Kuocomics

Who has time to think anyway? 

Barf your imagination onto the paper and write write write. 

You'll be delightfully amazed at what you come up with!

It releases you from the restraint of expecting perfection on your first draft.

Try writing for five minutes and that's right. No thinking allowed.

So write! Write write write!

So... is your boyfriend same... race as you?
My co-worker, when hearing me talk about my boyfriend, turned and asked:

"Is your boyfriend… a New Zealander?"

I didn’t know how to respond.

What did he mean?

Aside from sending me a message that I: a girl who grew up in this country since age of 7 and also represented this country in another nation, was NOT a New Zealander,

Did he want to know how me, as an asian immigrant could date another person who is (gasp) a different race than me?

Or did he simply want to ask if the boy I was dating grew up in NZ just like me, and thus, a New Zealander?

I replied:
"Yeah… he is. Well - half- English… So… A New Zealander?"
(If you think about it, WHAT THE HELL IS NEW ZEALANDER)

"Oh, so not asian."

I didn’t say anything else. I didn’t know what else to say actually. I would have loved to come up with some kind of retort, but I just went my way.

The thing is:

I knew he didn’t have any ill intent.

It was just one of those things you assumed. People tend to go out with another based on common interests. If you have the same culture and similar upbringing, hey, you have something there already.

I once asked a lady about her husband when she told me she was married. She was a bit taken back and said “Oh, it’s not a husband.”
I was so ashamed.
I just assumed she was married to man.
I wanted to apologize to her over and over again but I didn’t want to make a big deal about it and continued as if nothing happened. So I totally understood how you tend to assume things due to the sheer number of them.

It’s true that there are more people who date/marry same race than those who date/marry someone from a different race. So - this guy, thinking I went out with an asian dude, had a lot of chance to be right.

It gets tiring very easily though.

Having to explain - No, I did not date him because I want to learn English off him.

No, he isn’t interested in learning my native tongue either. In fact, he doesn’t really care what race I am.

No he doesn’t have an Asian Fetish (You will be amazed at how many rude people ask if the reason my partner loves me is because of something other than my personality. Really? Do you guys think my partner is this shallow?)

And finally, No. We are not going out because we want to have half-babies. (No really. I am not joking. Apparently this happens)

The sad thing is, those above answers, some people answer yes.

When I had my arms around my partner in an Asian country, people looked at me as if I was “Foreigner hunter”(It’s the grass is greener on the other side philosophy. Asian girls who just go crazy for white dudes. Don’t ask me. It’s some media portrayal that exacerbates this.). They thought I was going out with my partner just to learn English or to have half white babehs. When I was speaking Japanese to a friend in my Japanese class with my partner in tow, he got the looks of “Oh, he is learning Japanese from that Japanese chic.” It sucks.

What needs to be done?
We all just need to stop ourselves from jumping to conclusions so easily. In this day and age, anything is possible. We can’t just judge one person so quickly.

Take a minute and think how you would feel to be asked if the reason why you were in love with your significant other is only because of their eye or hair color.
"Oh, you are dating a blonde? Is it because you want blonde haired babies?"

"Is your partner has the same eye color as you, right?"

"Oh! You’re partner is really smart. Are you dating them because you want to be smart too?"

Sure, inter-racial romance may be a phenomenon that’s quite new, but come on world. It’s 21st century. Let us not be so quick to judge.

Going to the gym


So why do we go to the gym?

Of course various reasons I’m sure, but no one can refute that we go to gym to ‘shape our bodies’. But it’s all about how you do this.

You could be at home, watching the work out youtube videos, heeding family and friend’s advises. You could set a time to work out every day and be diligent. You will then get that body you wanted!


But if you go to the gym, you are surrounded by fellow sweaty, muscle gleaming gym goers. Maybe you may even find a gym buddy? You will be motivated! You may even get a job as a gym instructor! Also - you will get bragging rights.
Who hasn’t heard the name of your gym?

The problem is of course - the gym membership.

Is it worth it?

If that gym membership cost thousands?

Sure for the wealthy, this isn’t a problem!

After all, it is better doing it than not doing it, right?

So… what do you do? Why do you do it?

It all comes down to how much you want to do it.

Sure you can say if you want it that much, you should be able to do it by yourself. But let’s say you want to focus. Let’s say you want every possible chance to make sure you shape that body of yours. The forget the membership, just jump into it and earn money later!




Thus I decided to take the masters course in Creative Writing next year

Now. I buy a lot of things online.

Wow. 

I'm sure I'm pretty late jumping onto this boat. But have you guys heard about Taranormal and it's blatant, shameful, disgusting piece of crap called Saranormal?