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Over a year ago a person got very offended by an old comic of mine and wanted to explain to me why it was offensive. When they wrote to me I had long since understood that and deleted it from my own galleries, but they had found it on Tumblr and felt it was important to talk about NOW. At first I didn't respond because a lot of things were going on in my life and I needed to not stress about it, but then they started shouting on Tumblr about it and got more people shouting at me and I finally gave in. I tried to explain to the person what my thoughts had been behind it at the time but that I no longer felt that way, but they kept going. 

At the same time a lot of people were writing me about minor things like if they should move to Denmark or what my opinion was about one thing or another, and I didn't respond to any of those either and some questioned me about it. All the while this person was getting all worked up and wouldn't just take my "I'm sorry but I can't do this right now for personal reasons" for an answer.

The thing was, at the time I was dealing with the early stages of cancer and was going through an operation to get it removed. I didn't feel like talking to strangers on the Internet about it, and I was overall acting weird during that period, like leaving conventions I had been invited to early and changing plans all the time. Not very professional and I feel really shitty about it now, but I was worried I was dying.

It's all gone now and I'm fine, but the point of this journal entry is just to remind you all that even if you feel like you know people well through the Internet, they also have a real life and some really terrible shit could be going on they don't feel like sharing and they might just need to relax, so I hope that unless their silence is somehow life threatening to you that you'll respect when they don't respond. :)
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:iconntsefan:
NTSEFAN Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
What was the comic about?
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EtherealValentine Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that. People have a problem relating to others that they don't personally know. *hug* 
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muhminatali Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
oh God
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Akinmytua Featured By Owner Jan 16, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
My mom had a similar personality shift after they removed her cancer, she went volunteer crazy. She joined every organization she could. She says that she looks back on it now and wonders what she was thinking (she joined 8 or 9 while still doing radiation therapy). Cancer is weird and the threat of death makes people do weird stuff. Hope you feel much better now.
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SketchedImperfection Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
*hugs*
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MARZillao Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2015   Traditional Artist
I do hope you feel better. i can't believe people so sensitive even have accounts on something as wide-known as the internet. I don't know what comic it was, but I'm sorry it has to happen to you. :(
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Soaring-and-Dreamer Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
glad you're okay now! i hate it when i'm in a shitty mood and people are bugging me. sometimes it feels like they don't understand, doesn't it? but i'll give you a virtual hug. Hug hope that's good!
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Orionnator Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2015
The internet should die
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stuffedbellylover Featured By Owner Jan 3, 2015
Hey,


glad to read you are okay now again. But maybe you should have talked about your illness earlier as you would have gotten a lot of support I suppose!

Anyway at least all went well for you, Humon! And that´s what counts most!

Best wishes,


Chris
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TaintedTruffle Featured By Owner Jan 1, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug:
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RoyceGrey Featured By Owner Dec 24, 2014
I'm glad you're better.  All the best.
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daaku-no-tenshi Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
There's this thing called "Block", sometimes "Ban" or "Ignore", but generally each variation of this button has the same effect.

Something like that is FAR too serious, to be worrying about some asshats on the internet. If anything, the stress incurred from that could only result in compounding your illness.

When stuff is that bad, ban first, ask questions later.
Health comes first.
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Old-Marcie1234 Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2014
Was that the one discussing sexuality flags?
 That one was humorous.
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jijikit Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
:hug:  You are most important to you and I'm glad to see you took care of yourself first!  All those silly other things can wait.  And professional contacts would understand.  Glad that you are better.  :)
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silverwolfygirl2 Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2014
ohmygosh! i'm so sorry to hear that. I'm really happy you are better. you've been quite a lot it seems but you're very brave to have made it and really mature to post this as a chance to prevent others from going through the same shit. very proud of you.
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cate2k Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2014  Professional General Artist
<3
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FiretotheBricks Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
As a trans boy coming from an obnoxiously Christian family, I definitely agree with a lot of tumblr's ideals, but sweet baby Jesus do they know how to blow shit out of proportion. I'm glad to hear that you're back to being healthy and hopefully not stressed. I haven't checked on your stuff in a long while but you've been an inspiration to me for years and I hope that as time goes on you can continue to better yourself more and more. (I'm well over a month late to finding this journal, but here's my comments and such anyway)
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Sapphire-Ink Featured By Owner Nov 26, 2014
Hi Humon,

I'm so glad to hear that you're fine now, and I'm sorry to hear that you were receiving so much negativity during a difficult time in your life. 

You have always been friendly to me when I post comments or ask questions and I have always told people (when recommending your work to them) that you are one of the friendliest artists I've met on this site.

