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"When are you two going to start working on more kids?"

It was such a simple question.  The thought behind it was innocent in design. A simple inquiry on why a thirty-one-year-old woman had only one child was one of the most dreadful conversations that I have ever had the pleasure of being part of.  

While my daughter was the light in the darkness cast by my own body's failure, my happy little family was not the societal norm.  According to my family's version of the American Dream, a man and a woman were supposed to have two children, a dog, and a white picket fence. This was a sign of success for a stay at home woman.

We were never normal. My husband and I did not marry in the conventional church.  Those aren't our beliefs.  To replace us on this orbiting rock that we call earth, we have a little girl. She is too smart for her age, wanting to watch video games that are ahead of her time and writing a story of her own.

"We don't want any more," my husband said. He handled circumstances such as this with tact and grace. In that, he was calmer than me. I admired that like a fan admired their favorite celebrities' traits.

The woman behind the conveyor belt looked at my husband. Her dark hair curled in, brushing her cheek with its luscious locks. She reached over and grabbed the plastic bag of frozen peppers. "Don't you want another one?" she continued.

There were many people like this woman, I thought, incredulously. For two years, I had to make excuses and grow thicker skin.  Still, their foray into my reproductive life ate at my soul like a bloated leech. Each inquest pierced my heart as if it were a conscientious shot from a rifle.

"No."

My daughter bent down, looking at the toys in the row of tempting treats next to us. She lifted one of the toy cameras from the shelf. Dancing princesses twirled across the pinkish surface.

I was thankful for the distraction. If I focused on my daughter, I could ignore the conversation. By pretending that I could not hear them, I found that I could pretend that I was fine. There were no golf ball-sized wounds on my ovaries.  My hormone levels were correct.  Of course, that was all pretend.

However, I could wish for a miracle. The doctors told me that the syndrome would go away when I reached menopause. All my problems would be solved as I would be too old to reproduce. It was like putting a bandage over a freshly amputated stump.

"She could have a sister or brother to play with," the incessant person pestered. Her dark gaze leaped over to me and slid down my body judgmentally. Could she sense the illness deep inside of me? Obviously not, by her ceaseless questioning.

A long beep emerged from the scanner. Sugar-free yogurt passed through the blinding red light, inciting more shrill noises from the machine. The yogurt was for me. I was not allowed to have much sugar. Because my body can't process sugar that well, I stayed away from it. Plus, I found the sores inside of me hurt less without it.

"Our daughter is enough," my husband stated, firmer. The frustration coated his tone as if it were poison dripping from a blade. Like me, he wished that she would simply go back to processing our groceries.

I didn't need a woman, who I knew to have 9 children, judge me based on my body's fiasco. To her credit, she didn't know about my condition. How was she to know that if I were to become pregnant, the pregnancy could risk my life? Numerous reasons flashed through my mind. My body seemed to wallow in its horrid malfunctions.

"Mommy!" my daughter called to me, diverting my mind once more. Her thin light hair covered her bright stare.  Lifting up the toy, one of her small fingers hovered over a raised button. "Smile!"

"She could play with them at the playground."

Now, I was becoming angry. Crimson flashed before my gaze as I brought my attention back to the other woman. The reddening emotion pulsed in my mind and made my body heated as if I was standing outside on a hot July day.

Like a dam breaking, the ire at this cashier's patience washed over me. "We can't have anymore," I said, slightly more bitter than I would have liked. Reaching up, I ran the tips of my fingers through my hair. It was a habit that I had developed when I was younger. Strands fell effortless through my grip.

My sour mood was not entirely this woman's fault.  I was exhausted. Waking up in a sheet of sweat every four hours (and staying up until I could not anymore), exhaustion had set in many months ago. My husband worried because of that, yet there was nothing I could do to help it.

She frowned as she took in the information. To me, I knew that she would not be able to wrap her closed-off mind around it. Because she obsessed with us having more children, the fact that I couldn't have anymore and the searing agony that caused could not sink into her.

"I'm infertile."
This was one of the most difficult pieces that I ever wrote. It is actually based on a conversation that my husband and a cashier had at Walmart. His mother used to work there, and his brother still does. So, they know us.

I keep infertility close to my chest. Because of my difficulty having children, I view my daughter as a miracle.

This writing was penned by *DarkSaviour03. Please do not use it or claim it as your own.

