I don't know if "thank the universe" is the way to put it but I had a high school girlfriend I wanted to marry and I think it is best that did not happen. I have taken a long slow career path, and I do not think it would have gone well. She told me more than once that she would wait until she graduated from college, which was more than 10 years ago. Our relationship did not last that long. Also, she is Catholic and I went through an angry atheist phase that probably would not have sat well with her. We have since reconnected on Facebook, though I have 800 Facebook friends and am barely in touch with most of them, her included. I am still single. I would like to be in a relationship, but I have some things I still need to deal with. Being a licensed attorney is no guarantee of job stability.
A few guys I am happy I didn't end up with. There was one guy, he was 18 I just turned 17 and he was actually the first guy I fell in love with, like actual love. We were great for about a month or 2, but then he just dropped me. I was devastated, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep or even just function. I cried every night. I fought back and we kinda got back together, or at least I though, but something was different about him. I no longer felt like I was with the same guy, but I stayed with him because I was blinded with love. We "dated" for about 2 more months even after friends and staff members at school were telling me to stay away from him, but I didn't listen even though my gut was telling me the same thing. As the weeks rolled by there would be times he wouldn't be around, times I saw him with the girl he said he broke up with, and just being suspicious. I was just blind, like I was a horse who had blinkers on. Finally one day, 5 of my friends who I trusted very much came up to me and said "Allison...we just saw Kevin kissing Lisa in the parking lot. We're dead serious." So that kind of woke me up. All of reality and what has been happening between us made so much more sense...I was what you call a "side chick"! I was infuriated at him and more so at myself. Lisa had no clue. I broke things off with Kevin even though he tried to deny it multiple times. I'm now 20 he's 21, we've only spoken very little since then. I'm married and pretty much over him, but it took me a good long year to get over him even though I still get a little pain in my heart whenever I see him and Lisa around town and yes, she's still with that jerk. However, I am glad I ended things before anything got worse.
I'm only happy that it didn't happen otherwise I wouldn't have my current boyfren~ I crushed on them both for the same time but the guy it didn't happen with I had a crush on him for a year before I even met my now-boyfriend. As much as I liked the other guy, I don't think we could've worked out as well as me and my boyfriend have and also I like having him as a friend. We're still buds, so that's what's important to me !
I really loved my most recent exboyfriend. Long story short, he turned out to be emotionally/mentally abusive. During a "break" between us he faked being in love with someone else so he could make me jealous and bait me back to him. In reality it pushed me away from him. I'm with someone else now and I'm glad me and my ex didn't work out since I would have ended up with all my friends gone and he would have ruined my family and my happiness