PandaMea

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH, EVERYONE!! As a Bi-Sexual woman, I feel it is time to debunk a few myths and steroptypes that I've heard from way too many Bi-Phobic peoples in my life. (AHEM - ALMOST EVERYONE)

1.) For some reason, when your bisexual, everyone assumes your Polynamorouse, meaning they think you're interested in being with more than one partner at a time. This is not true. I mean, it's like saying that every straight person wants to be with every other straight person out there. It makes no sense.

2.) People always say: "Most women use Bi as an excuse to cover up being gay" or "Being gay in disguise." People, I am not a closeted gay. I am not settling until I am "Braver' to come out as a lesbian. I am Bi and happy in my current relationship, thank you.

3.) When your dating / married to someone who is the opposite gender than you, Bi-Phobic people will assume that you can't be Bi anymore and that you're just straight. Well, consider this: Your current relationship does not erase your past. I have had a few girlfriends in my past and they were NOT a mistake. I am PROUD to say that I have been in love with women before, but my fear and anxiety of my family or friends finding out, made me run and hide who I am. I pushed these girls out of my life because I thought I had to be what everyone else wanted me to be. I wanted to die. I wanted to kill myself. I wanted to end it all because I thought I was broken, all because I liked both men and women. Now that I'm older, I now realize that if I came out as bisexual as a child, maybe I wouldn't have cut myself all the time. Maybe I wouldn't have hated myself. Maybe I wouldn't have been suicidal. Maybe my siblings and family would be better educated instead of so closed-minded. Maybe, I could have pathed a safer road for my future nieces, nephews, and cousins, so that I wouldn't have to live in fear that my family would prosecute their children for being LGBTQ+. Unfortunately, I was not brave enough to come out back then, so all these things did happen and probably will keep happening to my future nieces, nephews, and cousins as well. I don't know - I just hope they don't go through what I went through and that they love themselves.

4.) Another myth is that if your Bisexual, you can't be happy in a long-lasting relationship. This one is laugh-worthy, really. I have been with my husband for 8 years and I am so happy. To my Ex-Girl friends, thank you all for shaping me and helping me realize so much about myself. I am so grateful to each of you. Yall wanted me to just be happy, and I am. Yall believed in me more than I believed in myself. Your advice and encouragement is still with me to this day. Im just very sorry that I pushed you all away. But for me to meet Brandon and to spend the rest of my life with him, made it totally worth it.

5.) That putting gays, bis, or anything LGBTQ+ in kid shows, music, books and ect, is pushing a gay agenda. It's not, It won't turn your kids gay. It will make them feel safe, understood, normal. That is what we want. I mean - its like saying straight couples in disney movies is Pushing a Straight Agenda to force kids to be straight.

6.) That TV, Music, Books, and other things can turn you gay, bi, ext. No no - I watch LGBTQ movies BECAUSE I'm Bi. I listen to LGBTQ+ music BECAUSE I'm Bi. I draw girlXgirl and boyXboy art BECAUSE I'm Bi. I write girlXgirl and boyXboy BECAUSE I'm Bi. Doing these things keep me sane and happy and proud of my sexuality. Thank you very much.

6.) That if your part of the LGBTQ+ community, then you're going to Hell. LOL LOL LOL OMG this one is so funny. No, you wont go to Hell. The ORIGINAL bible never spoke against the LGBTQ+ community. it spoke out against pedophiles, but because adults were marrying children back then, they changed it to be homophobic so they wouldn't have to stop marrying children. (Yes, here in America too, this happened)

There are so many more bi-phobic things I could cover, but I decided to only list the top 7. Thank you for reading!