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Journal Entry: Sat Sep 15, 2012, 4:13 AM
eeeeeeeeeep sorry I basically died on you guys :iconuu-plz:
I'm still alive :iconlazywaveplz: sorta...
It's just that I've been having some irl problems as;dkjf;jf</3 You don't have to read if you don't want too ^^" you are definitely not obligated to do so haha.
Anyways, one of the problems I've been having includes me breaking up with my boyfriend... a;skdfj;a s-sorry to bore you guys with petty problems like these//slapped
But I guess that's actually not the worst part ; o ; the worst part is that I bump into him everyday numerous amounts of times because my school is so small and I don't know how to act when I see him. Because I'm actually a person that's easily embarrassed, I try to avoid all eye contact and stuff with him, except it makes me feel like a jerk :c When I asked my friend the same question, he replied "Just wave to him and smile."
...t-that's actually a lot harder than it sounds orz;; Do you guys have any advice on how I should act when I see him? a;fdskj;f
Also, do you guys believe in "just being friends with an ex"?
AHAS;LDKFJA;DFA;DSK;A S-SUCH MEANINGLESS QUESTIONS SORRY TO BOTHER YOU GUYS AMG. my feelings are all over the place these days, especially since I haven't been able to talk to you guys as much or even draw Q OQQ and thank you to my new watchers ; v ; I'm forever grateful ♥♥♥
a-and onto a bit of happier stuffs, if you choose to, you can comment on your favorite fandom/pairings from anime/manga ; v ; I-I'm in the mood to draw a bit of fanart ahaha q v q
Stay healthy and safe everyone and thank youu♥


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alicenpai Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
A-ahh I hope you will feel better soon! Fae, you've been so kind to me; you're a beautiful person; keep your head high :iconplzhug:
I wish I could help you better. ; u ; I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never been hurt like you have, but I have been hurt by others before, and I know the pain will eventually subside, even if it will never completely disappear. And through all this, you'll become a stronger person, because I know you will; because I know I have. u wu
//HIDES BECAUSE OMG I SOUND SO CHEESY BUT I MEANT EVERYTHING I SAID (((┏(; ̄▽ ̄)┛
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 25, 2012
uwahhhh thank you so much Alice<3333 * 7 * a;kljdfsaljf;adf;ajf;
ahh such a late reply OTL :iconmanweepplz: this was buried at the back of my inbox a;fkdljs;//slapped
and awwww thank you so much ; U ; your words have been one of the nicest I've heard<333 I feel much better now, thank you :iconaawplz: <33333 * v * you are truly too sweet as;lfkjda;f //clings onto you forever♥
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alicenpai Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Uguuuuuu fae :iconuguufaceplz:
I'm so glad you feel better ; u ;
i see myself as a the opposite of a helpful or sweet person -- im so neutral orz -- but hearing that I am means a lot to me <333 thank you fae ;///v///;
/clings to you more hnnnnngh
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wafflemel Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Hobbyist
MASSIVE SOBBU
AKJSDHKAJS AMMG MY FAEFAE IS HURTING :iconallmytearplz:
I SHALL KISS YOUR KOKORO ALL BETTER ////TEARSSTREAM
ASKJDHAKSJ <33
Ahh, I would say give it time and go at your own pace! ;A; I always believe everything will turn out fine as long as one has good intentions and eventually gathers enough courage to make it right over time ~ Don't push yourself right now and let things flow! KJASKJDH AMG I KNOW RIGHT SOBBING, SMILING AND WAVING IS SO HARD WHETHER IT BE CRUSH OF EX OR ELDER AKSHDCGFDFGJHKAJDSHA
A NOD OR TILT OF HEAD WORKS TOO ;A; AKSJDFGHFJGHJ //the inexperienced sad waffle //weepweep
Hope you are well ;A; <33