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Thanks so much for the Daily Deviant on this piece. I'm flattered and speechless. :)

I just want to say that I respect everyone's views, and I can understand some question why do I want more.

I am reading everyone's stories about their struggle, and I want you to know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

To anyone who is questioning if this happened, yes. This woman has always pestered us. I hold no anger towards her with the exception of being constantly asked this question by her. This was the fourth conversation with this woman.
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This piece, 'Infertility', was very amazing. I felt the emotions and could tell that your daughter is very, very, very, very precious to you :). It played through my head like a little movie, and I could hear the nosey cashier's nasal voice, and it certainly isn't any of their business anyways, some people are just too busy to have lots of children or just don't want any! Nobody has to fit the stereotype of 2 kids, a dog and a itsy bitsy little picket fence. Over all, this piece was beautiful and makes women appreciate their ovaries a little more!
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ArtfulBalance Featured By Owner May 3, 2018  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you so much for writing this. Because of people who speak up like you, hopefully we'll see respecting others' "reproductive lives," as you put it, become the norm. 
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TheAwesomeMeerkat Featured By Owner May 23, 2012  Student Writer
This was such a beautiful piece. I could feel the tension coming off the computer screen :) And it really wasn't that woman's business to ask why you didn't have more than one kid…bet she felt really bad after realizing how insensitive she was.
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crazi-4-muffinz Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
I'm 20 & I have PCOS, so this really touched my heart. I'm scared to death that someday I'm going to be having those conversations. :( I just hope I'm at least blessed enough to have one healthy child. Congratulations on your miracle girl. :tighthug:
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Bethebelle13 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug: You are so strong to write about this. I am amazed by you. I am humbled. Thank you so very much for sharing. :hug:
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ReygarFaust Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2012  Professional Photographer
Beautiful work! I love you!
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seashellz2010 Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2012
Wow, that woman have no respect. I admit I have asked some women if they are planning to have more and when they tell me No, then I will leave it be and will not keep persisting about it. Every women have their own reason for not having more children. Not all women want more than 1 child (not because of health)
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AnnaGiladi Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Don't you just love people like this cashier. I don't know about infertility but I do know about people who need to shut their ignorant, hurtful, aggravating pie holes about MY body and mind, MY health, MY dealing with it, scrap that - ANY part of my life - especially when they are uninformed about what's going on and too full of shit to ask before having an "opinion". I have so much disdain for those types of people who will just lecture everyone and anyone about how to raise their kids or keep their cats, because THEY know best. And because they are so educated on such important matters, they made it all the way to - cashier at walmart! Oops, not Pediatrics Nobel Prize winner? Aw. So shut the fffffffff......

I'm sorry you're in that position, both having to deal with such primates and your body. For what it's worth, being an only child didn't destroy my life or that of any only child I know. I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job with your one little girl, and nothing else matters. I live in Israel where ultra-orthodox moms tend to have 10 or more children, and those kids get no "education" aside from the Torah, they are raised to be hateful idiots and the whole household is an employment- and service refusing burden on society.
I'm willing to bet that if you were to adopt or somehow get another child, that cashier would shut up but the woman in line behind you would complain about the racket produced by interacting kids. Someone will always find beef with you. Try to picture them naked in the middle of a swimming pool as the only island for a handful of feral cats to climb on.
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edge-of-psychosis Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
This is wonderful. I feel disgusted with the woman you wrote about. I can see asking about the possibility of more kids, even though that's really none of her business either, but to keep pushing after it's clear you don't want to talk about it..........grr.
Anyway, excellent writing. The writing seems to disappear, leaving you with just the feeling of the moment being recalled.
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Contraltissimo Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
I'm so glad you are blessed to have a daughter. :)
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news-print-hat Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
wow...thats.. so emotional....
and why the 4th conversation with her? cant she get it through her head?
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shadowcat9279 Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand fully where your coming from with this. My own prayers are with you while you go through this difficult time.

I myself can not have children and I get asked questions constantly.
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LadyofGaerdon Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Professional Writer
Congratulations on your DD, and for the strength it must have taken to write this.