I know you're busy and you receive a lot of messages and comments, so I understand and respect you even if you don't respond. 
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imaginationstarie13 Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014  Student Writer
:hug:
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SinfulAnkh Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2014
Who is this b******* who tried to rally against you? I'LL BURN THEM WITH A FLAMETHROWER!!
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Margiocchi1996 Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
Glad to hear you're ok now!! Wishing you all the best! :)
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inukagome134 Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2014  Student General Artist
It's good that you feel better! I'm sorry you went through all that. *hug*
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kuroitenshi13 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014  Professional General Artist
*HUGS* Everything you said makes perfect sense and so many people don't understand that these days. I am sorry for those people, I hope that they will leave you be.
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Marvsamune Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
HAKUNA MATATA
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ClassicallyOrnate Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Its dumb people can get so offended by a comic, oh well. Glad you are getting better! ^^ I hope the best for you! 
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ElectricCandle Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014
I'm glad you're doing okay :)
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Limro Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hold da fast... Du må op på højkant igen! Håber du kommer godt igennem det hele :)
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CatalyticConverstion Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014
Glad to know you're doing better.  People really do need to understand that the internet isn't everything in life and that there are more serious things going on that can interfere with people's ability to participate online.
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Mlie-Redfield Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
<3
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DeepRhapsody Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I've noticed this weird thing happening on tumblr and in the internet in general; many people have trouble understanding the fact that people can change, their opinions might change, their views might change, etc. It can get really frustrating at times.
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pentacle565 Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014
Why do all of my favorite internet personalities get horrible diseases? Am I cursed? Allie Brosh, Jenny Lawson, you, among others... Perhaps it is true that great personalities must suffer great hardships. 
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Whiteshadow943 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Woah, I just found your page, but I'm glad you are better
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Whiteshadow943 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
sorry I may have added a drawing, I can't tell.
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FeralNoesis Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2014  Student General Artist
<3

Glad that you're feeling better now!
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FuzzyNecromancer Featured By Owner Oct 29, 2014
*hugs*
Some people need to learn when to leave somebody alone. Nobody is owed an answer. h
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xXXxWolfie-FiendXxxX Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I've been away from da for a long time now, so I had no idea what has been going on. I'm very sorry to hear about this, but I'm glad to hear that you're doing better. I hope that you'll continue to have good health. My best to you, your family and loved ones. I know it's difficult. I've lost a couple of family members to cancer, but not every story ends badly. I'm glad to hear yours is going well :)
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MinotaurUnicorn Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for sharing, and I do hope that you remain in good health for a long time.
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Tevo77777 Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2014  Student Writer
*Hugs.
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LumpyMonkyP Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2014
I enjoy reading your Niels and Gang comic and hope you do more of it in the future.  Do what you need to do for you and try to ignore those that insist on arguing just for arguing's sake.  Stay safe, healthy, and happy.
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LilaBlack Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2014
I'm so glad it's ok now. Sorry all this happened to you! :saddummy:
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astrobott Featured By Owner Oct 27, 2014
I'm sorry you had to go through all that :(
And, I know it's hard not to take things people say personally, but you really don't owe anyone your time. Should you choose to explain your silence, then saying you have personal stuff to deal with at the moment will be enough for any reasonable person. Anyone who won't accept that answer and keeps questioning you has moved into bully territory, and you don't have to feel at all bad for ignoring them!
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DarkenedSoul333 Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014
I'm sorry that happened to you =( 
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ZatchZ Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
YOU HAD CANCER?!
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SweetPeachyOrgasim Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2014
People overreact in the worst of ways because they feel pain. That person/those people didn't think about what you may have been going through, they were just so upset that they completely disregarded the age old rule... 'Treat others how you want to be treated.' That's my biggest issue with the ambiguity of the internet. Some people feel they can just go off and say whatever they want because they won't get penalized for it, but those people forget that another human being with feelings and real life happening around them also, is on the other side of that screen. Those people's opinions don't matter because those people have very little regard for others even outside the internet. It's true they maybe nice people, but if you can't have the understanding to calmly approach a situation like that, and think that other people may have something else going on in their lives at the moment, then you're opinion doesn't matter. I hope that situation is either resolved or brushed under the rug for you and I'm happy to hear that you have your health! You shouldn't feel guilt for the way you acted, you were doing your best to cope with it the way you knew how. It's a scary process and I'm sure your loved ones understood. :)
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SincerelySodomy Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2014
"Offence is not given, only taken."
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koukidoo Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
well now that are you not in danger just try to explain what you want to say so long... hehe glad that you are okay!
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dsgrhy Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2014
I'm glad you're doing fine! SATW is awesome the offended people might just be a tad too sensitive don't worry :)
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ZepherLoo Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm so glad everything worked out ok for you! I love your comics, offensive or not. :3
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xXxWindextorxXx Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014
Very very thankful everything turned out positively and the cancer is gone. You're very strong, and I highly admire you for that. 
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AERlS Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
I hope you have recovered well!

Your comics aren't very offensive (to me at least). The American government has gone to shit and some people are in denial. So yeah...they're going to act out and be stupid in general. Don't take their moronic comments to heart, they're just mad that their perfect little view of America is being popped by reality.
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