mombeam

May the blessings of the day, fill your hearts and souls

For all the schooling, strength and love mothers give their children, every day should be mothers day. In my opinion, having a child is the most amazing gift and privilege we as mothers, could ever experience.

My own mother had a hard life growing up but that never stopped her from continually 'doing' or 'being' there for everyone else. She made a life of giving to others with utmost grace. We grew up with very little in the way of 'things', but we always had food on the table, clothes on our backs, a roof over our heads and the comfort of knowing we were loved. Truly we had all the 'real' riches of life.

I was taught to respect my elders, and to be kind, loving and selfless to all I would meet on my path of life. The, 'way too many' character building lessons I endured turned out to be the best gifts I might have ever gotten. As it turns out, they would become the strength and understanding I would need to help me face my own challenges throughout my life.

There were many life lessons and examples of what was right and wrong. There were suggestions as to where I should go in life, or what I should be. However, they were merely suggestions. I was also encouraged to be my own person.  Follow my own heart and head and always stand strong for my beliefs, even when those beliefs where not that of my mothers. My mother may not have always agreed with me, frankly she often didn't, but she (and my dad) always supported any decision I made.  Their love was unconditional, and for that I will be eternally grateful.

As a young girl, I'd always thought the greatest thing to be, would be a mother. After having my own child, I still feel that way. What a blessing and incredible honor to bring a child into this world. I can't imagine anything more sacred.  It is an immediate love and what I believe to be an eternal love. In my own little bubble world, I truly believe all mothers feel the same.

So when I hear of those mothers (fathers) turning their backs on a child for not fitting into their predetermined mold of what their son (daughter) should be, I'm simply stunned and heart broken. I cannot imagine letting anything get between me and my baby. As a mother (parent) we fight hard to keep our children safe when they are young, and that should continue long through to adulthood. To have the ability to turn your back on a son (daughter) in times when they may need you the most is unfathomable to me. Often our children will do things or move into directions we would not take ourselves however, that is when we bite our tongues and love them more and commend them for having the strength to just be, themselves.  As a parent, to turn your back on your child, is  shameful. To those moms, go to the front of the line and hand in your mother badge, you are not worthy of the honor. But know this, we will love your children and they will be honored and supported by those of us that truly know them and we do thank you, for bringing them into this world.

To all you wonderful mothers, continue to stay strong, love unconditionally and enjoy this day with pride. You deserve it.

Although my mother is no longer here, her strength, wisdom and unconditional love, is with me every day. I thank her for teaching me the important things in life and being an incredible role model for me.