I have been in a relationship for two years. The only reason it survived was because we talked through our problems and had equal effort. NEVER put more effort into a relationship than your partner. It is supposed to be equal. If they don't care enough to put in as much a effort in as you it's not worth staying.
theres a lot of little things that are telling signs
-if they put themselves first for EVERYTHING -if they dont really talk to you/don't want to talk -simple things like, if they dont ask about your day, or if you say you're upset and they dont ask why -if they dont trust you at all -if they dont help you when you need it -if they dont care about your interests. its one thing if they arent into it themselves and try to be supportive, its another if they just blow it off all together
those are just a few things i wouldnt always go with "well if you FEEL like they don't really love you, then they don't" because sometimes people are just paranoid and scared due to things in the past. for me, someone who i thought loved me more than anything turned out to be abusive so now that i have another lover, i, sometimes, can't help but get a little scared
well, its like this one boy im dating seems like he doesn't even care about me at all... we NEVER talk, and when we do IM usually the one that starts to conversation. he puts himself first when i put him first all the time, even spending money i don't usually have on him. and when we DO talk... he never says i love you... i usually do and when he replies to it... all i get is an ilu2...