We all know the kind: the kind of cute, casual dudes who open doors for others, say "please" and "thank you" every fourth or fifth sentence, and do their best to uphold chivalry and respect. People all around me (grown-ups and good kids in particular) all say that a girl looks for a nice guy who will treat them right and keep them happy.
So why isn't that true?
If anyone actually sees this, then understand where I'm coming from; for most of my teenage life, I've been told that girls just want a nice guy who is friends with everyone and never picks a fight, or something like that.
As far as I'm concerned, none of that is true.
People call me one of the nicest guys in the city, that any girl would be lucky to have me, blah blah blah...
Never been asked out.
I'm said to be smart, good-looking, and physically appealing.
Rejected too many times to remember.
Never picked a fight with anyone, friends with almost everyone in school, and even called a great comedian.
No girl wants me.
From what I can tell, all a girl really wants in a guy is a potentially big package and height (I'm not that tall).
If you've gotten this far, then understand that this isn't me fishing around for replies or attention. This isn't me complaining about the fact that I'm single for what seems like forever. This most CERTAINLY isn't me trying to say that girls are nothing but selfish hoes (because I'm too nice for that).
This is just me getting my thoughts out onto a medium other than a notebook (for lack of said notebook).
Like this thought in particular: I'm done.
Done trying to vie for some chick's attention that might only last about five seconds. Done trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong. Done trying to form a relationship that won't even last until the summer. ESPECIALLY done with being that random nice guy that no one gives a fuck about.
From now on, I'm saying whatever the hell I feel like saying, doing whatever I feel like doing, and being whoever I damn well want to be. If people have a problem with that, they can take it up with me. If they have a big problem, then they deal with my palm smashing their nose in. If they don't care, then so what?
Being some nice guy who's too polite to say "Excuse me, but..." has gotten me very little in my short life, and as of today, I want more and am going to get more.
If any girl wants me, then they're gonna have to come and get me; I'm not gonna bow at their feet because they flash a pretty smile and giggle as if they're innocent (they never truly are).
If you're still reading this, then let me tell you this: you're worth more than just a bat of the eyelids and a vague promise of a date. Whether or not you're into guys, girls, or even both, you deserve to be treated like you're valuable. You know why?
Because you are.
I am, too.
I don't need some random person's approval to feel like I'm special, like I'm valued. Neither should you, pal.
This is Ben, and I'm done with being a "nice guy". I'll hold the door and be polite, but if you piss me off or insult my friends and family, I won't hold back. I know who I am, and I know how much I'm worth. I don't need anyone telling me anything about that.
Have a good day, and stay Deviant.