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pikagirl07 Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
hey there, i like this , its awesome i can relate, I got asperger syndrome and im in my first year of high school. the transition was hard because in my old school there was a elementry school/kidergarten section and a lot of my friends were kindergarteners due to i helped in their class when i was done with schoolwork. i like your art because it helps me understand my disabilty better
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mdchan Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
Thanks!

I'm glad that it helps you!  ^^
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pikagirl07 Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
you're welcome
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Yureitea Featured By Owner Jun 20, 2017
One of the schools I used to go to growing up had a rule that you couldn't be friends with someone that was 3 years younger than you, it was awful.
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mdchan Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
That's a weird rule (okay, I wanted to say a "dumb rule", but I was trying to be nice  XD ).  Even now, as an adult, I have a couple friends who are a few years younger than me (and some who are older). 
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NuclearBurrito Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Hm...honestly, I still don't know what's wrong with having friends younger or older than you. It seems as if someone just decided one day that I was no longer allowed to be friends with people below a certain age. It just seemed easier; I didn't have to worry about "acting my age" or trying to hold a consistent conversation, especially with younger kids who would talk constantly regardless of whether or not I was engaged. Plus, for whatever reason, kids seem to like me more than others my age.
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mdchan Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
A year or two older or younger, I don't see a problem with either. 
It's when they're more than a couple years younger that people start freaking out, really; oddly enough, people don't have a problem if I made friends with someone who was five years or so older than me.

However, they had a huge problem if the person was five years younger (or ten years, in one case).  When I was 11, I made a couple friends at a summer camp who happened to be aged 6 and 7.  After about a year, my parents didn't like this and forbid me from seeing them again citing that I "had to make friends my own age", or something to that extent.

A similar thing happened with a cousin of one of our neighbors.  Only this time, I was 21 and he was 11.  We used their giant trampoline, skateboarded, and played the Yugioh TCG.  My father soon forbid me form it and told me:
"All he has to do is say you 'touched him', and we'll have a lawsuit."

I didn't understand what he meant and had to ask about it.  It's annoying, because I really liked hanging out with that kid and I would never ever do something like that; I was appalled when I found out what he meant.
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NuclearBurrito Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
One of my best friends is about two years younger than I, though he constantly forgets it (for example, he used to comment on our height difference, and I'd have to remind him that I'm only taller because I'm older). But yeah, it does seem like much younger than that is when the issues start to occur.

I honestly don't see the problem with it. Well, that's not completely true; I wish there wasn't a problem, but I do recognize that it exists. Most likely, if the two people are actually friends, then there shouldn't be a situation in which a lawsuit would be involved, but there seem to have been too many cases where one has.
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Auua-Ytjoml Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Did you also find it easier to make friends with people a bit older than you?
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mdchan Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Yep.  My peer group seemed to be at either -10 or +10 years.  -_-
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Auua-Ytjoml Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Me too! Pre-teens and Post-retirements always seem to be the easiest to read... the most genuine.
With people in the middle I'm always left wondering if they're really my friend? just pretending? or are they just being friendly without wanting to be good friends? Am I missing cues? Do they think I'm the village idiot? Which of course makes me anxious and then I want to avoid them because because they're the cause of my anxiety which doesn't do a whole lot of benefit for the whole 'making friends with them' idea.
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mdchan Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
I was just generally naive enough to not question why someone wants to be friends on my peer level (unless they were in the popular crowd.  Being a "loser", picked on ,and a wallflower, whenever someone popular approached me, I was wary and didn't understand their motives.  One of them even invited me to a party in middle school.  Obviously, I didn't go).
However, I would miss cues so often that people would stop being my friend (and it wasn't until years later that I realized the missed cues and lack of social etiquette was what caused it, as they never told me).  That, or someone would start to hang out with another classmate who found me weird or strange, and they'd jump ship.

Ironically enough, most of my issues were also in the teen years.

