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I need some help/advice
(I'll probably delete this soon)

Guys, For 6 years my family have sent up balloons to commemorate a lost loved one, attached to those were notes each of us wrote to said loved one. The idea was to be able to send a message to 'heaven' ( my mum will say it was a visual thing for the younger ones but ..I think we all find peace in it)

BUT I, as much as anyone else knows just how ..bad and dangerous that can be for wildlife and I always feel so much guilt on top of everything but ..I just ..I really like being able to 'talk' to said loved one.

Honestly, does anyone have any alternatives that have a similar idea? 
something for eco friendly? ..and please dont say plant a tree.. I've thought about it before but there's no property we can really do it ..or not without permission from people.and our house isn't an option ya'know ...I'm just ..really stuck and with a few days left ..I don't want that guilt again 

please any ideas or advice would be appreciated, thank you

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CynicArcane Featured By Owner Edited Jul 20, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Try a fire if you're able, write your messages on a piece of paper and put it into the fire. Assuming everyone knows not to put their hand into the fire then it's relativity safer, and somewhat less effective on the environment.  
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You could even make your own special envelope, have everyone put their letter into it and have an adult or whoever put the envelope into the fire.
Explain to the younger ones that the messages turn into ashes and then the ashes go all the way up into the sky/heaven and turn back into the letter for your loved ones to read (or something like that)

There's always the option to order biodegradable balloons, you could purchase them for next year/time. 
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High-Class-Trash Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
We have a fire bin so it's do-able and i really like that idea! 
especially cause like you suggested we can easlily explain what the symbolic gesture is to the kids ;u;
I mean as much as they'd want to i feel like the adults would have to put the note in for them but I'm going to bring that idea up!
it might be late for everyone now .-. but I'm gonna try my best! 
It's gonna be convincing everyone a change of tradition that's gonna be my biggest task now 

but thank you! I really do appreciate the advice and it's really helpful :heart:
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CynicArcane Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2017  Student Digital Artist
good luck with it! ;w; 
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EmotionalMuffin Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
What about planting a bush of their favourite flowers in the garden bab? Or a yellow rose bush, apparently yellow roses mean "Bright, cheerful and joyful are what come to mind when thinking of a yellow rose. Yellow roses create warm feelings and provide happiness. Giving yellow roses can tell someone the joy they bring you and the friendship you share." so you can plant these in memories of all the happy memories and all the joyful times?

You could spend the day doing some things they loves? Even if it's just watching their favourite movie or cooking their favourite meal.

There is a thing called flying wish paper. You get the same effect of the floating and you can light them. They leave little ash cause it's special paper and you can write a note on them. Creates a nice symbolic way of saying what you want to a loved one.

What about a book? Get a real pretty fancy book, and have everyone create a sort of scrapbook, writing on paper and drawing things and gluing things in. That way each year you can also read back and remember. <3

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High-Class-Trash Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I thought about that, I mean my mum used to always buy me freesias (their favourite flower) and i had a little set up for the person with the small bunch of flowers and the note i wrote to be read at their funeral (well the draft). I've looked into getting more freesias or putting them in the garden but alas i cant find stuff for it ;-;

I've looked into flying wish paper when i read this! I really like that idea but unfortunately i can't get hold of any before saturday (when we need it)
i've bought it up with my mum and told her my balloon issue, i've thrown it as a suggestion for next years celebration. I think it'll be a really nice way and I think it's what i'm going to do ..convincing everyone else could be ..different.

That's really sweet, im just really nervous doing things that invlove me talking to other people ..or getting them involved.
It gives me a big nervous.

thanks for the ideas, it really helped :heart:
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EmotionalMuffin Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
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mothquake Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Things I've done is make a small area dedicated to them, like on the top of a short bookshelf (that way it's visible without having to stand on top of something). It is very similar to how the Japanese will make a shrine (though usually, it is parents who make shrines for a lost child). Usually, things that defined them; items they liked, a picture of them, and in my case, two candles and/or a small incense burner. Oil diffusers work too; anything that provides a scent imo.

For example, when I lost my cat years back, I bought a small cat statue and put it on the box with his ashes, and then i put his collar in front of the box on my dresser next to my bed in my room. I also kept the small note the crematorium left, and then one of his little mouse toys. A lot of people believe that doing something like this, even if it isn't at the sight of where the person/animal the shrine is made for passed, any message/thought/prayer would reach them wherever they may be, according to one's spiritual belief. With the shrine, you can always leave the note there. Some people like to take a wooden box and cut a hole in it, so that you can drop a note in (granted, it would have to be emptied now and then depending on the note's size and box's size).

I hope this helps! :huggle:
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High-Class-Trash Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This is a really nice idea and I've actually started looking into it a lot more already!
I think it sounds like a really sweet way of keeping them close and i guess reassuring yourself a lot more to with them there, giving you a get away space to be with said person, as well as getting to remember them.

I do really appreciate the idea and it really helped a lot, gave me some things to think about 
so thank you :heart:  
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mothquake Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm happy to help! <3 
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