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:iconnebulanovia:NebulaNovia posted a status
I really wish people would stop using homosexuality or their sexuality in general as a decoration. Being gay or whatever doesn't make you special, you were born that way. You can't be 'accepted' into society by being rude or obnoxious about being gay.
"Move im gay"
"Omg im so gay"
"Holy shit sooo gay"

I get there's some good wholesome fun and some of this stuff helps people cope with the fear of coming out and everything...
But i wish people would remember its just a small part of you. Not who you are.
Theres more to you than your sexuality
And your sexuality isnt a decoration.

And the double standards with this make me livid. You don't see straight people walking around flaunting their sexuality on T-Shirts and being obnoxious. I mean one could argue that being straight is the "norm" and everything
And thats probably because its straight people don't shove it down your throat. ((That and straight people is something a species needs to have to continue the species))

Im not really sure what brought up this spillage of feelings and thoughts, but don't try to kill me over my opinion alright? Its like 6:30 in the morning man

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TheStarsofPines Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student General Artist
I don't see how having one's sexuality on a T-shirt is obnoxious-we've had to hide for so long that nowadays we're proud to be who we are. Yes, our sexuality doesn't define us, but it has defined society and the norms for so long. 

Being straight is flaunted-it is expected, normal, and accepted everywhere. It has been shoved down our throats as the only option since birth Until high school, I had no idea what being gay meant or what any of the other sexualities even were. I didn't really discover it was okay until I met the people who are proud and "flaunt" it in my later high school years. It takes courage to flaunt it. 

Heck, take my freshman year at college as an example. I had a girlfriend for the first time, and my roommate wanted nothing to do with it-we couldn't hang out together in our shared dorm room, as well as a number of other things that would've been allowed had I been dating a man. I could understand if we were kissing or being cuddly, that's uncomfortable for anyone-but we just wanted to hang out, watch videos and whatnot. We weren't even "flaunting" it, as you say. Just the thought of me having a girlfriend and liking girls made her so uncomfortable that she hid behind her closet door to change. As if I couldn't control myself to not look at her/be a perv.

I can see some instances where "flaunting it" could be annoying-but singling this action out of all the other things that can be considered annoying or "obnoxious" can be seen as a problem. It divides our community further than it already is.

Everyone is entitled to their opinions, and I mean no harm by sharing mine. I'm happy you feel comfortable sharing your opinion openly-I hope you can feel the same way for me.
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PrinceRansom Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student General Artist
I actually enjoy it when people put their sexualities on their page. Its like a cool tid bit i didnt know about that person and I wouldnt know unless i asked which would be wierd. 

"Im gay move" irritates me because its obnoxious but come on does anyone really think thats serious? And if they are theyre a dick and we move on. 

But simply putting your sexuality isnt rude or obnoxious. Its like when people put their age or their relationship status. 

Btw I am gay to some extent. I live in a red state and can say theres still a lot of assholes including my own family. So either hiding it to the extreme or showing they cant bother you are both common responses. Online people can be free and express what they want. I dont think its fair of you to judge other people unless theyre actually an ass. 

Straight people are obnoxious with their sexuality too just in different ways(though its usually guys being gross and trying to make a girl feel awkward and "impressed" with how gross their sexual questions to them are or religeous bigots holding up signs saying your wrong to be gay you have to be straight. And yes Ive dealt with my fair share of both. )

For me being bi is a big part of who I am. Because who i am attracted to often pops up in conversations either as a joke about people in tv or movies or it effects me politically. So id rather not be judged simply stating a part of who i am. 

its not really about sexuality though its about not being a dick. 

Theyre not hurting anyone by decorating their pages in glittery rainbows. If they start hurting people and being a dick thats a different story

Im kinda dissapointed you feel this way. I still think youre a cool artist and people are allowed to have disagreements. Im just a middle of the road kind of person. I hope you understand and still think were friends but this is an issue close to me because of what I and my brother and lgbt+ friends have gone through. Were proud to have come out on top and be who we are. 
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Edited Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I wasn't talking about people decorating their pages.  Telling people what your sexuality is as an introduction is fine. 

My point was there's more to someone then who they want to date/have sex with or not date/have sex with. 
But just a penny for my thoughts you know. No need to get upset over someone's opinion imo.

edit: also-- as an afterthought 
of you cant be friends with me or are disappointed in me because i dont have the same opinion as you-- well enjoy your ideological echochamber. 
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PrinceRansom Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student General Artist
Yo. I just thought we were talking about decorating pages. 

Also I am insulted by the echo chamber comment. I was only disappointed because I thought you were angry at people for just putting out there who they are. 

I have friends who are varied. Not everyone shares the same opinions. I was just hoping you considered us still friends even if we didnt share the same opinion. Im sorry if I wasnt clear on that. I never once insulted you i simply provided my thoughts as well. I was disappointed by the way you presented your opinion because I thought you meant something different. I put the ball in your court to see if you cared we had different opinions. 

I want to be friends but the edit seems hostile in nature compared to the paragraphs before it. Im not entirely sure that hostility was warrented as my entire piece was "if theyre not hurting anyone who gives a damn." Still a solid message even after misinterpreting your piece. Maybe i was misinterpreted but all I wanted to do was talk things out. Youre the one saying im saying fuck you basically. Which is NOT my intention.

