All living things are biologically programed to survive. As humans, our survival is utterly dependent upon our parents. This dependance will last well beyond a decade. The vital importance of this attachment cannot be trivialized. To your child, on a sub-conscious biological as well as literal level, you are the only thing protecting him from certain death. When you spank, yell, threaten, intimidate and punish a child, you are fracturing this bond. These common disciplinary methods imbed the terrifying fear of utter abandonment and imminent death into a developing brain. A child's brain cannot conceive of a naturally occurring death.

At the very root of our identity, the foundation of our personalities, is our addiction to the fantasy that we serve virtue and fight evil. This is the foundation of all religions, all political systems, the military, the police, patriotism, countless books, movies, and stories. People spank their children because they believe that they are serving virtue and fighting evil. When you put forward an argument that reverses any of these foundational beliefs, people feel as if the very essence of their personality is being dismembered. You are radically disassembling what they consider their soul. They will react with ferocity. You are ask

When you see yourself as a victim, you give yourself permission for shocking levels of aggression. You will spend more time victimizing others, then ever being victimized yourself. The greater the gap between self perception and reality, the more aggression is unleashed on those who point it out. If you are self deluded, you will only associate with those who reinforce your delusions, and those whom you can maintain power over. If this describes a parent, you become a canyon wall, echoing back the delusion to avoid the wrath of exposing it. Even if you have truly been victimized, you cannot allow that to define you. The only relations