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Asexual by Neo-the-ice-dragon Asexual by Neo-the-ice-dragon
I am an Asexual. I have known this for a few years.

I can draw pictures, make fanfiction, and write sexual rps. I feel nothing for it though. I think it's cute but they are just characters. Not real, cartoons that I like to create. I just wanted to put this picture out because I read some nasty things...

All Asexuals are different, some read porn freely without any feeling of sexual attraction. I can do that, I enjoy the story behind, the emotions, the actions.

In real life I am grossed out and down right disturbed by sexual acts. Nothing against Sexual people. Just myself. I don't like the idea. I get confused when people start dating around me... I do however understand that they want 'someone'... It just shocks me.

I'm happy with my life the way it is, I don't feel the want to find someone because I do not need to.

It hurts me when people say things like this... Asexuality is real, why should it matter anyway? It's not their life. It's you own. The same for anyone else... Just because you do not understand something does not give you the right to be rude.

I had told a friend once and she called me wrong and that everyone needs sex. Asexuality was not real. It hurt knowing that I tried telling someone, trusted them... only to be turned down.

The colors: Black, silver, white, and purple are our flag.

The link to AVEN is below.


Thank you for reading and I hope I have not upset anyone.

P.S: Hope you can read my BA writing lol.

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Trianglecat901fluf Featured By Owner Jan 3, 2019  Hobbyist Artist
I am something like you too.
I draw/read lemon fanfics but I don't feel like been in this thing in real life.
One of my best friend, says that I need to be in a relationship, because I'll be alone and have no One(she is single too, and she wishes to have One). But I am happy without having a boyfriend. I rather feel free. But I never said that because she will rage that "OMG, wtf? You need a boy.". Or what. It's necessary to lose my virginity in the future? No. Then?
Before, I had crush on Boys, but soon I realized that I just waste my time, because they don't feel anything for me.
And even, I have a "boyfriend" for 3 months but we ended because we didn't meet anymore. And because of my parents.
Ticci-Ciaan Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2018
I am a Pan-romantic Asexual and I strongly relate. I can read lemon fanfic for the emotions, but as soon as someone tries to pull it on me Im out. I can't have sexual encounters because it makes me highly uncomfortable, I do date though. Then again thats just me I suppose.
Deoxyribonuc1eicAcid Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2018  Student Writer
I LOVE THIS. In LGBT stories, it's always just homo, homo, homo. When there is stuff about LGBT stuff, it's always just homo. It's like all of the homosexuals get all the glory and pity and stuff while the other part of the LGBT community gets left out.
ToxicalThestral Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2018
I....I found someone who appearantly also is fine with reading (qualitative) lemon from time to time and would roleplay tasteful and mutual sex despite being asexual actually, it's such a wonderful feeling to realize that. ;o;

That's all I wanted to say, thank you! We aces matter. I prefer to stay in the closet however because...I fear coming out openly....
Cupcake-Plusher Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh, I'm late? 

I feel the same way! I can do all what you do, but when it comes to real life and thinking about me doing it...ughhhh....

It might be a bit confusing with the bi flag for my avatar, but I'm pretty sure you understand that asexuals can have romantic and/or platonic crushes/relationships...just without the sex, which is possible!

But I haven't this openly came out yet. Just wanted to comment this...sorry to bother you :)
DasTenna Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2018
It´s great to know there are other aces here on DA.
Greetings from someone who recently had to "educate" a friend about what asexuality truly is - because he insisted that I used the term the wrong way while not even knowing any study about asexuality. The worst thing I heard from a person I came out to was the assumption that I must´ve been raped or abused as a child. Same person accusated me for mocking the achievements of feminism or giving in to the "patriarchal ideal of a passive, non-sexual woman" by saying that I don´t feel sexual attraction or lust.
Sylvia-Da-Serval Featured By Owner Feb 21, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
I am still young and unsure of my sexuality as of yet, but one day I found an asexual stamp in one of my friends favorites.
This has lead me to realize all of the possibilities out there and that I might likely will be an asexual as I find disgust in anything related to sex or nudity. I don't like 'sexy' outfits and prefer modestly.
I prefer loving a person for who they are, not what they look like or what they are ^^;

I am not sure if this is 'asexual or not' thou...

