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There are certain times, particularly after something doesn't seem to go right in a social situation, where I wind up wondering if I did something wrong, said something wrong, etc.
If I had said something and got a lackluster response, I can't tell if it's because the person isn't interested, or because perhaps I didn't express it clearly enough. It's frustrating and certainly holds a great deal of uncertainty when it happens since I don't know exactly what went wrong in the social situation.
Was it me?
Was it the other person?
Was it a combination of the two?
Since I have trouble reading body language and facial expressions, I can't really tell.
In this example, I would be wondering if it was something I said (I don't usually pay attention to my own body language, though people tend to point it out that I had an "aggressive stance" or a "withdrawn stance" when I was just either nervous or sitting/standing in a comfortable position).
Kairy had trouble saying "hello" and starting a conversation, and Caitlin was equally as shy about it, so he's wondering if it was because of ASD and the social issues that it causes; if he had done something wrong or offensive which caused Caitlin not to talk to him.
It's the same thing when I'm in social situations; even if it's not this specific type of situation (introducing myself to someone else), I'm often left wondering if a lackluster response (or little to no response) from the person I'm talking to means that they're not listening, or they aren't interested in the topic, or if I'm somehow offending them, etc.
In the end, I walk away and stop talking about it because I get the feeling that they don't care or aren't listening.
Often times, I'll be told that the person is listening, but I can't tell when there's little to no response, and it's disheartening when that happens (as well as frustrating, as sometimes I do feel like I'm not communicating properly).
If you like this artwork and wish to help support me in doing them, please take a look at my patreon page at www.patreon.com/mdchan
Previous: New People
There are certain times, particularly after something doesn't seem to go right in a social situation, where I wind up wondering if I did something wrong, said something wrong, etc.
If I had said something and got a lackluster response, I can't tell if it's because the person isn't interested, or because perhaps I didn't express it clearly enough. It's frustrating and certainly holds a great deal of uncertainty when it happens since I don't know exactly what went wrong in the social situation.
Was it me?
Was it the other person?
Was it a combination of the two?
Since I have trouble reading body language and facial expressions, I can't really tell.
In this example, I would be wondering if it was something I said (I don't usually pay attention to my own body language, though people tend to point it out that I had an "aggressive stance" or a "withdrawn stance" when I was just either nervous or sitting/standing in a comfortable position).
Kairy had trouble saying "hello" and starting a conversation, and Caitlin was equally as shy about it, so he's wondering if it was because of ASD and the social issues that it causes; if he had done something wrong or offensive which caused Caitlin not to talk to him.
It's the same thing when I'm in social situations; even if it's not this specific type of situation (introducing myself to someone else), I'm often left wondering if a lackluster response (or little to no response) from the person I'm talking to means that they're not listening, or they aren't interested in the topic, or if I'm somehow offending them, etc.
In the end, I walk away and stop talking about it because I get the feeling that they don't care or aren't listening.
Often times, I'll be told that the person is listening, but I can't tell when there's little to no response, and it's disheartening when that happens (as well as frustrating, as sometimes I do feel like I'm not communicating properly).
If you like this artwork and wish to help support me in doing them, please take a look at my patreon page at www.patreon.com/mdchan
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Shy people trying to converse with each other is certainly a challenge.