollar sedation fee." I said, 'I have extreme dental anxiety.' He says 'You do not need it, trust me, I do them and you won't feel it. You're not worth sedation at all. You're not worth it to me.' Ohhh I have never wanted to smack someone for blatant refusal of administering medical treatment of any kind in a long time. I responded with, 'You...are not touching me.' I was so upset it was not funny!I nearly however laughed at the six hundred dollars, I have been to Disney World TWICE not to mention back to back in two years out of my own pocket when i had my old job; and what the fuck did he just say to me!? 'You're not worth it!?' I don't think so. I also have a new job, not big hours yet but it will get there. <3 again. I love making pizzas. XD!!
i wanted to say 'unless he wants me to kick his ass physically and me have a raging fit on him then administer something' but that would be unkind, XD!!
His wife wasn't much better. She knows of my high level of dental anxiety. She was always so good! Then it slid, real fast. I am about a nine given the day if not a ten depending on the situation. At first she was okay. Last few times she had been rather huffy around me. Once you have had a previous experience being refused by doctor's or dentists' for religious reasons, whatever they are, ya pick up on it real fast.
When it came time for my cleaning my nerves were jacked beyond belief after the last few incidents and my child hood incident which I will not write about came back to haunt me in spades thanks to her husband. They are terrifyingly graphic. I had asked and requested for laughing gas. The hygeinist (Spelling) said they use it for patients with extreme anxiety for a cleaning so she said the dentist would have to be present to administer it so I said naturally, 'okay.' She went and spoke with the dentist but i learned i was not able to have it. I said 'i cannot believe i'm being denied? What's going on?'
They told me I was being a substance abuser and it was time to stop. ABSOLUTELY THAT IS NOT SUBSTANCE ABUSING. Not unless i had that damn machine in my room 24/7 and was inhaling it DAILY!?! XD!! That's almost amusing!! LMFAO. I have hardly EVER...EVER EVER HAD to use it for a cleaning. Maybe once when my sinusitis was really bad? It is normally for cavities if I ever have them. One every few years if that?
I told them. 'I can't believe what I have heard and I'm very disappointed'. The second hygeinist wouldn't even look at me and her expression was guilt.
This is what tipped me off. If you have patients that use it for a cleaning then why not me? The dentist does not want to have to touch me? Well excuUUUSE me Princess! I got real mad and I searched for what they called a sleep dentist, or sleep dentistry. The secretary i spoke with was very nice, polite and told me they deal with LGBT people as they are in the city.
I am beyond staying awake now for any of my appointments. I told the receptionist what happened and she said that should not have happened at all. She sounded like she wanted to kick some ass actually! I am anxious about meeting my new dentist even though he specializes in seeing people like me. I know he will be alright because he knows of my LGBT origins but i warned the secretary after what just happened i might be really nervous. She said 'oh we get that here all the time and I'm sorry to hear what happened.'
I am rather sorry for my world's longest journal but i have to get this out here. I don't want to take this crap laying down...uh..no pun intended cuz when you're in a dentist's chair ya are! XD! Why though do some people have to go through such blatant shit to get accepted and why aren't people in the medical field no matter what the area screened more carefully?
I really do hope that some of you who struggle with this in getting accepted as a patient in the dental or medical field find some form of comfort and acceptance. Peace. OUT! Thanks for listening! <3