But I have one question. Can someone be straight and asexual at the same time?
raspieaspie Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2018  Hobbyist Artist
Not really.  Straight means you are sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex.  Asexual means you have no sexual feelings for anyone.  Romanticism and sexuality are different; you can be hetero-romantic and asexual, that just means you feel romantically attracted to people of the opposite sex, whilst still having no sexual desire.  Asexuals can be asexual and romantic (hetero, homo, bi, pan, etc.), and they can also be aromantic, having no romantic feelings for anyone either.  None of this means we don't love other people, it just means we love them without wanting to have sex with them, or we love them platonically and not romantically or sexually.  Asexuality is on the LGBTQ spectrum as its own entity, and is not the same as being straight, gay, etc.  There are also shades of what's known as "grey-sexuality" which is when a person experiences very occasional and/or mild sexual attraction, but not to the degree that straight, gay, bi, etc. people consider "typical".
Sylvia-Da-Serval Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2018  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh okay! Thank you so much for your help and explanation!! I don't know very many of the terminologies for these things yet, but I meant what you said about 'hetero-romantic' when I asked that ^^;
Again, thank you! This really helps me, and yeah, I'm probably a type of asexual after you explained this all to me, as I fall into that category
Sorry I don't have much to say ^^;
RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2018
:hug: You are none of those things. You are valid
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2018  Hobbyist Artist
Thank you, fam! *Hugs*
RainbowGlambert Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2018
Welcome! I am ace too and here if you need to chat. :hug:
RoseSpectrum Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2018  Hobbyist Digital Artist
People should not dictate one others' life choices. If someone doesn't want to have sex, deal with it.
I am asexual and my mom has nothing wrong with that. Plus, she doesn't even care if I get married or not. All she cares about my future is that I get a house and a job.
Vulpix9393 Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2017
That’s true. I’m Aromantic Asexual myself but I love to read gay fanfics, including these with sexual actions. However, I’d be grossed out by real life sex and all that, and yes, even if it’s in a movie with real people. I prefer cartoon. My idiot brother claims that asexuality isn’t real and thinks I’m a lesbian, though. My mom has told me I was too young, but that’s not true. I have a couple of online friends who are asexuals and they helped me discover because I thought I was straight at first.
TheOneAndOnly543 Featured By Owner May 13, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
BaionikkuDragon Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2017  Student Digital Artist
"You will change when you found the good person!"
Hahaha, don't make me laugh!
DagmarTheHero Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
I know the pain: one day I come out to some friends that I trusted and they all said that "asexuality isn't real", I've never talked to them since and my life has actually gotten better without them since I joined some Ace communities.

It still hurts today though, not the loss of friendship, but to know that only 1 or 2 or whatever small percent of the world accepts and understands who I am. 

I remember a time when I just thought I was hetero and the world accepted me, but I wasn't content with that statement because I didn't like anyone like the rest did.
Now I'm in a time where I'm content with the fact that I'm a heteroromantic asexual, but the world isn't content with me.

