All MSM want the people to lose hope. The MSM and big tech and orgs HATE the people who feed them. They want total control - and the MSM are funded to support them. Globalists support both. Since 2016 the people (and as I keep saying the real people) voted to take away the complete control and the blind robbing from the establishments and leaders of our nations: and they got the biggest hump imaginable, and so set out on this crusade of the past 4-5-years, to teach us the people as lesson. Answer: stop feeding the blood-suckers.
I already knew I had trust issues, don't need an internet quiz to tell me that(being promised false hopes that never come true and never really finding anyone truly relatable will do that to you.) Likewise, I already knew I'm not cut out for living with others, unless it's isolated from each other in separate rooms most of the day.
I'm well aware a number of perceptions I hold aren't orthodox, and can often be abrasive to current trends, thus I prefer to be avoidant rather than risk upsetting people. It's kind of lonely as a result, as few others really "mesh" well with me. Short of living in denial of who I really am and what I really feel, this is how it's always going to be. Better to accept it and move on sooner than later.
I know real trust is rare and hard to find. Nobody talks of "loyalty" nowadays.
But if I can't trust anyone, I gotta counter that somehow.... I can't just STOP. I can't just not share info, not try to get contacts, not have projects and will to take on the adventure....Just because people be egoistic and ignorant.
So the pattern is easy : I give blind trust and let you try using me. See where you'd lead me if you have the lead.
If it turns out I can't trust you, I'll trust myself more. And let myself become arrogant in response to your bad reactions. If someone risks trying to hurt me, I'll just trust myself more to react in such ways to prevent it.
If someone risks stealing / betraying , I'll trust myself to be careful to that and not give too much info. If someone is too vicious and shady, risking to make bad plans for me in the back of their mind, I'll trust myself more to lay down tests and corner them when it matters most.
In such way, I can live life...open-up to people in controlled patterns and keep a satisfactory level of honesty.
When things smell like shit....well I'll deal with that WHEN it starts smelling.
thought google were douches for awhile now... got this charts.idrlabs.com/graphic/dif… appears I'm Callousness and Suspicion mostly. granted if the non childhood trauma version of myself existed to take this the results could be different...
in truth, anything can be addicted and anything can be addicting that's why we apply moderation, or suppose to.
I wasn't able to survive the video, the dude was beyond douche. but a lot of countries have moved away from daughters as cattle and trying to keep the peace between neighboring kingdoms, etc. so, we try to find that perfect match only to realize there's no such thing as perfection. instead of a quick marriage, get to know your partner you want to settle down with. similar interests and so forth. if not, once the chemicals wear off, sitting in awkward silence isn't going to save the relationship...
I think the Agression one is kinda dubious, because it don't separate frustration from aggression, I tends to be over turn by Frustation over things or people, but otherwise not agressive, more sensitive. I mean look of things being easy walked over in barely existing Dominance section. Because if it did ask how much I can fill in conversation, it is a lot.
Yeah I guess it's true. I'm a bad teacher and I don't have a lot of patience. I'm not really a people person, even though I do want those interactions from time to time I still value my alone time. I definitely hold grudges and find it hard to forgive people too.
yeah but it can be smart to be prudent with whom you choose to forgive. some people take forgiveness as a sign of weakness or like an invitation to use your kindness and walk all over you. being more careful can keep you safe from situations where those types of people can take advantage of you.
He's a philosopher with (as far as I can tell) no background in psychology nor behavioural sciences (definitely not in marriage/couples/relationship therapy or counselling), so honestly have no idea who decided he should give this sort of talk at all... There should be plenty more credible and knowledgeable people who could give more informative and valuable lecture on the topic/subject than he did.
If he's talking purely from a philosophical point of view (which it didn't really seem like he was, though I didn't bother watching all of it), I'd potentially bother listening to more of his perspective/ideas.
Doesn't particularly seem like a sociopath, just a romanticist who is trying to capitalise on some poetic idea(s) and beyond basic "psychology" and sell it to gullible/desperate for love/lonely people. Perhaps a wannabe lifecoach/guru