That was me for a long time. But then I fell in love with a girl and I was like "WELP I guess I'm pretty susceptible to that rule too oops." I don't really look at gender in matters of the heart anymore because that's not important to me.
YES I SUPPOSE I AM recently, I've come out to family as being bisexual but just because I think they're too narrow-minded to understand the term "pansexual". I mean, they kind of only understand the typical gender binaries of "male" and "female" and nothing else.
I chose demisexual though since I've only been sexually attracted to maybe 3 people I've met? And it took a long ass time, at least a few months (a couple years in one of the instances). Doesn't help that my dysphoria still makes me struggle about ever doing anything with anybody, thus I declared myself 100% asexual for many years :V
I'm practically demisexual myself, but I chose pansexual because I can still look at someone I don't know or have any kind of emotional bond with and say "I'd tap that." That would make me a pretty bad demisexual. But when it comes to actual relationships I'm involved in, I'm always romantically involved first, and if the bond isn't complete, there's no way anyone's touching me.
Ah no worries! I'm just glad I understand myself better now!
Yeah, I see what you mean. I'm not able to see attractiveness beyond aesthetics. When my friends show me porn, my most common reaction is "wow, interesting the way that anatomy works" or in drawn images, it's "neat position but I think that arm looks a little short in that perspective." I am no fun But CARS and aircraft on the other hand....
Nothing wrong with preferring to be romantically involved! While I don't hold anything against those who enjoy random encounters, I need to really trust someone to go that far!
I can't find porn attractive. The sight of sex is.. ugly to me. It's hot to read about when it's written in like a novel or fanfiction, and sometimes I don't mind looking at drawn images, but seeing two actual people have sex doesn't do it for me. Well, if it's porn there's closeups of what's going on down there and that's what turns me off. If I see a lot of what's going on above, like kissing or touching etc, and I can see how the sex is affecting them emotionally or physically (not necessarily hearing though because excessive moaning and screaming is obnoxious), that's what I find attractive.
Hahah, I can relate to that. XD Over time I might change, especially on the right hormones, but for the most part, it doesn't work for me much either. The drawn stuff is usually less of an eyesore overall, I agree!
I like it when my girls strike a balance. Like, they're sexy and feminine but at the same time they're aggressive. But less-feminine can be cute too to an extent.
With guys, manly is pretty hot, but it intimidates me when it's to an extreme. I like a little muscle, to the point of firmness and strength (TO SUPPORT MY LAZY ASS), but if they're in touch with their feminine side (at least to the point of not being hard-hearted or a DICK), that's good too. Especially if they're an animal person. That makes a guy infinitely sexy, oh god, BIG STRONG MAN WHO LIKES KITTENS PLEASE.
Well, there's a variation of masculinity, like I like nerds xD But nerd is sort of a male default nowadays. As for girls, also the same, but it's a noooooo no no no nooooo if they try to look like a boy. Like, I wear my hair short and I dress casual, but I don't try to look like a boy at all. But for girls, I prefer ones where we can alternate dominance roles.