A new version of AuTalkz is here, focusing on living with autism along with some light-hearted humor!
My name is Nicole, though you can also call me "Nikki" or "Kairy".
I'm an adult (according to the numbers, at least), and I have ASD (autism).
I don't need to be "cured", I'm not an idiot, and I'm not dangerous. I'm just another person who loves to draw, write, read (fanfiction and mystery fiction), play video games, and watch anime.
In fact, I'm pretty big on raising autism awareness. I've decided to dedicate my art to that, which is why I run the AuTalkz comic series, and do at least one drawing every April for Autism Awareness Month.
I may not be good at public speaking, but I can talk through my drawings (and writing).
I'm also pretty sure I'm asexual, as well as nonbinary (though I don't care if you refer to me as "he" or "she"; I've been called them both and I don't really mind). But, meh...those are just tiny things.
Anyways, I've been drawing for over 15 years, now, and I'm completely self-taught except for about 1-2 months of college Photoshop class (which I nearly failed miserably, to be perfectly honest).
I like getting comments on my artwork, and though I might not reply to all of them, I do read them. ^^
Nice to meet you!!
"I'd rather be called weird a million times over than called homogeneous even once."
Fanfiction dot Net
"Love people for who they are, instead of judging them for what they're not."
"Sometimes I think the surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that none of it has tried to contact us." (Calvin & Hobbes)
"Two things in this world are infinite; the universe and human stupidity…and I’m not too sure about the universe." (Albert Einstein)
"Just cause you are divided by an LCD screen, 10000miles of copper wire, and 20 feet of radio waves, it doesn't mean you have an excuse to be rude."
Cait's family is a huge contrast to the others. Kairy's father defaults to yelling and bounces between trying to understand and not trying, while Fletcher's family is pretty much an example of "doing everything wrong with a special needs child".
I don't often include/draw the parents, but we've heard from Kairy's father (and Fletcher's mother called to him in the last issue); there's also Fletcher's brother, Phil, who terrorizes Fletcher for being different and getting more attention than he gets because of it.
On the other hand, Cait's entire family is supportive, which makes a huge difference. She isn't very confident around other kids her age (as per usual with being on the spectrum), but once she gets to know someone she gains enough confidence because she has the support of her entire family...from her older brother to her younger twin siblings, as well as her parents (who, in contrast to Fletcher's, are the "doing as much right as possible with a special needs child" sort).
Family isn't just biological, as I've had friends that were closer than my blood relatives. But we spend the most time with our families since we have to live with them. It's important for everyone (especially people on the spectrum or who deal with disabilities no matter what the age) to receive encouragement and confidence boosts.
Granted, just saying to them "you can do it" can come off as being patronizing, especially in a case where the one on the spectrum is getting frustrated over not being able to do something. In that case, I'd suggest to just let them take a breather...and not to push so hard that there's a meltdown/shutdown.
It's a difficult balance when dealing with us; I understand that. But if you ask me about driving, you'll get a frustrated answer in response because I used to be able to drive 10 minutes away and now get overwhelmed after just a couple minutes. In cases where someone used to be able to do something and suddenly regressed, unless the reason is discovered (and worked on if possible; sadly, the health care system in the USA is terrible and I can't see the proper type of therapist for this specific issue), there's a chance that the person will never get back up to where they were.
It's frustrating for us, too; trust me on that, parents/caregivers. As frustrating as it is for you to watch us idle because of it, it's ten times worse for us.
I got off on a tangent there...
My main focus of this arc was to introduce Ruben, Cait's older brother, and basically a representation of a character who tries to learn, understand, and do the right thing when it comes to a family member on the spectrum (especially since a lot of people were wondering about the families, and why Kairy's and Fletcher's are both impatient with them).
Personally...Kairy and Fletcher's families are based off of my family (Kairy's more than Fletcher's). Cait's is the sort of family I wished I had and how I wished mine responded to me, so I hope I can portray them properly.
If you like this artwork and wish to help support me in doing them, please take a look at my patreon page at www.patreon.com/mdchan
AuTalkz has an official merchandise store called AuTalkz Infinity! It's slowly building, but you can find it here: AuTalkz Infinity