AMG DON'T FEEL OBLIGED TO REPLY TO THIS WALL SPAM OF TEXT
//FLEES
RABBU YOU
<3
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2012
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEIIIIIIII;;; MEL Q O QQ
AHHHHH OF COURSE I'M OBLIGED TO REPLY TO THIS BEAUTIFURU WALL SPAM UHUHUHU >/////U/////<
and thank you so much for your kind words bby
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ahh a;sdfka;afja;<333333333333333333333333333 I'm much better now, thank you
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let me take you home with me Q n Q a;sdljfk;j//steals you
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sakuracaramel Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
slfjsdlfkjsd faechan ; A;
i think it really just depends on you, i don't think you should
force yourself to talk to him if you can't, i think you should wait and see
if time changes how you feel ; u; // if that makes sense at all // sorry i don't have
any experiences with boys /shot ok i'll leave now :iconlazepoolplz:
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
eeeeeeeeeeeeeee sakura-chann♥♥♥
thank you so much ; v ; you really made me feel a lot better u///w///u
I'll act according to how I feel from now on; I won't let outside forces affect me too much :iconyea-plz: thank you bby<333333
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bunnychii Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
KAJHFLKJAH I'm sorry I've never had a relationship so I can't help you that much :iconpapmingplz: but gl ;___;
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
ahhhh it's okay bunny♥♥♥ thank you for your sweet words :iconsweethugplz:
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bunnychii Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
; u ; :iconsupertighthugplz:
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Yumichan216 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Aw, I don't know QAQ I'm would be one of those awkward people too XD but I really hope you figure out something :huggle: ;u;
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awww thank you so much yumi-chan♥♥ :iconwipetearsplz: I hope I will too :iconsweethugplz:
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Yumichan216 Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome Fae-chan ;u; I'm sure you will :iconaawplz:
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Miumeii Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012   Traditional Artist
Awe well I'm sorry you had to go through that :iconuu-plz:

Things will get better, it just takes time. I'd just say for now don't try and think about him too much, I know you run into him but just see him as a stranger. Because letting him see you still have feelings kinda makes him the winner. Show him your strong, and show him what he is missing.

As for being friends with your ex, it's all personal preference. If you want to be friends with him you go ahead. But I found it very hard to be friends with some of my ex's.
It's awkward, feelings seem to creep on you even though you try to control them, and every other thing like remembering your relationship and when the ex is in a new relationship you can't help but wish bad things. (well at least I have)

I hope you feel better soon huni ♥
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
:iconuu-plz: t-thank you so much for your advice and kind words ;///v///;
;asdkjf;jf;afdj;fkk ahhhh I really feel a lot better after reading your message Q v Q thank you so much ♥♥ I'll try to stay strong :'>
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Miumeii Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012   Traditional Artist
:iconyuiglompplz:.........yay!! you do your best

If you ever need to talk, I'm here ♥
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HyIia Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student
O-OH MY GOODNESS ASKDFJAS Q A QQQ I-I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS

BUT WAAHHHA SDFKASDJFASDFJ PAPANEECHAN HOPES YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, FAE IMOUTO ASDFJASD SOBSJAKSDFJASDKFASDF
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
AHHHHH P-PAPANEECHANNN Q OQQQ THANK YOUU A;SDKJFF; :iconduckyrunplz:
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HoneyMochaCat Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I believe in being friends with an ex :) It'll come pretty naturally if you were friends for a long time before dating but if not, it'll come just as naturally after you start to move on a little.
I wish you luck in this :) I'm going through a similar (not exactly but close enough that I know your feelings) situation right now so I know how you feel. Cry a little, eat some chocolate, get some well-deserved rest, and when you wake up, I promise that you'll feel loads better. Not enough that all your troubles will be over, but enough that you can start down the path to end your troubles. Once again, good luck! :D
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awwwww I hope that he and I can become friends one day, although it's probably very unlikely given our personalities :iconwipetearsplz: thank you for your advice though! You are too sweet :iconsweethugplz:
and aawwwwww :c I hope everything works out for you :\ I wish the best for you as well bby ^^ ♥
Thanks again for your kind words ; v ;
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HoneyMochaCat Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I hope so too! It can be hard but I think it's kind of worth it in the end.
You're very welcome >w< Anytime~
Thank you! I think everything's starting to slowly fall back into place. By the end of the week it should all be normal again.
You're very welcome! Best of luck to you!
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zemimsky Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
:cuddle: sorry to hear that but if you needed to move on - you did the right thing! The only thing I can suggest is to see him as a stranger. Try to forget or go above the fact that he was your boyfriend and greet him like a distant friend or an acquaintance - with time it will be easier of course ;)
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awww thank you! c: I'll definitely keep your advice in mind ^//////^
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zemimsky Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
;) and don't forget it WILL take some time to get accustomed ;) let your emotions flow for the moment, if you hold them, it'll take even longer
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Blackfoot98 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm gonna be forever alone :iconcryforeverplz:. I don't have any tips, Fae-chan, I sorry~
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awwwww it's okay bby <333 Q v Q knowing you're here for me is already more than enough u///v///u
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Blackfoot98 Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
hhnnggg thanks fae~~ we'll find someone eventually :iconlazycryplz:
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Pekobell Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student General Artist
;___; Im sorry I can't help you because I have no experience :iconcraiplz:

Hope u feel better though <3
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awwwwww thank you pabu♥♥♥ Q o Q
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Pekobell Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2012  Student General Artist
welcome fae~ <333
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MeitanteiChaos Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student Writer
DDD: i'd like to help, but i can't, because i've never had a boyfriend before..... ;A; sorry. :iconduckyrunplz:

i hope you feel better. :iconderpcraiplz:

*is no help at all*

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:tighthug:


oh, and my favorite pairing is shinichiXran *coughcoughnooneknowswhoi'mtalkingaboutcoughcough*
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
ahhhhh it's ok, your words have made me feel so much better already eeeeee♥♥
Just knowing you took your time to write this has made me feel 10000000000000000000000x happier already :iconcutiesmileplz:
and ohhhh you mean from detective conan? :'D
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MeitanteiChaos Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2012  Student Writer
^^ yay~ i'm glad~~~

yes... >3>
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yuuike Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student Digital Artist
:iconsoemotionalplz:OMG THAT'S TERRIBLE!!!!!:iconcraiplz:Are you alright darling???

I'm sorry I haven't broke up with anyone so I don't have much experience to share with you...however, just try to distract yourself with things like drawing, homework, shopping with friends, etc. and soon you'll probably be able to forget him:iconkanocryplz:.....

:iconrazycryplz:Srry if that was no help at all.......
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
ahhhh yes I've better now :iconwipetearsplz: thank you! ♥
and eeeee distractions will be easy :iconlazepoolplz: I-I am practically buried in homework >///<
Thank you so much for your help Q v Q you were very helpful bby a;asfd;lkfj :iconsweethugplz:
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yuuike Featured By Owner Sep 20, 2012  Student Digital Artist
R-really...?; w ;

I hope i actually did.....but don't worry bby we're all here for you:iconcraiplz:~:heart:!!!
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Iiwi Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student General Artist
It's going to be a slow but steady process, You have to let it naturally heal itself and to not force it to heal, or try to suppress your emotions, It's going to hurt, your going to feel sad but you have to look it in the face and stand up to it everyday. Don't give him power by looking down, or taking your power away over how your overall feeling about yourself. Feel good about yourself, give him eye contact, why should you be ashamed and have to stare at the ground while he gets to be fine.

Cry if you need to, write letters you want to send to them and then burn them, or throw them away that actually releaves alot of stress. It's going to take you time to work up to the moment of waving back and smiling but you can do it. It is WAYYY harder then it sounds, trust me I know. How you should act when you see him is like how your friend said, just wave and smile, just like he was a normal person because he is now. He's a stranger to you now, your not lovers and your not friends so your perfect strangers. but yeah in regards to how you should act, you never let exs see you sweat ever.

Sometimes, friends with an ex, works and doesn't in cases because the ex's usually try to weasel there way in at some different point in time, or keep you as your side for later on, but like I said that always doesn't happen, but your not really going to be friends with your ex either, you guys can't really become friends because you've dated and fell so deep so you won't be friends, and you won't be lovers so you'll be like....people that was trying to be friends but never quite made it or people that tried to be strangers but know each other a bit to well. It really all depends on both of you and how you both feel about being acquaintances because you guys really...well..you guys can become friends I think? However it will be really hard to because of the history.

I'm sad that this happened ; // v // ; I hope you start to feel better about the situation. //rubs back
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
uwahh ;//v//; that long comment a;sfja;fj; ah thank you so much for taking the time to write something so thoughtful ♥
and thank you for the great advice! I'll definitely keep what you said in mind. I won't let what has happened weaken me or bring me down. I'll have to be strong and move forward
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Thank you for making me realize this ; u ; words cannot describe how thankful I am right now for your words u///v///u
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Iiwi Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Student General Artist
Your very welcome, I am happy that you read what I said and will be strong and move forward, It's because I've been in that place where you are at, so I know and understand how your feeling just keep fighting ^^

;//x//; Wahh thank you for saying such sweet things, I am happy your thankful for my words, I didn't want to seem like I was lecturing or anything, I really wanted you to know that your worth much more so please don't think you aren't.
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Iiwi Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student General Artist
Oops I ment.
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AmiMochi Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I hope you will be alright ;w;
I want to help you but I never had any boyfriend so...:iconheleavesplz:
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
uwahh thank youu♥♥ you are too sweet for me aasdf;lkj;j ; v ;
and awwww haha, it's ok ^^ your kind words already made me feel a lot better :iconaawplz:
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nanakittie5490 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Professional General Artist
Well truth is that things won't magically get better but they will eventually get better. Now I'm going to be the bitch here and say that screw what your friend says you are absolutely entitled to feel as awkward and embarrassed as you want to be the only thing you should allow yourself to be is depressed about it. The only thing I think you should be is honest with yourself on how you feel about this also let things happen in their own pace, eventually you'll start to get to distracted with other part of your life that you won't really care when you see him. Every girl ( I think this is true for almost every girl in westernized societies.) has in one way shape or form gone through something like this maybe even exactly like this, so in truth you'll never be alone in this situation and you will always have people who will relate with you and have advice.
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
awwwww haha ; v ; I agree with what you said about my friend LOL. Guys think differently a lot of the times orz;; after what he said sunk in, I sort of went ":icondslapplz:" in my mind xDD
and awwwww thank you so much for your kind words Q v Q♥ I'll definitely keep your words in my heart ^^
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nanakittie5490 Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012  Professional General Artist
you're welcome and i hope everything get better for you! :tighthug:
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nanakittie5490 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Professional General Artist
correction * The only thing you sould never allow yourself to be is depressed. Crying is OK, wallowing not so much.

Good luck, my friend, and feel better. :D
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DolceCapella Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Hobbyist
i know how that feels, and i honestly have to say that i could not be 'just friends' with my ex, its far too awkward, and would probably take an awfully long time to feel normal. i dont know what my advice would be because i just kind of avoided my ex at all costs >.< not very helpful, sorry.
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fae-ru Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2012
ahhhh no no this was very helpful ; u ; thank you so much ♥♥
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DolceCapella Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2012  Hobbyist
really? well, no probs then >w<
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Luck04 Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2012  Student Digital Artist
hey hun, I was reading you journal and I though "Omg she is almost in the same situation as me"
My bf broke up with me, but I still love him with all of my heart :C he said we lost the "magic" *this just ripped my heart out*
it's hard... it's very hard. he studies next to my college, so I saw him 2 days ago.. with a girl
and he said "hi" to all my friends and just ignored me :C I cried all night long
and in the next day, he comes on skype and sent me a message saying bad things and this just.. I died
but I don't want to be friends with him.. this hurts more than anything! being friends of who you love.. who used to love you too...
so I don't know why you broke up, but sometimes it's better to wait.. if any of you still have feelings for each other, I think you should wait >< someday you will be just fine, and you will act normarlly near to him. it will be natural ;)
I hope it helped you D: broken hearts are hard to deal, but you will be ok <3
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