My husband and I have been married for seven years, and I was 18 when we got married. Even though I'm disabled, people still find it odd that we got married when I was so young, and have been together so long, without us having any children. People like the woman you described probably think they're just being friendly, but have no idea how offensive and downright hurtful they can be. In my case, having children would be disastrous to my health and so is not an option for me. I've made peace with this, and honestly I'm happy raising my two feline daughters and contemplating perhaps adopting one day. It's really no one's business but mine and my husband's.

In your case, I'm very glad you have your daughter to cherish. I was a cherished only daughter and if I may say so my parents are rather proud of how I turned out. I'm positive your daughter will grow up strengthened by the love I'm sure she will always be showered with. I truly hope your health improves. :heart:
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FS-XXVII Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012   Interface Designer
Society tends to force babies out of anyone with a uterus, a horrible establishment of gender roles. Not to mention such a condition is extremely unpleasant and disappointing to most.
I myself have a similar problem, but in a way, I have to look at the opposite. (It was a gift to me being told I couldn't birth a child.) Your story points through the pain of being infertile, wanting to have that possibility. This gave me something I couldn't have really figured on my own, because of how I identify. The wording is very human, straightforward and honest. I'm sure you've had countless wordy comments, but this story has definitely earned at least a few more...

What this does illustrate well is both the outside and inside of the situation, as well.
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Aeries-Raine Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Reading your piece really made me rethink my own anger and frustration at being a 28 year old, childless wife to a 39 year old man. I am not infertile (that I know of) and the truth is we just haven't... tried. But with so many people around us having children, and family wondering and asking why we adopted puppies instead of having babies, it has been difficult to ignore that gut feeling that maybe I will never be a mother.

I'm so glad I read this. A few weeks ago I began thinking that maybe I would start telling people I just can't have children because I thought it would make them uncomfortable enough to stop asking. But lying about it doesn't change anything and now getting the perspective of someone who actually can't has changed my perspective on my own situation.

So thank you so much for sharing such a personal experience and deeply personal issue with the world. It is provoking but also just a beautifully written piece of art. And congrats on the well-deserved DD. :hug:
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SailorMariah Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
Great story! Kudos for not punching that idiotic woman in the face. Some stupid f*ckers never know when to shut up.
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xSparkdNationx Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Beautiful piece of writing.
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Mr-Anaximander Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
I can relate, and I know I'm not alone on this one. I don't THINK I'm infertile, but I HAVE tried to be celibate (willingly, and for life, mind you; not this "till marriage" "nonsense" ;P ). Lawd knows how much I've been pestered by folks who want(ed) to see me with a girlfriend and look forward to a life where I could provide children for them to gossip and make small talk about. (rudeness aimed at the pester-ers, not you, author :XD: you've my sincerest sympathy :aww: ) ...Er, I meant, so that I could enjoy sexuality a wife and the joy of any ensuing kids. :roll:

I chose celibacy, but you couldn't choose infertility, and recent events in my life have caused me to doubt I'll enjoy a life of singleness, like my desire has been stripped away from me. So I know it's incredibly difficult to WANT something, something so GOOD and BEAUTIFUL, only to have it taken away by destiny and to be ridiculed for something beyond your control. From the deepest reaches of my heart, I'm terribly sorry. :-(

In that regard, I almost wish we had switched biological places. If I knew that attempting kids was a lost cause, I'd be all like, ":dummy: CERIBACYYYYYYY!!!" (*run off to do something amazing with my additional time*), and you could, hopefully, have your kids. For that, too, I'm terribly sorry.

I don't hug often. Even online. But this piece genuinely touched me (somewhere.... :paranoid: ). You absolutely deserve one, and so much more. :huggle: As an unknown friend who struggles between destiny and desire too, I hope and pray you are ridiculed no more. :-)
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classy-dame Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012   Digital Artist
I could have written this myself. Right down to the fact that the 'only' is a daughter. (though I don't know the cause at this point).

People can be really insensitive, especially when it comes to kids. They never think that the parents of the 'only' might not be able to have more - or the people they're harassing to have one at all simply can't. Maybe they mean well, but it's insulting, and whether they intend it or not it's sort of a dig at you. That you're not good enough just the way your family is. It's bullshit, and I feel for ya.

I'm quite sure your family IS perfect the way it is. I was an only child. I'm happy and well-adjusted as an adult. I wouldn't change it for the world. Neither will your little girl.