Just can't win, huh?
direwolf321mn Featured By Owner Edited Dec 7, 2015
Its fucking funny how people are like, "You should not have sex with the same gender because god doesn't like it!" Wouldn't god love asexuals. Like what the fuck excuse is there for hating asexual people?
AClockworkKitten Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
This is how I feel all the time.  Gets worse the older I get.
xXArtistWolfXx Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2015  Student General Artist
I wanna draw something like this now-
Iglybo Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2015
I know the feeling. *sigh* Luckily most of my friends basically worked it out by the time I told them XD
Aerodil Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
This helped me get to AVEN and find out who I am, so thank you <3
Ada-Erika Featured By Owner Jun 27, 2015  Student General Artist
"All Asexuals are different, some read porn freely without any feeling of sexual attraction." I think you just broke one of my doubts away about my sexuality ;3; thank you<3
DarkVikingMistress Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2015  Student Writer
I'm sorry people called you that...I am a very sexual person but I'd never make fun of an ace. Some people just aren't too appealed by sex. What is the big fucking deal? I have an amazing ace friend on here...very nice people you are...
HammyLuvrDC Featured By Owner Mar 23, 2015  Student Digital Artist
I know I'm Asexual, and I have known for over a year now, but I've not told anyone because I'm terrified of what my family and friends will say or think since no one else I know is Asexual. I hate hearing people say these things just because they don't understand what it is or it's like.
FrozenMaple Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2015
<3 This is wonderful!! I used to have to go through this a lot, but It has toned down.
RubyDaSquirlz Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2015  Student Writer
Nice to meet a fellow Ace. ^_^
kiyoko16 Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2015
I am one too. It's funny, how rude people can be about asexuals in the United States. I myself am Asian, and luckily for me, people are much "okay" with asexuals here in my country. I was surprised to find out that asexuals are often made fun of in America. It's pretty upsetting. Not everyone needs sex, some people just aren't interested. Besides, I think that there are so many wonderful things out there in this world. Don't you agree? (By the way, are you female or male? Not that it matters, of course.)
StarLightNights-713 Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I swear this is the new gay! wtf world wtf!? 

you speak the truth my friend if you were in front of me i would hug youHug 
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Thank you. I would appreciate the hug! :)
StarLightNights-713 Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
your welcome :)
weltzuu Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2014  Student Filmographer
I have discovered that I'm also asexual. I don't know how i could describe the feeling when my friends or my mum say that I should date and go out with boys and have fun. My mother even said it's fine if I'm lesbian, bisexual... anything, but I have a lot of pressure. I don't know how I should react to their comments, I just say no thanks, not interested. We had a health check up at school and the nurse asked if I was dating and all that stuff, I just felt so pressured when I said no, and I don't want to. She just said that "oh, when time goes on and you grow older..." Really? I've been like this for as long as I can remember. No I find people attractive, men and women but I have no sexual desire at all for them. Just like looking at a nice shirt or a piece of clothing, cute animal or cool car. I don't want to be in a relationship of any kind, I may have those times when I wish there was someone to cuddle but mint chocolate is so much better... that and coffee :D 

To be honest I thought for a while that I was weird and not normal. After some research I thought I was mentally ill. Now I know what I am and I feel relieved. I don't need to worry about my sexuality anymore, and I don't care what others think. If they say I'm not a real woman, because I don't want to get married or don't have the desire to have babies and have a family, I'll just let them be. I' not saying that if later on I find someone who I have feelings for that I won't be with them, no not at all, but as for now, no thanks.

WOW! A lot of text and I don't even know if it makes sense.. :D Sorry but I just had to get it off my chest, thank you for sharing this btw :)
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Heh, you sound a lot like me when I was a bit younger. My mother pressured me, asked me about boys and if I was homosexual... it was rough and I did somethings I regret. Just dated people who I felt no attachment for and I didn't even like them mentally. Your words spark this sense of pain and I understand it all to well. I am happy that you have found yourself, I think it is important that people grow comfortable enough to accept themselves.

Also, if they say you are not a 'real' women- just remind them that gender is a social stigma. It does not make the actions of a women 'real' or 'normal'. The desire to have 'offspring' is pretty pointless too. You may remind them that there are far to many people in the world and far to many orphanages. You may also say that financial you can not take care of a child and that they should really mind there own business. I could go into a whole rant on that, but I won't. :D

It made sense to me! Thank you for ranting. It is good to get these things off your mind and to vent or express yourself. Sorry it took me so long to reply. I have so many comment on this topic that I forget to reply to people.

