Sounds like a slight case of social phobia? I have that too, but I read in this social psychology book (fun course in college) which said that people are too busy thinking about themselves so they barely remember you. For example, if you think back on the first time you met someone lately - do you remember what the person was wearing or what colour the shirt was? Probably not or probably very hazy and as much as you remember that is how much they will remember about you except if you were friendly or an overbearing douche which they don't want to talk to again (the last I don't think you are).
Put yourself into situations, slowly. Make a list of things that make you nervous and scare you and the ones with the mildest shakyness, try to get yourself into such situations and you will practice. You will also soon get the courage for the worse ones and the good feeling you get from the first ones will come along to the other situations where you have to talk to people.
From time to time...I'm triing to decide more quickly and don't think about possible negative outcoms too much cause they are able to spoil almost every idea or decission and one lost courage cause of this all.Sometimes it's better sometimes the same or worse...so we will see
That's itThere are things you cant rush in to without thinkingit can cause problems and disasters.But I still tend to owerhink everything...for example-I'm considering buying cat for year now...I still don't know...afraid money might be an issueso I'm uncertain.On other hand I see many ppl who simply buy a pet and don't think about this at all.
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Yes! Finally! I have cat I'm so happy I finally decided. The best decision ever. He is great! His name is Vayu and he's very courageous (he isn't afraid of almost anything from fireworks to vet), playful and sociable and he tries to communicate a lot. Pity I can't understand him better. He is half british and half Balinese, but it seems he is rather half dog half acid. He devours anything like acid does, absolutely anything from salad to pasta, potatoes, chilli...I have to be very cautious He seems to have somewhat not very cat-like mannerism, too Well, in some regards.
I've spent my life til now daring all I fear and mastering all that once made me afraid. There's nothing left to fear, or to dare, except to dare to take what I've seen and learned and give it to someone who might find life and hope from it. I would also dare my damaged attitude to count it all as good to have been, no matter how hard. I dare myself to be better than I am today, and to be different inside, where it matters, I suppose.
Aww! Thank you, Carin, although I feel I am far from a wonderful person, or I would have nothing to offer, having no reason to reach for what is good from the depths of my badness. My lessons came through riots and chaos, confusion and pain, and much hurt and sorrow to everyone around me. But, better a Bastard who has learned a lesson than a Saint with nothing but my own glory to move by. ((hug))