More people need to come forward like this, and I'm glad you did. Infertility and miscarriage are nearly taboo topics in our society and it keeps a lot of women quiet and saddened by their experience when there's no reason why it should be this way.
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Renee-Niels Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm very sorry to hear that... And damn that pest of a woman for being so... Well, damn!
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PavelZakarovRomanov Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
it hurts me, yet it's wonderful.
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LilTykeVrea Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student General Artist
I don't know about you, but I haven't met many normal people. Do they live far away from me, or are they just myths? One of those life mysteries maybe.

Reading this, I have to say: In my eyes, there is nothing "wrong" with you. There is nothing about you that is "bad". Your infertility is simply a part of you. We all have things we don't mind telling others and things we dread coming up. In my eyes, you are... well, you're very beautiful. I know I haven't seen a picture of you or anything (I could try looking on your profile I guess), but I don't like going off of pictures or physical appearances to decide if a person is beautiful or not. Physical appearances are simply, "Are they attractive to ME?" Now, personality and inner self are much more important. And you are a very strong and inspiring woman.

I know I'm just one person and just a kid, but I hope you take my words to heart: Infertile or not, I think your an amazing person. I don't know if I could have held my tongue as well as you did. Or for that long!

As an 18 year old girl about to graduate from high school, you're definitely a woman that I can respect and hope to become as strong as.

I hope that your body lets you get some rest and I hope that the people you meet aren't as nosy as this woman.
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chris7clason Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Professional Writer
This is a beautiful piece. I admire your writing as a piece of literature and art. I also admire the fact that it came from teh heart.
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Mikgeta Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student Writer
This was a very interesting piece to read, congadulations on the DD!
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Alt-Doof Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
Oh My. I'd look at the person and say "Why do we need more? We have a daughter, and that's enough.. Now go get pregnant a million more times and leave me alone." or "We don't want more... My God.. One is enough..."
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TakuMilk Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Very well deserved.
That idiot who posted about you not deserving this because of one mistake is one hell of a jealous moron.
xD
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PoorEccentric Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student Writer
That was amazing. The way you wrote it and the emotion you brought about was absolutely perfect. You definitively deserved the DD. Just beautiful.
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silver-gaze Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
There are people like me who don't want to have children and waste what priviledge they have. When other women cannot get what makes them happy. I feel selfish.
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jenepooh Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Professional General Artist
I'm sitting here, trying hard not to cry as I read this. This is just beautiful.... and my heart breaks once again for us both. You have a beautiful little girl and I know you cherish her each and every day. I wish I could say the same, but believe me when I tell you that I so understand....


Thank you... :heart: :hug:
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W0rdkeeper Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
This is a wonderful piece that I can relate with; my mother too is infertile, and I am her only son. My relatives have several times pestered her into having a baby (she's only 33 now so even back then she wasn't old) but she just can't have any more. I can't imagine how it must feel to be in your shoes, but the anger expressed near the end reveals a glimpse of it.

I like how you try to justify the stranger's actions because of her naïveté. But I really enjoyed the structure of this piece the most. The transitions from the dialogue to your personal thoughts to the seemingly magical attributes given to your daughter and then back to the dialogue in the story are very key in expressing how important this issue is to you.

Congratulations on receiving a DD and I wish you the best!
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starlightmoonlight Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
I'm dealing with my own brand of this, where my future-husband and I are waiting while everyone else in his family are trying to have as many as possible. It hurts to be looked down on for not producing children, not because we don't want them or can't have them, but because we are waiting for our lives to be turn a corner. It hurts to be asked "when are you going to push out babies?" when, in reality, it is no one's damn business but our own. I finally got snippy and just told certain family members (who are very religious) that we don't want to have out children out of wedlock. Hurtful? yes, but it got them off our backs.
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Contraltissimo Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
Good on you for waiting to be able to provide a stable family environment for your children. :) It's not fair to new babies to be brought up in anything less.

Also.... your signature wins the internet. XD
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ivorynetsuke Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
What a great piece. I sincerely hope people will realize that yes, people like this woman DO exist in this world. I have been harassed (and there is no other word for it) by other women for my decision not to have children because of medical issues that I have. Patience only goes so far - it is almost indescribable the sadness and rage these people inspire because of not knowing when to mind their own business.
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VertigineuxVegetable Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student General Artist
People actually pestered you like this? That would be rude even if you could have more. Why on earth would you try to talk a stranger into making more babies? It's not like we need them.
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transparent-soul Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
Exactly my thoughts.
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Zeaphra247 Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
Hug.
I am amazed that the woman kept pressing so much about it.