I prefer talking rather than blocking. Especially when this was all a giant misunderstanding. I know lots of left wings prefer the bitch fight you till people block you but like i said i prefer the dont be a dick method of living. So i dont want to give you the wrong idea. Like I said i like you. Not past tense. It was never past tense. Its present tense. Youre an interesting person. 


So Im going to start over with the correct meaning of your opinion:


Yes I agree people are more than their sexualities. 
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I can agree with you on talking rather than blocking~ 

and im glad we found something to agrree on. 
My edit wasnt intended to be that hostile, sorry you took it that way.

this would have not been a squable had there not been misinterpretation but oh well
its hard to tell what someone is trying to say through text on a computer sreen. 
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PrinceRansom Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student General Artist
Ah the ever existant issue with the internet. Cant tell tone through text. Im very glad this was sorted out ^ ^" 

like I said. I do like you. Youre a lovely creative person. 

And hey whats a friendship with out a few bumps in the road. Talking far more interesting. I really like the spread of ideas. Im a nerd I love learning. Im an Anthropology major i love learning about humans. Its worth discussing. 

Even if we hadnt found something to agree on I still respect your right to have an opinion and speak your mind. We have more incommon than just politics lmao. 
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DeerAndChickadees Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I think you'd enjoy this, ha ha!
www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3h6es…
I think it illustrates exactly what you are talking about. WARNING! THIS VIDEO IS MATURE AND NSFW!!!!
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DeerAndChickadees Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, and you have to consider that the younger generation is SUPER interested in this stuff. They like to be hyper aware of each other's sexuality, who is dating who, and stuff. I actually got in a debate with my younger sister about a similar topic, and she considers things like gender and sexuality a part of one's IDENTITY, that makes a person who they are. Which is crazy to me, as I have never thought. Oh boy I'm a girl that's who I am. Or Oh boy I'm a lesbian, that's who I am. To them this is who they are period. Without this they are not them- And I don't know if that train of thought is important to make stepping stones for someone to be okay with who they are- for some it may. But I totally skipped that step I guess. 

All in all, this doesn't offend me, or bother me when someone perpetuates a stereotype or over expresses themselves- I'm just offering what I feel may contribute.
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
This video is amazing and exactly what im talking about LOL
Its perfect! Thanks so much!
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DeerAndChickadees Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem! I thought you might like it :> They are super amazing comedians and even in their comedy skits can accurately portray points of view and ideas :>
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digimonlover101 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I Agree! I once had a gay person tell me I'm not allowed to be proud of being straight and only LGBT can celebrate their sexuality. I don't hate gays or anyone who falls into the LGBT category but I absolutely hate SJWs who act like it somehow makes them morally superior just because they are different. You can't claim you want to be accepted by others but enforce the double standard at the same time. It doesn't work that way.
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
This is why i have a hard time with being apart of the LGBT community in general tbh. 
Yeah i hate the SJWs too hhhh
this is what this post is really pointing at honsetly. 
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Fluffomaru Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist
actually I think the reason it's more common for a gay person to advertise it is simply to show they aren't ashamed when society still seems to think they should be.
it wouldn't be necessary if being gay or anything other then straight were completely accepted.
but let's be honest, it ain't
so until that day comes, people feel the need to advertise it
and while SOME people can CERTAINLY go overboard with it, I think that is just a minority.

straight people dont' have to make a fuss because it's already acceptable.
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DEATHANDTHEMOON Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student General Artist
^^^^^
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
"Advertised" is a good word for it

While i agree its not completely accepted in the world
Lets not forget its made absolutely massive strides in being accepted.
Millenials are the "most gay" generation for a reason

Because coming out now is easier and more acceptable.
Even in the heart of good ol' WV i find a very large group of gays and even transgender people
This may not be something to note but i also noticed most of them dont flaunt their sexuality and still are accepted

Of course you'll get the surprised look and "wow i didnt know you were gay!"
And then the conversation moves on

Its not completely about acceptance-- though I concede its a large portion.

I just get annoyed when gay people say others dont like them or find them obnoxious-- pin it on homophobia and then go annoy those people more.

Its ok to not like gays or whatever, its just an opinion. When you start shoving your own opinion down their throat thats when we usually get problems
*notice how i said usually
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Fluffomaru Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Hobbyist
it has made some amazing strides, but we can't downplay the continued struggle for acceptance
I get what you mean people who go overboard are generally out for attention rather than acceptance, as I said there are certainly plenty that take it too far.
just as people do with just about everything unfortunately 
it's obnoxious, but I'm sure it will simmer down once those kinds of people grow up some(if they do), and being gay gets more and more accepted.
pretty soon people will stop giving these types the 'special snowflake' treatment and they will quit it because they won't get that attention anymore.
believe me, I look forward to that too, not really for the gay flaunting, just the over sensitive people that freak out over things that really shouldn't be freaked out over, you know the ones that dig out something 'offensive' where there isn't anything.
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NebulaNovia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2017  Student Digital Artist
I can agree with this~ 
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