Stop Distracting Me
Our Life is a responsibility. Other's lives are just as important as our own. We are always growing and learning if we want to. Being our best selves should be an everyday goal. Helping others is, as Lahcene Ouled Moussa (Coursera Mentor) put it " our homework".
Here is an assignment to work on:
Think about the range of emotions you have on a daily basis, even through out your life. (happy, sad, anger, jealousy, fear, etc) Think about the things you do for others and feel unappreciated. Think about things that you do and feel rewarded. Think about where others have said or done things to hurt you and then consider the reverse. Think about how you want others to treat you when you need help. Just theses thoughts should help us to understand how we should treat each other better. Treat people how you want to be treated. It's simple - if you know how you should be treated. Sometimes we don't. Sometimes we don't take a moment to know ourselves, to face ourselves, to get control of ourselves. Then it is too late. We are constantly distracting ourselves or allowing others and situations to distract us from important things in life. Time has run out for that.
What distracts you when you are trying to get something done?
When you are trying to do your homework, get a project done, or figure your bills?
When you are trying to solve a problem or even find yourself?
It seems like you are working with one issue and then here comes another, and another; one after another leaving no room or time to be still, be quiet, focus.
What is that? Why is that?
How much do we allow to happen. allowing ourselves to become distracted instead of focusing on what and who we are supposed to be. I think this is how we are so easily lead into other things - more distractions that keep us from focusing n the real issues at hand. What are the real issues homework, work, religion, politics, ourselves? What makes or leads us to our life purpose or just understanding life?Life is to short to be distracted.
What are distractions?
They are or can be any problems, issues, the noise of life we drown out with music, games, movies, drinking, drugs,partying, sex, everything but - quiet. I'm not at all saying that these things aren't great and satisfying when done with control, in moderation, and with the right spirit. Without control, moderation, and the spirit they can lead us to those moments of being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
How do we get more in sync
with life? The things that we see as our blessings or being at the right place right time. I'll call it: "Right place - Right mind."
People do find peace even in tragic times, our resilience as humans is amazing especially we we come together like at any disaster any where no matter what the problem at that one moment people come together and focus, become in sync - as one, and solve the problem them find a peace a greatness from the higher authority that saw them through.
Then somehow after the band of togetherness ends...we go back to being distracted.
Life is hard. It is hard to focus. Most of us stay in negative thoughts. It's hard to find a quiet happy place when your mind is constantly reminding you of the problems you have not solved in your life or even in the world around you.
In the beginning, its hard. There is a lot of noise in our heads. We have so many distractions , like garbage, it has piled up. Sometimes we don't even want to hear the noise we put there. Things we've done wrong to ourselves, to others, Unsolved problems, nagging, we want to be free of it! But how can we be free if we refuse to face the noise - which is us - our problems - ourselves. Distractions and noise are not freeing! Being willing to get quiet and face them is.
The noise is so great you have to sort through slowly one issue at a time. You have to pull the issues out little by little. It is a challenge and sorry millennials, it does take time...there is n app for it...yet.
The best I can do is share this - which was taught to me but it works ...when I'm NOT DISTRACTED.
I find a quiet place. In the morning, at night in, what ever fits your needs. The point is quiet. - before the bill collectors start calling, before the kids are up, before your friends come to escort you to that great party - where you might meet - The One! Before you get lost in the world of Nintendo....The is no age on meditation. And it is not just sitting with your legs crossed going "OOOOMMMMM!!!".
Make a note. What is the issue? Why is it? What have you tried to solve it? What more can you do about it? Can you work on it alone? Do you need help? Do you need help? Yes, I repeated purposely...DO YOU NEED HELP!!!? Don't be afraid to reach out. "No man is an island entire of itself."(John Donne
Be honest, face your fear.
Which of the ones can you change, fix, help, solve? Which can you not? How can you remove the negative thoughts surrounding the issues so you can face the reality of what you sowed and what you reap...
There is nothing wrong with taking a moment to count your blessings. (good things that have happen to you, around, or to those you love) It could be small. "I am thankful I found that piece of gum in my purse before I talked with the lady on the bus." Or "I'm thankful I had a piece of gum to offer that lady when she started talking to me on the bus."
It could be more serious.
"Thank you for not letting that car hit me." or "Thank you for letting my friend not drive drunk."
It could even dire.
"My mom has cancer...but they caught it before it was too late." (this one is true for me) and "Thank you for helping me to take getting myself checked out more seriously".
Blessings come in all sizes and shapes... funny once you start counting, it's hard to stop.
When you pause from counting your blessing, I say pause, its never ending... sit with that gratitude, serenity, and peacefulness you hopefully feel. Hopefully you are now connected with the peaceful energy inside of yourself.
Give yourself that moment to hear that inner voice to guide you in the right direction. to solve problems, answer questions, understand yourself and others, - feel love. Be still. Be quiet.
Maybe that was helpful. Maybe it was not. again ...do you need help? Do not be afraid to reach out.
And we as people to can help each other sort through these with communication with someone you trust. I said sort not add more distractions. Have you ever tried to work on something and that friend comes in knowing you are trying to focus on a better you and says ...
"Hey lets go out and party!", "I got a new game!", "The Kardashian's are on"... "You need to try this or that" (alcohol/drugs). Turn on the music, TV, coax with word, set the goodie tray out in front of you...You know what I mean.
'm not saying dwell on your problems all day and all night and don't enjoy what makes you happy and FREE, but make some quiet time to work on your issues. Distractions will not solve them. It's like dust, it naturally accumulated so why would you bring your "Welcome" mat inside and shake it out. You already have dust - natural dust...leave the rest outside.
Make time to leave the extra distractions outside of you. There are plenty of distractions in the world...(war, poverty, racism, sexism etc.). You alone may not end them; you can always help.
You can work on you
... no one can stop you from that. And you can work on you alone, but you don't have to.
We tend to stop ourselves, distract ourselves, allow others to distract us too. We all have a purpose for our lives.
Help your self to find it.
Be quiet a moment...and if others can make the time to focus on what hey need to do or get done to improve their lives, do better, live free, find a happy place, find peace, make peace, live with purpose....
why aren't you?! Why don't we? And why don't I?
Know better, do better, be better! Stop being distracted in life and don't be a distraction in other's lives.
Life is too short to be distracted.
Find your sync.
I am grateful for all the people in my life that have helped me to come where I am now. Although I remain a work in progress and have "miles to go before I sleep" (Robert Frost),... I will continue moving forward even if at times it feels as if I go two steps forward and take one back. I hope I have give something, even one word, to help someone here to do the same.
Footprints in the Sand
The Serenity Prayer
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