I just generally found that people above or below my peer level are generally more accepting; adults typically had more maturity, elders had wisdom, and younger kids didn't really seem to care (didn't hurt that I looked closer to their age).
Yea, there are always exceptions, but I actually can't recall encountering any of those exceptions (yet).
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Auua-Ytjoml Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I had a handful of people in High School, I'd eat lunch with or hang out with during passing time (if I wasn't reading a book), but they never invited me to do anything outside of school even though they hung out with others outside of school all the time so I don't know if they were just tolerating my presence or what :?
And I definitely missed cues all over the place. Looking back there was this one guy, who was actually pretty nice if rather blase about the whole 'graduating' thing, who flirted with me and tried to ask me out and I just /did/ /not/ /get/ it. At the time I was just plain confused and annoyed with him for changing his behavior on me and acting like I couldn't do things like carry my books or open doors or find my classroom. And even if I'd told someone at the time and they'd interpreted for me.... I don't know that I would have (even now!) much of any idea of how to go about responding :P
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RandomUnknownGuy Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I don't have autism, but I do this as well. :O
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Bunni89 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
THIS! When I was little I was friends with kids four years younger than me (or more), or I was the younger one to an older pal, and then i didn't know how to cope in high school where suddenly that was "weird and creepy" and I had to start making friends with people my own age :P It was horrible to realize that i'd been "wrong" for so many years and never noticed. And it seems frustrating that my old friends never judged me but all these people my own age were now acting really judgmental and forcing me to change myself. And I was supposed to see that as "true friendship" that's more desireable than hanging out with younger kids? NO THANKS! xD
Now I'm an adult I'm back to having loads of younger and older friends ^_^ But even more so, I'm 21 but some of my deviantart buddies are 13 or 40! :D
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ashachu2013 Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2014  Student Digital Artist
That's kinda like the way it is with me and some younger kids in my club i go to. I prefer to hang out with them then the 11-12 year olds in my club. Just because there is less social peer pressure with them.
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Lizzardtong Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014
almost the same with me, cept' that i rather talked with Adults rather than  people of the same age or younger...my poor teacher....
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mdchan Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I actually did that, too.  I either hung out with a younger age group, or talked with an older age group.  The younger kids didn't judge me and just wanted to have fun, and the older crowd I wound up talking to were more calm and mature.
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StanHoneyThief Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Explained very well my friend!
I so can relate to this. When children were up for playing with me, they usually also were a few years younger than I was. This went extreme when I was 13 - 15 so there the children (my friends) were also about 8 - 12 because the older ones and those of my age didnīt interest me. I donīt know, I always was playful, enjoyed to be leader which is easier with younger kids LOL
The older ones are not interested into playing anymore which I never could understand. At school they only were just staying here and there in small groups and were talking about things.
I was introduced a few times to their groups because they just wanted to be friendly, but they bored me to death with their stuff.
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Lupus1 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Professional General Artist
well said and very true
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SavvyRed Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I get along with people younger than me (I'm 26; they're usually in the 18 to 23 range).  I think it's because I'm still very young at heart.  I didn't have much of an adolescence, so perhaps part of me is lingering.  But mostly it's because I'm still at the same university, and I haven't graduated yet or started to get a Master's, so I end up surrounded by people who are in that 18 to 23 range.  I think it does influence me because if I were hanging out with an older group of peers (maybe late twenties and to late thirties), things would be different.  I doubt they'd all talk about how much they still love Spongebob, plastic bracelets, and watching cartoons.  People always tell me that I look very young, and some people think I'm a teenager when they see me.  The youthful look helps fitting in.

Besides, I don't really know anywhere that I would meet people specifically in the 24 to early thirties range except maybe a bar that isn't a gay bar.  I hate going to regular bars.  I don't even drink caffeine, let alone alcohol, so I really don't want to sit there and buy overpriced cranberry juice in a glass.  Plus, everyone is there to just get as drunk as possible and play beer pong.  It's always dark and noisy.

I like gay bars a lot better.  There's less gender expectation.  When I dance at gay bars, I dance with men and women.  It's not even because I'm pansexual.  Everyone dances with everyone.  Men dance with women.  Men dance with men.  Women dance with women.  And everybody has a great time! (Especially since there are actually guys who can and want to dance, which is totally different from a straight bar).
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SchrodingersMeerkat Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist

My closest "human" friend (he's a "furry" too, so that's why I put the word "human" in quotes), :iconsal-ria: lives in Germany and I'm in the United States; if we could communicate the traditional way, I doubt we would be such good friends.

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StanHoneyThief Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Aww donīt say that. I think the biggest issue we would have is the fact that I am not such a perfect English speaker yet and donīt know many terms. But you taught me quite much the past years, really!
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SchrodingersMeerkat Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Hmm, good point!
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little-shining-fox Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014
Once again we found something in common. When I was a teen I wasn't really into the things like dates, driving or that kind of drama. I was very much like a kid that liked to just play video games and was content with being at my local library talking to kids about 12 or even 8 because I still into those kinds of things. Heh, now that I think about it. It's kind of funny. When I'm at my college I've got people I hang out with who are 20-30 and talk about politics and adult things, and when I'm at places like anime conventions and my library. I hang out with people about 8-14, and talk about the latest anime and video game news. So I guess you're right about age not mattering in terms of friendship. That's one of the advantages of Autism in my opinion, less pressure in peer groups.
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slickcoolbuizle Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
huggles* such paws XDD
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Lizlovestoons12 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Indeed, and at times, I even think like a kid!
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landonbay Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
who are those two cuties? :3
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mdchan Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Furry versions (since Kairy's a furry) of a couple friends I had when I was younger.
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RoninHunt0987 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
X3 awww
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