Thanks again for the response. I appreciate all my feedback.
weltzuu Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Student Filmographer
Thanks for replying! I understand I'm also busy with my essays... A lot of interesting ways to reply to others and very different but excellent views, I'll use them well! :D (Big Grin) Never even thought about all those orphanages.. wow I think I got this "mind blow" in my brains now... off to think!--->
ArtistGamerFreak199 Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I'm one too. I have been since the past few months that I realize I dont feel affected by sexual stuffs and I found sex as something disgusting. I don't know what to think anymore.
Acellan Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
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I'm the Same way, I understand that OTHER people Enjoy sex. But to me it seems.. Well... Gross. I couldn't imagine having sex with anyone even the idea is off putting to me I however discovered this in the company of good friends who are both understanding and supportive. I wish all of you without the luck I have the best and I hope you find those who will understand  you and be happy!
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I have found someone vary close to me and am pleased to say that I now have an asexual partner. Thank you for the encouragement, it means a lot. :)
BeneathDarkchild Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2014
Thank you for this. For years I've felt alienated and ashamed of myself for being 'different' and had to deal with the usual 'just wait/need the right person/secretly gay' comments. I ended up moving country to get away from all those people. Now I've been in an asexual relationship for the past 14 months with a member of the same sex. No kissing, no sex, just holding hands and strong feelings. It's hard to put into words what we feel. It's love, just not with a physically drive. We even sleep together in the same bed, but nothing happens. We'll never become physical, which is perfect for both of us. And I've never been happier.
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
That is wonderful news! I am so happy for you. :)

I've also found myself an asexual partner and our relationship sounds similar to yours. We are both the same gender and have been together for five years. I take pride in having someone so beautiful in my life.... now I sound all sappy. I'm sorry about that.

I'm happy that things are looking up for you... it must have been hard having to move countries. I still get odd looks and people assume I'm gay. Maybe one day the world will see that despite a person's sexuality, race, or gender, that humanity as a whole should not hate for petty reasons.

Thank you for the comment.
Sorrowscoldfrost Featured By Owner Sep 7, 2014
I think I might be asexual, but I don't know for sure. How do I know if I really am or just think I am?
Acellan Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I know you weren't asking me but I hope you don't mind some advice 

sexuality is a funny thing it's rarely cut and dry and it can be hard to find out where you fit. My advice would be to do your research , double check every source and be proud of who you are and how you feel there is no one true way and don't let anyone discourage you . You are beautiful the way you are stand tall and don't feel like you have to fit under one heading!
Sorrowscoldfrost Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014
I'm always glad for some advice.

I have done research, and that research is the main reason I thought I might be asexual. I'm still not sure, but I figure I'll find out one day.

Thank you!
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
oh, honey, I cannot give you the answers you seek. Finding a sexual click, or state of belonging, can be a hard journey; and, it really all depends on you.

I struggled with it for most of my life and only really discovered the name of my sexuality during my junior year of high-school. You can look through AVEN and research it a  little:…

Just know that you'll figure out your sexuality eventually and try not to over think it. For many people they can start to identify as one type of sexuality and then later learn that they are actually another.

I hope that helps. :)
Sorrowscoldfrost Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014
Thank your for answering! I have done research, and I read the link you gave me. I still am not sure, but I'm sure I'll find out eventually.

Thank you again. (And sorry for taking so long to reply)
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Heh, no problem. You take it easy and try not to worry.

(I am also sorry for taking so long to reply.)
lightbleueyes Featured By Owner Aug 30, 2014  Student General Artist
FluffyRandi Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Im an Ace too and im writing a book/story on being one
Neo-the-ice-dragon Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Cool! That's really exciting. Good luck on the novel. :D
FluffyRandi Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
danka darling
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