I hope that you don't run into many more people like that. Also your daughter sounds like a real sweet kid. Great job on raising her. A single child isn't inherently broken or worse off. As long as the parents make sure not to spoil the kid they can turn out just as or even better than children that have siblings. That lady obviously hasn't heard of children having friends or play dates; or else she just wasn't thinking. I have friends that are only siblings and they have turned out to be happy, healthy, productive members of society. In some cases the parents just wanted one, others could only have one. No matter what they got comments like you and your husband had to endure. It was tough for them at times but they managed to make it work. A few of them said that they joined parenting support groups or groups similar to that and they figured out ways to deal with those comments in a way that made them hurt less.

Don't you ever feel bad for telling her why you do not have more children. And don't feel bad if you don't feel like ever telling anyone else why. Every family is different and all that matters is that you and your husband love and care for and about your daughter and that will never change.
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Tigare Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I'm so sorry.
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SCARY-WIZARD Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
It's good that you got this off your chest. Like everybody else said, this is a very beautiful piece that you wrote, and I agree that your body and life is nobody else's business (cashier...). So while on the one hand it infuriates me that people don't have the decency to leave others alone about something as sensitive as this (for example, I would love to say some pretty nasty things to a few people that I work with, but I refrain from doing so because it would only cause more problems in the long run and I wouldn't appreciate somebody pestering me about the same matters), on the other hand the restraint you showed says a lot about your character and sets a good example for somebody who'd spit a snide comment at the cashier, like myself. And that the two of you value your daughter is great.
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Jaiyi Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
wow, I never looked at it that way
it must be so hard for you!
and your daughter must be just so much more precious <3

half of my close friends don't have siblings, and nearly all of my cousins are single children, you don't have to have two children to make a beautiful family (:
(in fact you skip all the sibling rivalry that often causes depression/jealousy)
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grygon Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Question is- why are YOU, not the cashier, so upset at "only" having one child? Why is one not enough?
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WingDiamond Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I've got my "Theory" on Infertility that I'll share on my next drinking bender.
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WolfChristo Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
At first, i thought this was fiction or a story, untill i read the description
Sorry to hear you went through that, but some people are just dense
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pearwood Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Well written. We've not been infertile, but having lost one stillborn and having another in a group home, we've had our own set of questions that have no polite answer.
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Amethyst-Amygdala Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It is high time women realize they are not a "failure" for having no kids or "only" one. Your body decided to have only one child. So what? I am sure she is wonderful and you love her even more for being the miracle that she is.
I can´t believe people judge you for not spawning a gazillion of kids. Its not like the survival of the human race depends on you- and it´s your decision whether you want kids at all in the first place.
Good literature, although it is beyond me why you´ve had to have that experience....
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nekaripoet Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Student Writer
That was beautifully written. That woman needs to mind her own damn business. What goes on with your body is your business not hers. I am in the same position as your daughter. My mother struggled for years to have me, through miscarriages and illness. She almost died giving birth to me and so she too feels that her daughter is something of a miracle. And let me tell you, being an only child is really quite awesome. You're daughter will be just fine.
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Akhutchison Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
...WOW...
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Deargdul90 Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
This is a wonderful and heartache of a piece. Its so sad how people don't take the hint to leave the conversation alone. You are a strong woman for having to deal with the close minded people of the world and I give it to you.

Its such a joyful thing to have a daughter with your condition. Wonderful work and great respect to you and your family :).
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CalleighBlack Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
You will probably have tons of people telling you how wonderful a piece this is and how it moved them. Well, let me tell you that it definitely moved me. My husband and I have no children. We were supposed to have a child this Summer, but that was not to be. I have reproductive problems too. I don't know that we'll ever have a child now. So even though I would love to spare you the pain, even though I don't know you, I want to say thank you because this piece touched me and helped me in a way. Thank you for being so brave and putting it out there.
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Rosella-of-Daventry Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
; _; :rose: :heart:
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TVchick08 Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2012
This is so sad, yet beautiful. I was the only child born to my parents and was a perfectly happy girl my whole life. I would sometimes want for a sibling, then realize I was completely happy not having to share everything in my life. One child is a gift I'm glad some people apreciate.
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