I tried to give someone this advice in response to their complaints and he would not receive it. Perhaps someone else could use it then. I have added scripture to it to support my point of view.
Do not worry about what others think because you cant control their thoughts, but you can control your own thoughts. Only be concerned about your walk before God then your walk before men will fall right in line.
Micah 6:8 "He has shown you, O man, what is good, and what does the Lord require of you, but to do justly, and to Love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?"
It is essential to forgive yourself. You are not your past mistakes. You are in the present. You can be forgiven by God through Jesus and God gives us grace to forgive ourselves.
Psalm 25:18 "Look upon mine affliction and my pain, and forgive all my sin."
1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
To avoid issues with others simply treat others the way that you want to be treated. So then treat yourself right and treat others just as good. This principal alone will drastically help you to heal.
Gal 5:14 "For all of the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this, Thou shalt Love your neighbor as yourself."
If your not excited over a movie and everyone else is, big deal! Who cares! They ought to appreciate you for who you are if they are really your friends. You may not be able to see it now, but at one time I walked away from watching anime and because I wasn't watching anime my so called friends suddenly
vanished from my life. Is friendship so shallow that it is now all based on entertainment? Thats not real friendship.
That is just having a few things in common with others. If that common ground were to fall away a true friend should still be there! Real friendship is powered by
Love, not by shallow commons.
If people point out your faults, know this, they have faults too.
Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God."
Maybe you are befriending all of the wrong people.
1 Cor 15:33 "Be not deceived,evil communications corrupt good manners."
James 4:4 "You adulterers and adulteresses, do you not know that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God."
Anger in itself is not bad. In fact if it were not for anger we may not fully understand right from wrong or pain from good conditions. Its perfectly okay and normal
to be angry.
Ephesians 4:26 "Be ye angry, and sin not..."
But anger does not really do us any good.
Jonah 4:4 "Then said the Lord, Does it do you well to be angry?"
Its okay to be angry, but its not okay to act out wrathfully because of anger. When you become angry give yourself some time and consider your options wisely.
If you try to be perfect in yourself you will fail and this will only lead to more anger, stress, and depression. Do try to do what is right, but do not expect so much out of yourself that you destroy yourself.
Do not say you will fail or lose everything. There is power in words. If you make yourself believe you will fail you will. Tell yourself "I fell seven times, but I will rise up again!"
Shake it off and move on.
Proverbs 18:21 "Death and life are in the power of the tongue..."
Giving up does nothing and shows that you have been defeated by your own feelings. Submit yourself to Jesus and let Him help you take control of those feelings. You can come out on top.
2 Cor 10:5 "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ."