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sarahs0001's avatar
I know what you mean
like, as a life decision, waiting till marriage is the safest thing to do, but at the same time, there's so much that you're curious about and want to know what feels like
asphyx-iating's avatar
This was what my boyfriend could not understand
Lovespoon's avatar
Marriage is more complicated than just saving yourself sexually for it.

Knowing yourself is the key to marriage. Perhaps having sex generally helps us know ourselves better.

Denying sex and your need for it can be troublesome and lead to a knee-jerk reaction for marriage. A marriage just to get sex over with is not a good or healthy marriage.

titania86's avatar
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. When I was 19 (4 years ago), I knew I was ready and it was wonderful. We are definitely going to get married. You won't be less of a person if you don't wait until marriage. I have never regretted it.
truepenny's avatar
Well it's not supposed to be easy! But if you think it's worth it, it's worth it. Good luck!
cacophonyy's avatar
You don't have to save yourself for marriage, just save yourself for someone you want to do it with.
Cluisanna's avatar
I don't understand this. Why would someone do this if the marriage will probably last just two or three years? Have fun, dear. Don't listen to ancient rules.
caseykitten's avatar
argh i failed ><
carvingbackbone's avatar
dont give into satan. if the man you marry shares your same beliefs, imagine the discouragement for him knowing that you hadnt saved yourself for him
NekoChanPurr's avatar
I saved myself, and it was wonderful. :) I know its hard ST (i went out with my guy for about 8 yrs..) But you can do it if you really want to!
AmethystUnderwood's avatar
I saved myself... It was worth it. Just remember, there are a ton of other things you can do in the mean time... and every one of them is just as, if not more, intense.
Demented-Alchemist's avatar
Oh gosh, I know how you feel, ST. :heart: It's very hard, I know. But it'll be SO WORTH it at the end! I just know it will be. <3

To us, ST. We'll get what we deserve before long.
dcwalker's avatar
I'm doing that. It's not easy, but I believe it to be worth it. You are human, you're going to want sex. It's part of how we're made.
Crawling-meower's avatar
Yeah, i kinda messed that up. I thought i was saving myself for marriage, so i kept a wonderful relationship from crossing that line... then after it was over, i ended up sleeping with someone for whom i hadn't even half the feelings i had for Her. >_<Faaaail.
AcidicTastebuds's avatar
I'm the same, but the only thing that would probably stop me with my current boyfriend would be fear of pregnancy x] Well...maybe waiting a few years too. (I'm nearly 16 xD)
Pokemonlov3r's avatar
Im the same =] but it'll be worth it in the end! dont give in! =]
Senkyoka's avatar
I feel the same way. It's hard, isn't it. You're not the only one, take strength from that.
Jack-Lilac458's avatar
Crawling-meower's avatar
That's called masturbation, not sex.
Jack-Lilac458's avatar
Exactly. I was implying she use masturbation instead of sex. It's what you do to ease your sex drive?
Crawling-meower's avatar
I don't think her dilemma boils down to merely needing to "ease her drive".
Floofeh-Kitteh's avatar
It's not really the same as with another person. There's an element of the unknown, because you don't know what they're going to do, whereas you know what you will do.
Jack-Lilac458's avatar
that's why I prefer myself rather than someone else xD
papuruikazuchi's avatar
i say go ahead for it. Don't wanna wind up having sex for the first time with someone who's horrible at it and then wind up having to deal with it for the rest of however long you stay together.
Believe it or not, sex IS a part of marriage.
But I also say save it until that person seems like a really good candidate. Don't just throw yourself out there.
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